General Transgender Discussion

I was going to save this for therapy Friday but I figure what the heck.. I wonder if anyone else has had this problem. I like to sift through my brain one grain of sand at a time (that's what it's made of mostly, I think ) and try to tease out tangled messes of emotions, find causes of problems to confront them, and so on. Well, I found a really interesting (and kind of embarrassing, shameful) thing about myself that explains a whole lot: I have a prejudice against trans people. Which means I have a prejudice against myself...! This can't be good. Maybe this merits some extra explanation too, before anyone thinks I dislike them or something. Basically I understand…

I'm sure many of you have seen or even participated in a "womanless" beauty pageant. The "femulate site" has many in depth looks at some of the best pageants. Just Google it and look around on the site. In addition have you've seen any of the Japanese TV shows that dress high school boys as real attractive girls? Very impressive! We will never see a TV show (no pun intended) in this country like it! You have to sort through the "not so good" with the American shows to find the contestants who have either worked hard at being a girl or have a lot of practice! Maybe Mom wanted a daughter? Well she got a pretty darn good looking son for these pageants. All of this brin…

Something just happened that I just had to post and tell everyone.My folks had gone to the store and when they got back my dad noticed he lost a ring I had given him years ago.I suggested calling the store just in case someone turned it in. My mom who really is an optimist and feels I'm a pessimist was the pessimist this time.She didn't think if someone found it that they would turn it in.I told her you never know.My dad tried to call but the phone was busy so he drove all the way back there. He went to the counter and enquired about it not really expecting anything but the lady behind the counter said that a lady had just turned a ring in knowing someone would be looki…

My wife reminds me every day of how she can't live up to the supposedly perfect models on Television and in the magazines. I feel there is a distinct connection between Transgender people especially those with a male body and bio XX women who have masculine features or are simply dealing with weight and other self-esteem issues. It seems that for most of us there is this super self-consciousness of what people will think. In fact even those thoughts are feminine aren't they. What types of positive thinking methods could we use to remind ourselves each day that it's fine to work at being beautiful but the real beauty comes from within and in accepting ourselves as we …

i am in voice training, i am intersex which may be the problem but every so oftern my voice slips from male to female, i always get the omg coment but i never seem to hear what my female voice sounds like nor do i know i even do it, sometimes my voice goes like mini mouse and will stick for several hours and as much as i try it wont budge ,does any one know why and what can i do to keep my fem voice and stop the high pitch squeel thank you stefanie

I am wondering how much feminization in your face occurred for transsexuals, especially those in their forties to fifties, using estrogen, without factoring in the use of feminine make-up. Was the feminization, if any, noticeable to you and others? I have not noticed any facial feminization purely from using hormones. Perhaps by belated start, at fifty-seven before beginning use of hormones, largely explains this.

Hello everyone. It's been along time since I wrote here,glad to see Iam still registered. In eary June of this year I had a stroke that has not left me paralyzed or impaired to a graet extent, thank God for that. My endrologist took me off of the estogen pills and placed me on the patch, which I am now on and also put me on cholesterole lowering medication. Has anyone had to deal with a situation like this? Some major life changes have occurred, like eating habits, more excercise, NO alcohol, ect. What can I expect from this and although no one can give a medical opinion, I'd like to know what people think. Jolene.

When I told my doctor he really didn't react at all,which was not what I expected. He referred me to the psychiatry department of Kaiser Permanente and apparently they have this thing were they schedule on the same day as you go in for evaluation, so I'm going next Friday.Does anybody have any experience with Kaiser and how they deal with transgender people.

well today I went to my Doctor and had a big talk to him about my feelings and how I am TG, and he said he was very happy for me that i've finally been able to tell him and he gave me a referal to a psychiatrist to go and see :-D :-D

January 6th I went full-time. It was seven years ago today. Quite a ride.

So how have all of you been? I told you all that I would post when my episode of "Sex Change Hospital" was going to air, but I don't know how many of you can view it in the U.S.- It is only airing in the U.K. right now, but there is a international presence on this board at times, so you never know... It is airing Wednesday, June 20th, 2007, at 10pm U.K. time on More4, the documentary channel for the U.K.'s Channel 4.... It WILL play in the U.S. sometime soon- here is a link, and yes, the camera does add 15 pounds! "Sex Change Hospital" Episode 4 AND, now I am living in Los Angeles- after surgery, it seemed like I was living in someone else's apartment, and wor…

Hi everyone. It has been a long time since I have posted here. As of tuesday my legal name change has been printed in a newpaper. I was almost moved to tears. Now I await my affidavit so that I may change my social security, I.D and all other documents. Also I am in grooming academy to become a petstylis. Everything is going well and I love how things are going. I have been full time since January, my name change is almost complete and I am embarking upon my first career. I feel so lucky and accomplished. Thank you all for listening. -Nikki

I've been thinking a lot about this topic lately, especially as I've been reading that Gender Outlaw book. It actually fills in a major hole for me in my understanding of the world around me, because people often tend to assume that I will want to take charge, go first, take the biggest portions, whatever; that their needs are submissive to mine. This always annoyed the living %@#%@ out of me, honestly. I used to be a pretty overbearing and selfish kid, but as I grew up I've tried to consciously shed most of that and think of the needs and feelings of others in anything I do. I don't always succeed, but I got to a point where I realized I was trampling on people occasion…

Do any of you workout? What are your work out routines like? Also, is there a way to work out to make your muscles smaller (I know, dumb question, but I had to ask)? The reason why I asked is because I have a muscled/athletic build. I'm 6ft, 160 lbs. Thanks for your time everyone.

Quite often, we "older ones," and those who've been down the transition road will advise people looking to begin their journey, or just questioning their gender, that they should seek out therapists experienced in gender identity, GID, and TG/TS issues. While this is very good advice, perhaps hearing it (reading it) from a therapist will drive the point home. I happened to run across a piece written by one, in which he wrote... Many of my clients both online and off have referred to me as a "friend" at some point in our work together. I cannot think of a better compliment. However, though I am a good guy and a good therapist, you certainly would not want to ask me fo…

Hi Everyone~ I have been seeing my trans therapist for about 2 months now, and she has recommended me for the transgender program here at the University of Michigan! Basically, she had to meet with me a few times, decide if I would be a good candidate then either a) present my case to the committee, and they would accept me (or not) or say she thought I'd need further assessing for consideration by one of the MD therapists on staff. Thankfully, she presented and the team is excited about having me as part of the program! Excitement number 2 is I have made an appointment for my well-care checkup, to see if I'm in shape to start T. Or if not, then what do I need to …

I am 6 ft and at 160 pounds. I was just wondering your folks sizes before you transitioned. Am I just to big to transition if it is what my heart desires. I ask because I do have a thin, muscular build. Thank you so much for your input. Bye Bye ^_^

Hello all! Well i'd like to first give a bit of background to the situation first then see what you guys/gals think. Several years ago when i was roughly 15 or so i decided i need to get my secret out about having issues about wearing womens clothes. I found it easier to tell my mom because she could take the news better and i feel more comfortable talking with women about that sort of thing. So i wrote a letter saying that i think i might be transsexual and about the fact that i had been wearing womens clothing in private since i was 4-5 years old. My mother took the news ok, at least to my face and didn't seem to have a problem. She did however question the whol…

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I know I am new here but after reading some of these posts I wonder how many others feel the same. As with my family and co workers they claim to be Religous and according to the Bible being gay or Trans is not Gods way and is a sin. First there are those who claim to be Religous but havent been to a church in years or maybe their whole life and those like my family who are very strict in their Religous beliefs and do go to church. Both these groups are quick to point a finger at some one and are predjuice towards anyone who is not like them. They hate people of color because they are not like them, they hate gays because they say it is a sin. Well I may be wrong, but doe…

I am a twenty-six year old transsexual male and as long as I can remember it has been an issue I've had to contend with. I sought guidance as a teenager with little to no avail and have tried to manage these emotions on my own but that has become increasingly more difficult as time wanes. I have no resources or advisers on the subject and don't want to do anything rash that might jeopardize my health or sanity. I am uninsured and was wondering if there were organizations or outreach programs that might help me find a professional I could consult with. Baring in mind I have very little income. This isn't a matter my family would embrace let alone accept so there's no h…

Hi all. Had an incident happen at work that at first ticked me off, but then made me very thankful that I work at a place that values the work I do. Had a co-worker start calling me 'it,' to a few people. A couple people that heard it, went to my boss and told him. Well, this co-worker got written up and was told, one more time, and he gets his walking papers. All I can say is...'yep', my hard work and honesty is starting to pay dividends! Hope everyone is staying cool!

Hey everybody! My name is Emily, and I got to university in the UK. I've been elected as one of the campaigns officers for my LGBTQ Association, and one of the issues that I would like to focus on throughout my term in office is trans representation. However, (possibly due to lack of campaigning/visibility within the association), there are no people who are openly trans who are willing to talk to us about the issues that they face and things that need to be changed. I suspect it's a vicious circle - people don't know that we represent them, or don't see anybody who is comfortable enough to talk about it, and so they don't come to us and work with us, so people don't …

Not sure if any of you deal with this. I have tried so many times to change things for the better. Big thing was in working to get the NH DMV to change policy. All to no avail. I am finding with all that....I am in a place now ...that...it takes everything inside of me , to step outside my own front door. So tired of dealing with, not being able to be me....no matter what I do. I just want to crawl into a hole and pull in the earth after me. I am just in a place where it takes all the strenght I have, to step outside my own door. That the only thing I look forward to is sleeping, because, there, I can dream.

Hi. I am new to the board and just wanted to say Hello. I am TG and don't see anyway to transition or "come out" with out hurting others. I am married and have two precious girls I couldn't bare to see hurt. I think one reason I got married was I thought it would "cure me". Ha. Before I got married I was under going electrolysis and working on my figure. I feel myself going back in time trying the same things "without electrolysis". DOES IT EVER END? I just wish I could atleast dress and lay back fem for one whole day. Seems impossible these days.