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Last week I came home, get out of my car and my neighbor is with her sister. The sister lived here about five years ago and lived right next door to me while i prior to my transformation. 

So I chat with my neighbor and her sister doesn't say anything to me so I believe she does not approve of my transformation.

Today my neighbor informs me that her sister had no clue who I was and had asked her "what happen to Kevin", she replied "Karen was Kevin", her jaw dropped and responded with "I would had never guessed they were the same person". Then my neighbor told me about a year ago her husband and her were coming home, he says (pointing to me walking down the street) she is hot, she slaps him and says "do you know who that is?" before he could reply she explained things. She said that is why he had stopped saying good morning to me, he was embarrassed that he thought I was someone else. I told her he should not feel that way and next thing you know he started to say good morning again.

I find this all interesting that these things happen until I look at my old pictures from two years ago and my present appearance. 

One thing I always keep in mind is that one must first have some foundation in body and face for this to happen else facial surgery is required. I always can nit-pick myself thinking if I had this or that surgery I would look better but that time has gone, thirty years ago yes I would had some some of these surgeries but at just under 60 years old heck no.

Nail Salon today

So I went to get my nails filled, I got there 15 minutes early, said to one of the ladies, I need to use the restroom first. When I come out another worker said, "Karen, thought you were going in the back to get waxed" I said, the hairs on my leg don't grow anymore.

A customer, guessing well over sixty say "same here", another lady asked if I had been through menopause, you don't look that old.

Okay, quick thinking here, do I tell her about my past? Nope but when I blurt out my age out comes 50 then I stuttered...59. I am so use to telling new people I meet that I am 50 as when I tell them almost 60 we get into a conversation that I don't care to be in, Anyways what woman in her right mind tells her real age at my age?

So I use to get shellac which was $30, went to acrylic where the first time was $65 then $30. Today I was kind of shocked when the worker said twenty dollars for today, nice way to end the day :)  Acrylic is a great way to have french nails done and they are so much stronger then shellac. In the past two months I have not had any issues with acrylic while I did break a few nails with shellac.

 

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Emma

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Very pretty nails, Karen! I love how they look and I'll bet you feel marvelous when you notice them.

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eveannessant

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I had my nails gelled for months, but I have to warn that although at first I had beautiful girly nails, the continual coating of my nails eventually made them very weak, and ruined them, after a friends advice I then used OPI nail envy, (strengthener) for sensitive and peeling nails (the orange labelled one), well that initially helped, then it made my nails peel or de-laminate if your prefer, so I now don't put anything on my nails, they need a rest and fresh air.

Now if anyone else has a sure fire remedy for nice strong nails, I'd be very interested in trying it, but also very wary of it. 

 

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Briannah

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It is really easy to fool the brain through the eyes.  Some of us are more susceptible than others, like when we were watching the movie The Saint I think it was with Val Kilmer, who was playing some kind of spy or something (this was a while ago) and kept having dramatically different looks, in some scenes I couldn't pick out where he was hiding in the crowd until he did something to draw the attention even though he was one of my favorite actors. 

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KarenPayne

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Veronica,

Reminiscing back to when that picture was taken, I was hit on many times by men who had no clue to my true gender and the frustration came with that of not having female parts so that I might be able to engage physically with these men. Back then and that location was far from forgiving to trans people.  

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eveannessant

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I wondered who the photo was of ! You looked gorgeous! But where was the location that was so unforgiving, and is the location any more forgiving now?

 

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KarenPayne

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Eve, the picture was taken in the early eighties in Philadelphia Pennsylvania. I believe it's more forgiving now but not nearly as well as the West Coast where I reside now. Now in New York, not far from Pennsylvania they are very acceptive of trans people for the most part.

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Emma

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Jeez, Karen, you also can't sleep? Anyway, I also absolutely love your photo. You look delightful: very pretty and feminine.

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eveannessant

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Thanks for that info Karen, it's pretty much what I thought it'd be. I'll be sure to ask your advice if - no when!, I visit the US. I guess I'll need to keep clear of the "red neck" areas..........

But then there are areas in the UK where it's not as easy as others, generally most of the big cities are OK, but I'd not be so sure that going out to country farming areas would be so liberally minded, but then again I was ok on country walks up the Severn valley, but it's pretty much a tourist area, and a lot of city folks have moved there.

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KarenPayne

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Jeez, Karen, you also can't sleep? Anyway, I also absolutely love your photo. You look delightful: very pretty and feminine.

​Emma, thanks for the compliment. In regards to can't sleep, I am usually in bed by 7:30 on weekdays, at work by 5AM. It's simply how my body is, guess you could say I am a morning person :) 

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