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It's really gonna happen

JayM

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I had a chat today, with my manager, and we're drawing up a plan of who to tell, how to tell them and when to tell them.

It's scarily daunting. It's not only the people I work with, such as my immediate team; it's the people I interact with or the people I see every day. Such as the woman in the restaurant who makes my hazelnut latte each morning, or the guy who delivers parcels to our desks, or the security guards at reception, or the cleaners. Those people don't know me but they see me and they talk to me and they think they know me - and they will be surprised (shocked?) by the upcoming name change. So I can't avoid telling them; not really.

The guy I sit next to... we're on a first name basis and I know he likes cycling and he knows I like cycling and we've had chats about the Tour de France and the Vuelta and the Giro... but that's about it. He knows nothing else about me. But I still have to tell him.

Everyone at work will know. And I mean everyone. As soon as my email address changes... well, everything changes. People I don't actually know will see my dead name disappear from the directory and a new name appear. And therefore I have to be prepared to receive enquiries and questions from a bunch of people who thought they knew me and a bunch of complete strangers too. And I'm talking about a company that has 100,000 employees.

Bring it on!!!

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eveannessant

eveannessant

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Glad that you've said "bring it on", I suspect that it'll be a lot easier and better than you imagine it might be.

Cheers,

Eve

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JayM

JayM

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It's either "bring it on" or I go and cower in a corner somewhere :) 

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eveannessant

eveannessant

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Yeah I know what you mean, I went through all this December 3rd last year, which funnily enough was 11 years to the day that I started with the Council as a H&S Advisor......... It was a lot easier than I had hoped for, I'm sure you'll find similar.

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Emma

Emma

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"It's scarily daunting." But, I imagine - and I admit, easy for me to say - also freeing, and a day of celebration. I hope you will make plans to go out with friends that evening and toast your courage to be who you are.  Personally, I admire and applaud you.  I hope you'll keep us informed and allow us to give you a standing ovation if only in spirit.  

Hugs,

Emma

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Chrissy

Chrissy

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I went through this at work over the summer and similar to Eve I found it much easier than expected, I hope your experience is likewise :)

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JayM

JayM

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Thanks for the support, guys - every little bit of it helps <3

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Steph53

Steph53

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Hiya Jay. I Am sure You will be Okay. It will be good to get things like name-changes sorted out at work. If People cannot accept You for who You are, then they are the one's with the problem's. Jay, You just hold Your head up high, and be Proud of Who You are. Those who matter, will support You, but, those who don't support You, don't matter. That is My Own theory anyway. Jay, Good Luck, Take Care, and My Very Best Wishes, Stephanie. xoxo 

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