General Transgender Discussion

I'm sure that many mtfs here can get quite jealous seeing other girls just so happy and carefree with their bodies. I definately do, and it can get so bad that I have to turn away. However even worse is watching a girl on a date, or pdaing with her boyfriend in public. The pangs of jealousy I get are akin to rage. It's like the frustration of knowing that I've never been in her position, and probably will not for years builds up, and then rubbed in my face. It's horrible. It used to simply create misogynist feelings in myself, but now it's gotta be just crazy jealousy. Sounds silly, I know, but does anyone else have similar feelings?

Sworn Virgins Would you give up sex for the rest of your life in order to be socially accepted as the gender of your choice? If you've already transitioned, would you have preferred to give up sex instead of transitioning if it could get you socially accepted as the gender of your choice?

I've got access to some very cheap clothes here, namely the Goodwill outlet store. $1 for a heavy piece is really not too bad, as a stress/anxiety reliever (it's sort of like the lottery -- fun to dig through the bins and grab stuff that might work out, imagine it one day working out...). I was buying some new socks and undies today (NOT at Goodwill ) and realized.. wow. I've got a lot of 'girl stuff' now. I wondered if I was anywhere near the quantity of old 'guy stuff'. I figured I must be getting close. So I started a tally. Let's just say the results surprised me a little. I left out specialized stuff like swim trunks and bike/hike clothes, and didn't include thin…

At this point this point I've been on HRT for like a little more then 2 months and right now the only member of my family that knows I'm transgendered is my mom. It took her a while to get over the initial shock and everything. But she's dealing with it quite well, she doesn't like it but she doesn't try to get in my way or anything. I'm just worried about telling my other family members about me transitioning. My family is a bit on the religious conversative side I don't think the rest of them will take it that well though. :(

Hi. I have a question. I am very new to this. listen up. I have a friend who is a straight female she is dating a man for a year and they are deeply in love. her bf indicated to her that he has slept with transexual before close to 10 years ago and recently last year. he claims that he is completely straight - he only loves women. he said that the transexuals he did this with pass for women. if they looked a bit like men he would be turned off. he also said that he is completely comfortable with this masculinity. but he does not want to be in this life style. he feel as though he needs help. He said he would not have a serious relationship with these women.. ac…

I’ve had many occasions when I just thought, this is not going to be easy so I tried to go back and just be a male. I’ve spoken to several people who have had the similar doubt. Each time finding out the same thing, I can’t go back. I could fake it, but it doesn’t feel right. No matter how many times I’ve tried to put it out of my mind and out of my life I’m not even fooling myself. Therapy has helped a great deal and I know now that I’m on the right path and as hard as it may be I’m going to continue my journey. I suppose I just wanted others to know that this almost certainly happens to everyone and with time and help you’ll choose the appropriate path.

What level of stealth do you prefer? Do you wish that everyone thinks you were born as GG (for M2Fs)? Or do you not mind if your close friends know? Or maybe you like to broadcast to the world that you are TG? For me, my close friends started out thinking I was a normal male except for being an online crossdresser, so they already know, and the fact that they know doesn't bother me since they are very supportive. Many people aren't that open-minded, though. Many of them can be made open-minded by talking to them, although if they just think I'm GG and don't know any better, that's easier.

Hi there, Let's face it, we could all lose a few extra kilograms here and there... Everybody included, whether or not you be a man, woman, child, beast, etc, etc. Here's what i'm going to do.... I would like everybody who would like to join in here, put your name down, your current wieght, (no cheating you're only cheating yourself) and your realistic goal weight. I feel really strong about this and determined that i said to my wife that i would grow a beard until the goal wieght was acheived. However, that's not happening straight away... However i wouldn't rule it out. So as of the 7th of December 2007, I currently weigh 92kgs. My goal weight would be…

I read many posts relating to Gender Identity Disorder. And all of a sudden when I was reading a post today containing GID, i wondered, isn't it rather insulting that this is called a 'disorder'? When I hear the word disorder it conjures up things like 'bi-polar', or "panic disorder', or something like that. I think I may bum out if I was considered a disorder. Or maybe it just means that something went wrong somewhere and you are different. But different isnt a disorder, I don't know, maybe i'm thinking about it too much. I will go wash my dog now . -Kim

Hi GirlInside, I have seen by some of your posts that you knew, even at a relatively young age, that you would never be able to transition due to a masculine build. I was wondering, if that wasn't the case, if you just had an average build, do you think that you would transition? Or do you still think you would not maybe due to your voice or anything else that you think may cause a question from the public. And also, it's a pleasure to have you here, your posts are always well written and interesting! -Kim

I'm making this topic again -- I had it a few months ago, so I'm posting an update. Basically, I was asking about how long it should take to pass as I'd been on hormones for a year and I was still getting sir'd. My situation has not changed. I know I need FFS and whatnot, but since that's temporarily out of reach I'm asking for general advice on my every-day appearance. Here're some fairly recent pics: Yay for Halloween!! So, yeah... Any advice is appreciated, but if all you're gonna say is that my hair needs to grow, please come up with something else. Everyone tells me that but my hair grows really slowly... I can't help that. Iunno. …

So I am at work today, and a few people start to talk about Sen. Craig, and the whole airport bathroom occurance. There was a general level of disgust, that these things can go on in public bathrooms. I made the comment that I did not appreciate that sort of behavior, that I have a beloved 12 year old nephew who could be introduced to that nastyness and I would be really peeved about that. And, you know, the guys at work can't talk about this type of activity without a good chuckle. So the salesman at work says, when he was in Fort Wayne, he was warned of a public park, where this kind of lude behavior goes on all the time and he was warned to stay away from there. …

I was curious who has deatlt with significant difficulty adjust to the realization that your attractions now make you a memebr of the gay or lesbian community?

I'm not sure where to start so please bear with me. Since I can remember I have never been totally comfortable with being male. Most of the time I'm glad that I'm a man but yet I want to look somewhere in between a man and a woman. When I was younger I could pass fairly well and dressing up always made me feel stimulated and relaxed all at the same time. I'm 50 now, very young looking and I am married. My wife knows to some degree of what I am but she seems disinterested in it and perhaps threatened. She knows that I'm not gay. However, she has never been supportive of what I think is a need. This is going to get convoluted so I will try to have it make sense. …

We have many teddy bears and other stuffed animals. Until the last couple years, they usually stayed in the same places and I only occasionally picked any of them up. As my transsexual awareness and desires have intensified in the last couple years, I have become increasingly attached to my teddy bears and other stuffed animals. Maybe this is related to latent maternal instincts and needs or perhaps I am going through another childhood, anyway, I am quite attached to my teddy bears and other stuffed animals. I enjoy, as I never did before, holding and cuddling them. I also like having one of our stuffied animals often sleeping in bed with my wife and I.

hey everyone, glad i found this forum,...and i sure hope i don't offend and can inddeed find answers to my question here. i am a good looking guy with a good job and a good heart and values. i am attracted to gg's as well as tg's....(absolutely NOT attracted to men or crossdressers at all!) i just love women and that little bit of genetalia hidden beneath panties is really of no import to me, its the mind, soul, and yes BODY AND FACE that attracts me to a 'woman'. I have dated many, many gg's and several tg's, and i'll admit i am choosey, i love a good looking together woman, call me shallow but i like liking what i wake up to and being sexually aroused by my pa…

Is it possible for a teenager to recieve confidential transgender testing? Possibly through the school system?

This is a complex topic to try to introduce in a succinct manner, so bear with me here. And yeah I have a point to get to below I'm pretty extremely dissociated at the moment, which means I feel like I have an inner "me" that's looking out through the eyes of my body-bot, so to speak. I think I've got a pretty weird view of the world from inside here. Most people are probably a little bit dissociated on a regular basis, but I've been a pretty extreme case from everything I can gather. I know another friend who's a lot like me on a lot of things (we're (including him) still not sure if he's a gay guy or a transwoman in denial really) including this one. We were discuss…

It strikes me that if you added up all of the "Non Normal" people in the world - EI- Us, Gay's, Non mainstream religions, people under 4.5 feet and over 7 feet, hippie types, rockers, and on and on, and lumped us all toghther under one umbrella then that would most likely put the "Normal" people in the minority, would it not? :rolleyes:

well, this may be an interesting holiday weekend, I have decided it is time to tell mom about me. tgirl Bobbie Jo

Something keeps going thru my head, its what Annie said: "Sex is between your legs, Gender is between your ears" And I figured out something...MtF TGs are Male in Sex, but Female in Gender, so since I would gladly date an MtF as much as I'd date a bio-female, that makes me bisexual, but since I'm going on the gender, being female, I am straight, or heterogender? (If that is a word). Summed up, I'm Bisexual, yet Heterogender? What are your thoughts on it Ladies, and Gentlemen?

People have always questioned my sexuality, but I thought they were crazy because I have always been attracted to females. I am now coming to the conclusion that inside I feel like a woman inside. However, is it normal to feel like a woman and still be attracted to women? If so does that make me a lesbian? I think that it is odd but it all makes sense at the same time. I have always enjoyed lesbian love stories and had felt very connected to the characters. Is it even possible to be and transgendered female and have a lesbian relationship? I hope this isn't a stupid topic. :blink:

it appears that this semblance of acceptance that the younger people talk about existing nowadays...is causing a rift to some degree between young and old - least ways it is for me. it seems that some of the more recent and modern programs on TV with doctors and therapists galore to discuss and explain to the world this thing called transexualism... is making it sound like TS people always exhibit some clear-cut, unquestionable signs of being TS when very young, leaving no question in the minds of parents, family, friends and society that a child is TS. of course some of us older ones know that wasn't the case when we were very young as somehow, we learned very early…

PLEASE SHARE YOUR TRANSGENDER HORROR STORIES Here is mine... Reading several posts on the message board got me thinking about one of my own horror stories of the past. I should preface this by saying almost all of my experiences have been either positive or neutral, but this one was incredibly destructive for me. In the 1970's, when I was in my early teens, I struggled with my gender identity. This was pre-Internet and polite families simply didn't discuss transsexualism. Religious families such as my own had no tolerance whatsoever. I didn't know I was transsexual. I had never heard the term and I frankly didn't know there was anyone else in the world who wante…

So… I did the whole ‘coming out’ part with my boyfriend and parents. It went as smoothly as can be expected when you have a father who is all about being an analyst, a regular (albeit loud) mother, and a boyfriend who is too kind for his own good. Which means, while no one completely freaked out, I almost wished they did. Naturally, the problem is that they can’t bring themselves to understand my situation, which is understandable because of several things about me. For one, while I’m not particularly girly, I’m not very masculine in the way I act. Part of this is because I’m freakishly shy about who I am, so I’m mellow in almost everything I do. -Don’t want to be foun…