I think we go through phases in life. Throughout my adult life I've been pretty outgoing and active, up until recently. I used to travel at least every other month. Lately I've lost the travel bug and prefer to stay closer to home. I used to thrive on adventure and adrenaline rushes. I no longer need all that. These days I prefer to stay home with my domestic partner and spend time with family and friends and the farm animals. I still have a social life but it is narrowing. I wonder if that will change or if this is the new normal for me. 

Your post made me think about how I would react if I lost my partner. It seems to me as long as you're not isolated and chronically sad and lonely that you're doing fine. It's definitely good that you have family and friends. Who knows, maybe a social opportunity will present itself at some point in the future. You just never know. Wishing you all the best. 

Dear MichelleLea and Lori,

Resonate with you both, as I desire to have a social life on my terms, not on the terms of others.

For example, my phone never rings from friends, only reminder calls from doctors! 😰 It wasn't always this way. When I lived in Florida, my phone rang off the hook almost constantly from friends, sometimes almost too much . . . I recall one friend that used to call me regularly at 3 A.M. and I had to ask her to call me at more decent hours!

Not sure if this is because Florida's culture is very different than upstate New York's or if that now I am 60, and back then I was in my 30's and 40's, or perhaps both! 😕

Miss my Beloved, a pre-op transwoman who identified as a fem Lesbian, but who is now in a happy relationship that I don't want to disturb.

Yours truly,

Monica

Thanks as always for your comments. I'm doing better today, and I have a busy week ahead. Tommorrow evening, I have another speed networking event with the Chamber of Commerce, so that will get me out of the house and out of my comfort zone. I giving a short presentation on team building which I found on Eric Barker's blog: Barking up the Wrong Tree. Good stuff. Wish me luck.

Dear MichelleLea,

Feel I am "barking up the wrong tree," in taking all kinds of classes in my building that I really don't need, but today my doctor says that's OK, because I am able to sit with my friends, doing something productive, that may not help me, but I may pass the information onto someone else. 😉

Your friend,

Monica

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