General Transgender Discussion

:D I hope you had a wonderful day!!!! Love Kim

I might have to work in Vegas for two weeks and as a result I'm thinking all sorts of possible things to try. Chances are not much will come of this as my imagination is significantly larger than my courage. Still, I like the idea of doing a transgender makeover for a day or two once work is done. A few factors I need to take into account: 1. Vegas is somewhat familiar territory as I spent most of my teen years there (+20 years ago), 2. have no clue about transgender resources in the area, 3. parents still live there, they're elderly so I know where they won't be running into me, 4. limited budget, 5. interested in meeting other Ts (I'm not into fooling around so I'm …

Hi everyone, I was wondering if you have a highly feminine behavior in order to be tg? The reason i asked this is because i'm a young adult that has question my gender (MTF). I don't really do girlish things because i do karate, go to heavy metal concerts, and go deer hunting. However, i like to interact with women more than the men because i understand them better. I wanted a female physique since age 14 because i wanted to fit in with them. I tried on a bra it was awkward at first but then felt right. I never dress completely because i'm afraid of getting caught because i live with my mom. Is mid twenties too late to transition on hormones for decent results? D…

Hi Girls! This is my first time on this site. I've been wanting to share something with the transgender community that I have developed to address a restroom issue. In Minnesota, I'am allowed to use the restroom of the gender I present as. The problem is when doing so it takes some time and struggle to get ready to relieve myself. (urinary) Then all has to be put back into place, sometimes with long fingernails breaking off or parts getting pinched and scratched. I came up with a device that uses an external adhesive male catheter, a tight fitting pair of panties, (gaff) and a plastic tubing connector incorporated into a styrene plate. The plate is sewn into the crotch …

I didn't want to just intrude on Stella' post guilt of breaking up family so I just posted a new one. I heard that one of my neices encountered my ex the other day and that she was trying to find out things without actually asking her any direct questions. My niece knew what she was doing and just told her that if she had something to ask to ask.Apparently she's still hung up 3 years later.She asked my niece how my folks could support me in what I'm doing. My niece told her that we were a loving family,which really made me feel good. I told my mom she's probably upset because she lost her meal ticket.She was pretty lazy about doing anything.And as I told my mom awhil…

I would like to know how to get a prescription for hormones to transition. I have been giving it a lot of thought processing who I am day after day. I am a woman. It has taken me time to come out to myself, but I except myself for who I am. I am ready to take my first steps to transition and live as I truly am. Can anyone help?

What did you do today on your birthday? Hope it was a good one! -Love Kim :)

After a cursory search of the board, did not find anything addressing this issue -- if the women of one's family often get breast cancer, does that mean a mtf on hormones will also have a significantly greater chance of breast cancer as well? Is anyone aware of someone who transitioned and later developed (breast) cancer? MIWBJ

Hi everyone. Just found this site the other day. I'm mtf, began my transition 12/09 and things are finally starting to show. Just took the big step yesterday of telling HR at work. Not quite ready to have them go out and tell everyone just yet, but the times getting close. Anyways, I would love to meet other girls around the NYC area who would like to chat, maybe get together sometime etc. I'm a great listener and fairly bright (so i tell myself.)

i've heard about people cutting, but never "knew" anyone that cut until i started chatting with other TG/TS people, and "met" up with a transboy. before i stopped going to where we used to chat...i discovered there were about three young guys -all teens ranging in age from about 14 to 17- who admitted to cutting. but my little buddy was by far the worst. seems he actually set out to draw blood. it's my understanding that self-mutilation (not for purposes of body modification) is primarily a mechanism for coping with something else. allegedly, the pain keeps one's mind off the real problem. it got me to wondering if i fall in that category. i don't cut... never …

Hello All, Before I ramble, being this is about some events the past few days, I'm wondering if this is an OK place to post, or is there a more appropriate area? I've taken a few steps, it's a start. I spoke with a gg friend on Friday and laid out my closeted situation that is starting to bubble up and push the door slightly open. She was amazingly sympathetic and loved the idea of me dressing for Halloween. I suspect she might even offer to help with clothing and make-up! She also spoke in-depth about writing a letter to my partner and letting him know where I'm at. She also mentioned several things to say / do to help get him aboard, or at least not start negative…

Have any of you ladies ever went on to youtube to see all the transgender blogs there? It is amazing how much information about the trans community is on there. I use them as a resource for support, information and possibly guidance. I absolutely love it. It is fabulous to see all the information on the net.

I was curious if there might be any reverse couples on this board. For those that are confused a reverse couple is an FTM man and a MTF woman in a committed relation ship.

I've not posted much on the boards lately as life is getting busier all the time. My partner is working extra on weekends so I'm filling the 'housewife' role alot the past few weeks. Maybe I ought to get a French Maid outfit?? Work certainly isn't giving up on its' time demands either. So, with that said, while I'm not contributing much, visiting this message board is a good life-line from the near meaningless rat-race. Thank You all for being wondeful people. MIWBJ p.s., I'm hoping after the holidays things will slow down enough to participate more again. I even found the digital camera and hope to post a picture or two. I certainly could use some gentle c…

Hello, I hope you all are well. It's been awhile since posting. I've been reading the new postings every day however. Today is the first time I've dressed in a few months. The anti-anxiety medication I'm taking has reduced my 'need' but not my interest in dressing. (BTW, the meds were *not* intended to reduce this interest, I think my anxiety was driving me to find outlets of which this is one) Today while going back to drab before my partner comes home, I began wondering. Am I one of those people who sacrifice large amounts of their individuality to satisfy those around? I usually think of myself as easy to get along with, and willing to accomodate others to k…

i am doing a 4 page article on transgender issues i was asked to get quotes from trans people if you would like to add some quotes it wll remain anonymous it would be greatly appreciated

I was at the Goodwill Outlet Store last night again, and saw .. I'm not sure if they were a CD or a badly not-passing TS, but ... Just like the type of people that people are always mentioning on here as "probably shouldn't transition" -- probably 6'5", very masculine facial features, uhhh moderately functional fashion sense, totally unmasked male voice. The heartening thing is that there were quite a few people at that place last night and I didn't see anyone giving them a second look really. I mean geez... people are always worried about what will happen if someone reads them, but it makes me feel a lot better about trying even if I don't 100% succeed at first. (Sorr…

A few days ago, during conversation, I commented that it would be nice if my mum would accept that I am TS. I don't expect her to understand, just accept. Then I went on to say that no one can understand what it feels like to be TS - not unless the individual is him-/herself TS, or has deep issues or concerns about his/her gender, or is IS and discovering that whatever sex/gender doctors decided the child should be...turns out to be wrong. My conversational opponent got a bit jacked-up and said that I cannot say what people understand, and that I could not say what he understands - that it was insulting to him for me to say he could not understand. I insisted that he c…

Being unemployed, I sought medical care this month from the Veterans Administration. My intake involved a standard physical, the doctor checked and wrote scripts for the meds I've run out of. It's surprised me that some of them have already arrived in the mail and have refills for a full year! I asked about GID medical treatment. Unfortunately they do not do HRT much less SRS. However, they will support me while I take HRT from a private doctor with blood work, etc. However, they are aware of the Transgendered American Veterans Association and gave their card. (website -- www.tavausa.org) Because I am a depressive, they also got me a walk-in with the social work…

Well, I decided once again to make another phone call attempt with my sister, *sounds of the phone ringing* finally my sister picks up the phone, although I was waiting to be disappointed again to listen to her answer machine. Well Paula answered the phone, and we started the conversations, catching up. Not too long ago my sister had told me over the phones that one of my family relatives had passed away, and so I had questioned her back in the past about when the funeral date was going to be? Well the date came and has gone, without Paula notifying me to attend my uncle's funeral, perhaps she was.. nahh scratch that, I know my sister was embarrassed about my gender app…

I listened to a program on the internet talking about the popularity of Sarah Palin. When the people who like were asked what she stands for, the respondents were vague in their answers. When asked about what Palin would do on policies such as foreign policy, the respondents didn't have a clue. It's really sad that these people judged their love of Palin on peripheral qualities rather anything concrete or tangible. This parallels what most people understand about ENDA, gay marriage, and transgender identity. Political correctness is the rule of the day rather than critical thinking. What concerns me is that if, for example, the country was taken over by some power that…

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Most of you can probably identify with how well clothes fit when it is one size fits all. As often as I have been duped into believing this phrase, it continues to catch my attention. I am surprised at how often when I am reading the remarks online that I am drawn to the tempation of the transsexual progressive ladder that has been posted a few times on this site. And I can't help but feel inferior to the person who has gone "all the way" and even made it to being "stealth". Personally I don't want to be envious but sometimes I just can't help myself. On the other hand sometimes what I am reading from those who have completed transition I actually feel very sorr…

Some words seem to become difficult in a TG situation. I'm curious what substitution words people have developed to get around this. Good example: "wife". See, I started out saying "SO" partially because I didn't feel like exposing that detail at the time, but partially because it's an awkward sort of word to use. I somehow can't see a lesbian couple calling each other "wife" or even "husband" if one was really butch, unless they were doing it as a joke. I don't know, maybe they would? I guess if a lesbian couple did somehow manage to get married in the current political climate (Massachusetts and Canada excepted ) they'd probably be pretty proud of it. But what do …

Well.. I haven't been a fully active member here for a long while. Mostly because I reached a stage in my transition where I could be myself, so it was nice and I became comfortable and I didn't think about my problem so readily as to come here and share my thoughts. Of course, from time to time, however, I did drop in and say hello to you all. Post my thoughts on current topics and so on. However, my comfort has began, to in a way deteriorate. I suppose it is that same vicious cycle I talked of in an earlier reply of mine. The more I experienced, the more I wanted more. What I said was that, when I tried to be a girl as a boy. I found contentment in roleplay online. T…