General Transgender Discussion

Hello friends, I am writing to let you know that i have completed orchiectomy.. I feel very calm and satisfied with the decision to have this procedure first as I could offord it now and was able to get clearance as well. It is very strange to wake up with absolutely no sexual desire. Recovery is a process and I hope to have some feelings come back, but when the doctor said this is it, Yes this really is it. My body is no longer fighting testosterone and even without estrogen I feel extreme calmness and peace. I am also very happy that I did my complete name change and id changes before this procedure. Then to everyones surprise, two days later I was rushe…

Not sure if any of you deal with this. I have tried so many times to change things for the better. Big thing was in working to get the NH DMV to change policy. All to no avail. I am finding with all that....I am in a place now ...that...it takes everything inside of me , to step outside my own front door. So tired of dealing with, not being able to be me....no matter what I do. I just want to crawl into a hole and pull in the earth after me. I am just in a place where it takes all the strenght I have, to step outside my own door. That the only thing I look forward to is sleeping, because, there, I can dream.

Hi everyone. Just found this site the other day. I'm mtf, began my transition 12/09 and things are finally starting to show. Just took the big step yesterday of telling HR at work. Not quite ready to have them go out and tell everyone just yet, but the times getting close. Anyways, I would love to meet other girls around the NYC area who would like to chat, maybe get together sometime etc. I'm a great listener and fairly bright (so i tell myself.)

Hi all. As most of you know, I have been working in trying to get the DMV in my state to change policy for changing ones gender marker on a drivers license. In the past couple months, I worked with a State Rep to try to get the DMV to offer an exemption for people that might have a financial hardship or a medical one in meeting the 'complete surgery ' requirement, and, again, that fell on deaf ears. I even presented the case of how having a non-matching gender marker makes it impossible for one to find employment....but, no one cares. So, I guess it's time for me to stop my fight. To be thankful for what I do have, and let go of my dreams. You see, I had the dream t…

Hello to all on the forum, my name is Lisa and I'm new on this forum. I am very excited to meet new people here.

Some time ago there was a link posted here to a TG questionaire developed to identify where one falls in the male-female spectrum. As I recall there was a scale of +1500 (being 100% female) to -1500 (being 100% male). If anyone could provide me with that link it would be greatly appreciated. Thank you, Erica.

I just don't know where to start. I sat thinking the other day about my father and how much he has hurt me. So I decided to phone him and give him one last chance, I thought to myself if he rejects me again, then I will rule him out of my life and I agreed to move on. So I rang his cell and we ended up in a massive argument, which is what I thought would happen. So I let about 10 minutes pass, then I sent him a text message - " You're just like my mother, I know you'd reject me again, well, that's ok, because it doesn't matter how many times you reject me I still love you ". So I let a few minutes pass and rang him again, this time the conversation was a lot more ca…

Would like to point out that although many countrys issue a new birth certificate or a person is recognised in their new gender after GRS,In most parts of Europe and definatly the UK, this is not the case,So many people i kbnow who have had GRS in these areas keep saying they are finaly recognised as their new gender,this is wrong,you need apply for a GRC (Gender Recognition Certificate) Which also automaticly issues a birth certificate,all your rights to mariage,pensions and even death are not granted and despite the NHS treating you as your aquired gender and even updating your passport , the other departments will not,If you was born male,had GRS and die before obtain…

I read through some of my old writings prior to and after I came out. I was a jumble of confusion and longing. I was confused about my gender. At the same time I wanted to break out of my so-called normal existence. After I came out, I grew into my new identity as a transgender person. I absorbed every experience that came my way. My gender issues stretched as far back as 2000. I didn't know what I was wrestling with at that time. It was much bigger than I imagined. I always believed that we possess both feminine and masculine traits. Why some are equated with one gender and not the other is beyond me. It shows the fallacy of the gender binary system when someone goes …

Ok, so I am writing this here because I do not know where I was suppose to put this so yeah, going to have this post here. I am in a situation that well I am not sure on and yet I am severely unhappy with things in my life. Here is the list of them 1)I am in the low income bracket, meaning I am on SSI and can't afford to transition to female Like I truly want to. 2) I hate the town and state where I live and want to move me and my dad to where I can have friends in the trans community that will be supportive and help me with trying to transition as I am so scared I will screw it up. 3) I been getting depressed more then normal because I am lonely and don't hav…

Just going to see how all this is going to work out for me.

Has anyone had the gender marker changed on their driver's license in Arkansas? What type of documentation is required? Do you have to have surgery first? Is there an official policy? Any information on this topic would be really great. Thanks!

Hi all. I have been working with a state rep in changing DMV rulings regarding changing one's gender marker on a drivers license. One thing this state rep asked me to find out is....how many NH trans people does the current policy, that requires complete surgery, a hardship? Seems like all the NH support groups that I knew in the past, have vanished. So, I am asking here. And, if there are NH trans people here, that have other contacts, info on support groups, please ask them. I don't need names...I just need numbers. Thank you for any and all info.

I feel like I wanted to write this blog because inside I feel ashamed and feel like I am a freak..well not in the sense of being a transperson but the fact for having feelings for a a gender that even shocks me to be attracted to as I like genetic females, even though I want to change to being a female..if that made any sense. I am so confused..maybe..I think I just rambled on..lol. Anyways..let me get to the point before someone gets bored. For years I have been attracted to females and could not see myself attracted to men as I find them disgusting vile in my eyes. And just the last few days, I suddenly seem to get sexual attracted to shemales. I know I know..what…

is why so many people are "in the closet". WHAT ARE PEOPLE HIDING FROM? It's a great big beautiful world out here people, get out and enjoy life as the person you are. Don't let anyone get you down, or tell you that you can't (or shouldn't) do something. You simply need to dismiss the naysayers. (and this includes ANYONE who is a naysayer, "family", "friends", etc., etc) If someone doesn't like what you're doing, then the hell with them. Tell them they have a choice, they can either love, cherish and accept you, or they won't be in your life anymore, and you will simply dismiss them from your life. That is what I have done. WE HAVE A RIGHT TO BE HAPPY TOO. …

Hi All. I met with my State Representative last Friday, to try to find a way to get my gender marker changed on my driver's license. Even though I have been on hormones since 2003 and have had chest surgery, I live in a state that requires complete surgery to change any markers. She was very supportive and very much a go-getter. As i was meeting with her, we discussed how this state policy is a hardship in employment opportunities. When she found out the steps I have taken to get back into my profession.....she gave me the name of a person to contact and said...tell them i sent you. Now all I need is a huge injection of self-confidence. this is a profession I have …

Hello, lately ive been realizing that america has successfully set just enough obstacles to make T-girl life hard to live. So i was considering saving up and moving abroad by maybe next year so i was wondering where you think would be a good idea end up is at ?

Earlier i , did job applications No big deal Right? (i at least did close 30 all with annoyed frown painted along my face.) But i noticed some thing only a transsexual would see as a appealing blessing .EEO ( Equal Employment opportunity) For those who don't know (or just don't live in America ) it allows the option not to disclose your gender identify or race if it bothers you. For most of them of I chose not identify (because intend to save up money for surgery with what ever job thats in my future). Except for one of the applications i intentionally did twice with the same name, same resume except one i choose not identify, and other i put as male (Both ha…

Hi all. In the past weeks, I have been getting numerous calls and e-mails from people I thought were my friends...my supporters. They have been calling, asking for my help dealing with tax issues. (I used to work as a CPA). Anyway, today, I sent them a message asking for their support. I have a big meeting on Friday....one that could change my life. One that will either propel me forward or leave me letting go of everything. And, no response...except for one. This person said....I am to tired to answer your question and I still need help with my taxes. So much for having a support system. I am still trusting that Fridays meeting will propel me to a new chance …

while on hormone pills, what else would help growth and shape, towards create-ing your own breast devallopment ____________________________________________________ ive now been taking premarin eostrogen tablets for a few months now i have devalloped breast so to speak some what~naturaly, im now donning a B cup bra which are a bit small so soon enough im going tryout a C cup bra to see if i fit one all though my breast still to me dont appear as proper female breast but i do fill a B cup with plenty of volume and shape, so i can only continue with the premarin and wait and see what will happen in due time

very serious/curious question at hand,,, ok well im a T/gendered male2female and i live with my female fiance, for she isnt into other woman but shes into me, if i become female would she lose interest in me and then maybe fall out of love with me if i was female and not the man she first fell in love with??????????????????????????????? any answers are welcome here people please exspress you views on this question truthfuly

this hit home for me in a big way, this is so true to the way ive been in my entire life, it so true and thats a fact to every transgendered person in this world, read it completely and reflect on you entire life as i justhave,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,, ,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,reality not insanity

Hi Iv been feeling a bit strang for the last few days. I seam to have lost all interest in any thing I feel quite happy about my self, I just have no interest in any thing else all I want to do is sleep and watch television. Just wondering if this has happend to any one else or is it just me. I will be discussing this with my doctor at my next appointment just thought I'd see if any one else has felt like this at eany point Emma

Hey everybody! My name is Emily, and I got to university in the UK. I've been elected as one of the campaigns officers for my LGBTQ Association, and one of the issues that I would like to focus on throughout my term in office is trans representation. However, (possibly due to lack of campaigning/visibility within the association), there are no people who are openly trans who are willing to talk to us about the issues that they face and things that need to be changed. I suspect it's a vicious circle - people don't know that we represent them, or don't see anybody who is comfortable enough to talk about it, and so they don't come to us and work with us, so people don't …

Hi All. Just want to wish you all the best for this New Year. And also share with you the great gift I received. The complete acceptance from my sister. Along with her message, she sent me the song titled, "He ain't heavy, He's my BROTHER." What a great way to start the New year. I hope you all also find great blessings this New Year.