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I forgot

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By KarenPayne

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One of my Facebook friends is my daughter's best friend who posted that she closed the front door and the security latch got wedged into the door preventing it from opening and asked for help. Since I knew she lived closed by I replied with "I will help if you still need assistance". She gave me her address, five minutes from my home. Went over, I knocked on the front door and she came around from the back door. When she greeted me (she had not seen me in five years) no reactions or comments on my new look as female. Looked at the front door, figured out I needed to pry the door and by thinking ahead of time brought a pry-bar with me. Took two minutes to free the door then a minute to hammer a metal strip back into place. Turned to her and said "done", she thanked me and I left.

When I returned home she had sent me a private message

You look great by the way! I suppose I figured out what your trip to California was about and wow! Congrats on looking awesome!!

I guess she then scrolled through my Facebook notes and on one wrote

You are so beautiful. Really. Just so you know.

More validation for me. Perhaps this might nudge others down their chosen path of transitioning.

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    MonicaPz

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    Dear Karen,

    If I were her, I would have wrote it a little differently . . . you are beautiful, INSIDE AND OUT. You really have a beautiful heart . . .

    Yours truly,

    Monica

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    KarenPayne

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    Monica, I give her slack as she has POTS (Postural Orthostatic Tachycardia Syndrome).

    The funny thing is about two hours later she post a new problem with the door. I again offered assistance and fixed the problem. What was funny about it was I got the impression she simply wanted to talk to me and never once mentioned my transition but other things.

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    MonicaPz

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    Dear Karen,

    That's a good sign . . . she wants to talk to you as a fellow woman!

    Your friend,

    Monica

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    KarenPayne

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    Hi Monica, That is how I took it, no transitioning questions only chit-chat like two women talk.

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    Ronnie Virga

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    Karen,

    Great story. Still not getting the "forgot" part. Unless it's that you had not seen her since your procedure. I can understand why she appreciates you for you. She probably felt the same way about you when you were a "different" you than you are now? I'm just curious about what age this person is. My kids friends still refer to my wife and I as "mom & dad", even now that they are in they're early 30's. I suppose if they wanted to call us "mom & pseudo-mom" I could live with that! :)

    Veronica

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    KarenPayne

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    Hi Veronica,

    I am getting too old to remember these things :-) I believe I was referring to me not telling her I had transitioned. She is my daughter's age, 28 or 29.

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    Ronnie Virga

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    Hi Karen.

    Thanks for the feedback. 28/29?. I had the number 26 fixed in my brain. Just a guess. :)

    Veronica.

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    LovelyLisa

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    Karen, that is a really wonderful story!

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