General Transgender Discussion

People here are always saying how badly transsexuals are portrayed on TV, but I don't think that's true at all...Last night I watched an episode of "The Jeffersons" where George meets up with his old navy buddy Eddie...only Eddie turned into Edie and became a woman...They got a really gorgeous, really feminine woman to play Edie and transsexualism was portrayed in a really nice way. Also, there's an episode of Just Shoot Me with a similar plot, where Finch meets up with his old guy friend who had a sex change played by Jenny McCarthey. And then he has sex with her in the end I think. And on Veronica Mars there was an episode where she helps a boy discover that his f…

I first came out to my parents as being Female when I was about 15, and what I expected to happen, happened. They told me that I was deceived by 'Satan' and should ask God for forgiveness of my sin. The fact that I cried for about an hour and a half didn't phase them at all. I've talked to them since then about it and they still refuse to accept me for I am. Quite recently I wanted to make myself a little happier, so I went out and purchased a whole bunch a girl clothes and other things. I made sure not to get anything over-feminine, like skirts or dresses. I just stuck with buying jeans and shirts so my parents wouldn't freak out on me. So, I got the clothes and summ…

We all know what gender we are,whether or not it fits into our particular bodies is a different matter..its a bit of a head game isnt it.But our sexual tastes can differ accordingly too.Which one of the following categories would you say you fit into best(the list is abbreviated before a median search can be defined). (a)totally heterosexual (b)hetero..but interested in bi sex ©hetero..definately bi (d)unconfirmed sexuality..probably bi (e)unconfirmed sexuality..probably gay (f)gay..but not out (g)gay..and out (h)trans..but not out (i)trans..and out I will publish the results here on this board after I have received your input. What do y…

So I am at work today, and a few people start to talk about Sen. Craig, and the whole airport bathroom occurance. There was a general level of disgust, that these things can go on in public bathrooms. I made the comment that I did not appreciate that sort of behavior, that I have a beloved 12 year old nephew who could be introduced to that nastyness and I would be really peeved about that. And, you know, the guys at work can't talk about this type of activity without a good chuckle. So the salesman at work says, when he was in Fort Wayne, he was warned of a public park, where this kind of lude behavior goes on all the time and he was warned to stay away from there. …

This is a complex topic to try to introduce in a succinct manner, so bear with me here. And yeah I have a point to get to below I'm pretty extremely dissociated at the moment, which means I feel like I have an inner "me" that's looking out through the eyes of my body-bot, so to speak. I think I've got a pretty weird view of the world from inside here. Most people are probably a little bit dissociated on a regular basis, but I've been a pretty extreme case from everything I can gather. I know another friend who's a lot like me on a lot of things (we're (including him) still not sure if he's a gay guy or a transwoman in denial really) including this one. We were discuss…

Hi, I'm new around here. Couldn't get the registration to work today so I've decided to work with a guest name for now. What I've seen around the TG community is that the majority are male to female, with intent to date other men (single, gay, TG, or whatever)... but I was wondering, is there anyone like me that feels like they're a woman on the inside (definitely not on the outside) that is only interested in straight or lesbian women? I haven't seen or heard of many people like that, and if so... it makes me wonder if there are any women that would take someone like me. Just curious and a little muddled. :P

This might sound odd but I need to find some answers. My husband has mentioned that he could be a transgender. He has felt like he is a female since he was about 7 or 8 years old. He dosen't relate to very many male things like sports or fishing or hunting. He says he loves me but his brain thinks female. He is in his late 40's says he is too old to hav the surgery even though he said as long as he is married he would not change his sex. He would only change if we separate. I love him and he loves me so that is not something to be considered. He used to be on this board 2 years ago we are now in thearpy and he tells me and his theaist that most of the things he sa…

For the women: Do you think more highly of women than most genetic women seem to? For the men: Do you share any misogynistic beliefs with genetic men? (I won't be offended if you say yes.) My answer: As many of you know, I'm a feminist. Even a lot of feminists consider me extreme. A few things that are true of me but not a lot of genetic women I know: My entire concept of politics revolves around how something affects women (that includes transwomen). I don't care all that much about many other issues. For me, the average person is a woman. When I picture a person, it's usually a woman unless something strongly suggests otherwise. Someone who is not obviousl…

As people who are often considered WAY OUTSIDE normal society (whatever normal is), a lot of us find ourselves rejected by the places of worship in which we grew up. I personally was kicked out of 3 different churches. And yet, as spiritual beings having a human experience, we have an inherent need to connect with others, as well as our concept of a Higher Power, at a deeply spiritual level. Cut off from our original source, we have to find new ways to feed our souls. Personally, I have managed to become a part of new communities where I can get real, share, listen, laugh, cry and ultimately grow. Some of these spiritual circles focus on a particular spiritual path, ot…

Hello Everyone, I am slowly moving through some external transitioning and I do not honestly know where I will end up. But As I change on the outside it is recorded in pictures. I like myself a lot better as I look now moving more from FTM. Lately I have been reacting in my head to older pictures of me that are much more female and I am having a hard time. I was wondering how people felt about old pictures of themselves before beginning to transition. Do you keep pictures? Did you burn them? Do you wipe out the fact that was you? Or have you found some way to keep your past? My gut wants to wipe it out. People I know from before can’t bear that I would wipe out…

I am looking for any insight that others might have. My partner is having a very hard time with my desire to transition. VERY HARD. She says she just can not see me as a man. She says that it is like me telling her the trees are red when she knows full well they are green. I feel like I am invisible. Like I keep trying to show her myself and she can not see or refuses to see. I have not worn women’s clothes in years and I have never liked wearing them. I have always been on the male end as far as interests. It is not like I am all of a sudden showing something that was totally hidden. I see that I am asking her to rearrange her own identity but she can not even accept my …

Hi GirlInside, I have seen by some of your posts that you knew, even at a relatively young age, that you would never be able to transition due to a masculine build. I was wondering, if that wasn't the case, if you just had an average build, do you think that you would transition? Or do you still think you would not maybe due to your voice or anything else that you think may cause a question from the public. And also, it's a pleasure to have you here, your posts are always well written and interesting! -Kim

My youngest daughter: "Why don't you leave your hair the way it is?,,, The silver looks so pretty." Uff dah!

Well, I'm new here, I'm neither MtF or FtM. Just a regular guy. I have no purpose here, but if nothing else, I'd love to learn, get to know and even be support for people here if that is possible. Even though I know nothing, I'm open to learn new things. I hope I am welcome here even though... And ignore the Username, I've used it for awhile now. It means nothing...

Sworn Virgins Would you give up sex for the rest of your life in order to be socially accepted as the gender of your choice? If you've already transitioned, would you have preferred to give up sex instead of transitioning if it could get you socially accepted as the gender of your choice?

I've got access to some very cheap clothes here, namely the Goodwill outlet store. $1 for a heavy piece is really not too bad, as a stress/anxiety reliever (it's sort of like the lottery -- fun to dig through the bins and grab stuff that might work out, imagine it one day working out...). I was buying some new socks and undies today (NOT at Goodwill ) and realized.. wow. I've got a lot of 'girl stuff' now. I wondered if I was anywhere near the quantity of old 'guy stuff'. I figured I must be getting close. So I started a tally. Let's just say the results surprised me a little. I left out specialized stuff like swim trunks and bike/hike clothes, and didn't include thin…

hey everyone, glad i found this forum,...and i sure hope i don't offend and can inddeed find answers to my question here. i am a good looking guy with a good job and a good heart and values. i am attracted to gg's as well as tg's....(absolutely NOT attracted to men or crossdressers at all!) i just love women and that little bit of genetalia hidden beneath panties is really of no import to me, its the mind, soul, and yes BODY AND FACE that attracts me to a 'woman'. I have dated many, many gg's and several tg's, and i'll admit i am choosey, i love a good looking together woman, call me shallow but i like liking what i wake up to and being sexually aroused by my pa…

Good Afternoon Everyone, How's everybody doing today? I've always considered myself a strong person but I'm really failing in the guilt department. I'm feeling so guilty that I didn't tell my wife my true feelings of wanting to be a girl 14 years ago. In fear of loosing her, I always told her it was crossdressing; which was wrong. How did anyone else in here deal with the guilt of breaking up your family over this? My wife and I have been trying to coexist for our children over the past 3 weeks, but it's just not working. Without our day to day love and affection we're used to giving each other; it seems to be more painful in coexisting than it would to be liv…

I read many posts relating to Gender Identity Disorder. And all of a sudden when I was reading a post today containing GID, i wondered, isn't it rather insulting that this is called a 'disorder'? When I hear the word disorder it conjures up things like 'bi-polar', or "panic disorder', or something like that. I think I may bum out if I was considered a disorder. Or maybe it just means that something went wrong somewhere and you are different. But different isnt a disorder, I don't know, maybe i'm thinking about it too much. I will go wash my dog now . -Kim

I was wondering if maybe anyone had some tips in this area. I can't afford electrolysis just yet, going to start that as soon as I can, but in the meantime I'm trying to find a way to hide it. I have very dark hair, brown but so dark it's almost black, with facial hair to match. It grows fast, unfortunately (hoping when I go on hormones in a few months it'll help alleviate that), but the main problem is that even when when I shave thoroughly and my skin feels smooth, there's still that shadow on my face that gives away that facial hair was once there. I've looked around for methods of hiding it, and all I've seen so far is one article that suggested pancake makeup...w…

I was curious who has deatlt with significant difficulty adjust to the realization that your attractions now make you a memebr of the gay or lesbian community?

Ok, this is apropos of probably nothing for anyone else, but I just had to post it before I burst... The other day I asked my wife if she'd pick me up some pink nail polish at the store while she was there. It's sort of funny because I figured going to the makeup section wouldn't be a big deal for her, but I think it made her as uncomfortable as it would me (in different ways). She's such a tomboy sometimes. I repaid her kindness with Paradise Bakery cookies though. I told her I didn't want to freak her out with it (she's still getting used to some things) so I said I'd just use it when she wasn't around and clean off my nails before she got home. But she has this …

At this point this point I've been on HRT for like a little more then 2 months and right now the only member of my family that knows I'm transgendered is my mom. It took her a while to get over the initial shock and everything. But she's dealing with it quite well, she doesn't like it but she doesn't try to get in my way or anything. I'm just worried about telling my other family members about me transitioning. My family is a bit on the religious conversative side I don't think the rest of them will take it that well though. :(

Hi there, Let's face it, we could all lose a few extra kilograms here and there... Everybody included, whether or not you be a man, woman, child, beast, etc, etc. Here's what i'm going to do.... I would like everybody who would like to join in here, put your name down, your current wieght, (no cheating you're only cheating yourself) and your realistic goal weight. I feel really strong about this and determined that i said to my wife that i would grow a beard until the goal wieght was acheived. However, that's not happening straight away... However i wouldn't rule it out. So as of the 7th of December 2007, I currently weigh 92kgs. My goal weight would be…

Hi Everyone, Has anyone used any over the counter herbal hormones? Do you think they are worth? Andrea MB