General Transgender Discussion

So yea, as I was checking my videos on youtube, I stumbled across a suggestion to check out this particular video. by the end of the song, I realized this is probably one of the most heartfelt songs written by someone who's watching trans person from the outside in. I think many of you will like it. Also, it helps that she's got a gorgeous voice. Also, Im sure many are curious if she's trans, but I think she is just a genetic woman who wrote a song about a trans friend or aquaintence.

Forgive me if you have already talked about this. I was watching 60 minutes last week, and it was about what they called "extreme gender nonconformity". It was the story of identical twin boys, one of which was obviously not interested in traditional male things, such as boy toys, sports, etc. It was to the extreme. One of the boys had a typical 'boy' room, and the other twin had pink walls, dolls, stuffed animals and the mother was fine with this. they mentioned a statistic that when this occurs, from birth, it is almost without exception that the one who is displaying the extreme nonconformance will be gay. Now the story was really about the fact that identical tw…

I am an extremely happy tgirl. Monday night, January 11th, 2010, my therapist told me that in March she would be more than happy to write me the letter approving me for SRS. Now to get my finances in gear. Bobbie Jo

My wife thinks she can sex in straight. We don't have an outragious sexlife but it has always been good. I'm 42 and she is 30. I have been with alot of women and it hasn't changed my mind one bit. As a matter of fact it only solidified my decision to transition. When I see a woman naked I want to be the same as her. When I watch them get dressed and put on make up I want to do the same. When I am making love to my wife I can't stop thinking that I should be the girl. My dreams are of me as a woman and when I wake up I am sad. I've never read or watched porn where I didn't identify with the girl. When we go clothes shopping for her I always choose clothes that I eventua…

Hi everybody! Happy New Year. It's a new year where new goals can be set. We expect this year to be better for many reasons. Last year may have been good or it may have been bad. We can't do anything about last year; we can only move ahead. I pray that in 2010 your goals and dreams will be met. Gennee :)

Every year I set goals rather than make resolutions. I put a time table as to when I will achieve a specific goal. This past year events happened in my life that was unplanned for. I am the better for it. I identified as a cross dresser at the beginning of the year. In May I sensed a migration away from the cross dresser spectrum. It was always my contention that my gender issues ran deeper than just wearing women�s clothing. I have crossed many roads in my journey but this marked the first time that I hesitated going across. In June I identified myself as a transgenderist. I wear women�s clothing all the time at home. I viewed myself being between a cros…

While I didn't achieve some of my goals that were set, two events took place in my life. In June, I migrated closer to the transsexual spectrum. It was very subtle change but I view myself more as a transsexual. I dress at least half the time in women's clothing. Some day it will be full time. The second event was when I met with my veterans group in September. I usually come dressed as a male. The leader of the group asked why I didn't come dressed as Gennee? I had thought about it prior to the meeting. Ever since that day, I have gone dressed as Gennee. I also attended two wakes dressed. No one paid attention. My desire to live full time as a woman is growing. …

I am a twenty-six year old transsexual male and as long as I can remember it has been an issue I've had to contend with. I sought guidance as a teenager with little to no avail and have tried to manage these emotions on my own but that has become increasingly more difficult as time wanes. I have no resources or advisers on the subject and don't want to do anything rash that might jeopardize my health or sanity. I am uninsured and was wondering if there were organizations or outreach programs that might help me find a professional I could consult with. Baring in mind I have very little income. This isn't a matter my family would embrace let alone accept so there's no h…

When I look back at all the decisions I've made in my 42 years on this planet I have rarely made any of them on my own behalf. Where I live,what I wear,how I act,where I work. All of these important things were always made to satisfy and fill the needs of other people. Now I have the most important decision in my life to make. The key words being my life. How much of life belongs to me and how much belongs to my wife and kids? I have had to deal with this longer than I've been married and been a dad and most of it alone. My wife has known for just over a year and a few friends too. My friends are lesbians and have been really supportive. My wife has been quiet and pass…

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I listened to a program on the internet talking about the popularity of Sarah Palin. When the people who like were asked what she stands for, the respondents were vague in their answers. When asked about what Palin would do on policies such as foreign policy, the respondents didn't have a clue. It's really sad that these people judged their love of Palin on peripheral qualities rather anything concrete or tangible. This parallels what most people understand about ENDA, gay marriage, and transgender identity. Political correctness is the rule of the day rather than critical thinking. What concerns me is that if, for example, the country was taken over by some power that…

This is a very important isuue for me and probably for alot of us ts girls. I would like to hear about personal experiences for post op girls and sex. I have not had any sexual experiences with men. This may sound silly but I am holding out until I get srs. I don't want sex to be the overriding factor in my reason for transitioning. I know if I were to start having sex with men it would preoccupy my mind so much I might become promiscuous and wish for transition to happen faster. Sex as a woman with men will be very importatnt. I do crave being with men but as I said it will only compound the problem. I am a hetero woman but I don't want it to push my desire to live as…

I hope you have a great one!!! ~Shannon

I was wondering if someone could help me get started. I would like to have top surgery but dont know where to start. I dont consider myself transgendered but i also dont consider my self male or female. I was born female and would like to have top surgery but i dont want to go any further than that. I live in the san fransisco bay area and dont know what surgeons to talk to, if i have to go through years of therapy before i will be allowed to have surgery. please give me any info you may have. :blink:

So, quick post. I upgraded to HD cable a few month ago, and, cdue to such, got a whole crap ton of new and weird/different channels Id never seen before. One of these is 'Logo,' the glbt channel. Or should I say G channel. Now, not being xenophobic here, or bigoted, but I honestly could care less for gay themed movies or shows. Personally, it focuses WAY too much on the sexuality of the roles and in turn, lacks actual substance (for example, you dont see hit straight TV shows constantly insisting and blabbing about how AWESOME and GREAT it is to be straight.) So, to be quite honest, I've no desire to watch this channel. I watch shows with substance, not an agenda. …

Another step towards becoming the woman I should have been all along. I am going to start seeing a therapist in the next week or so. This is so I can eventually get my letter for SRS. Bobbie Jo

Hello all, I've been depressed my whole life and just recently realized that this is because I've been confused about my gender this whole time. I really want to start taking hormones as soon as possible so that my body can begin its adjustment. The problem is that my doctor refused to prescribe them to me because of my psychiatric history. Is this illegal / prejudiced? Should I contact the ACLU? Please someone, I need advice! Erin

Well, this Saturday I start undergoing laser hair removal treatments on my private area in preparation for future SRS. Little did I know when I started down this road in 2007 where I would end up. I am proud to say that I couldn't be happier. I should have been born a girl, and I certainly shouldn't have waited this long to fulfill my destiny. However, after 49 years on this planet, I finally started living my life as the gender I should have been born in all along. The last 2 years of my life have been sbsolutely wonderful, and I wouldn't trade it for the world, even though I did become unemployed for a time along the way, and my ex took my daughter away from me.…

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November and December are traditionally active months for me. While there are activities to attend, it also a time of reflection. This year is different because of the changes that have happened to me personally. I will be marching in the Veterans Day parade on November 11th. It will be my third time doing so. It's important that transgender veterans are honored and remembered for their service. This year the group may have a float. November 20th will be the Transgender Day of Remembrance. I make it a point to attend because it's important that we encourage and support one another. I am considering speaking at the event. I mentioned months earlier that I have transi…

Anybody have fun Halloween plans? I'm going out with a group of friends. I'll be The Joker from Dark Knight. I will be applying theatrical makeup and latex scars and I have the costume all ready to go. It should be a fun party.

Hey everyone! Soooo I don't post here as often as usual recently, as I have been quite busy with getting all the final steps of my transition in order. I am happy to say that this month of October has been quite possibly the best month *ever*. Despite some recent heartaches, bad breaks with being stolen and robbed from, and being discriminated at a particular job, I am happy to say, life in stealth is now a complete reality. Now, I have been going by Ashlee here for a number of years, due to the fact that I chose that name as it was the name my parents had planned for me during the pregnancy with me since I was assumed by doctors and all others to be born a gene…

Okay, I must be extra brunette today or something , I've read the instructions, but still not sure what I need to do to start my own blog. I go to my control panel, and I see the blog, but it says no entries, where/how do I post a new entry? Anyway, my latest update is that I posted two new pics in my gallery on this site, and also that I have just received a great job offer as team lead/senior consultant for a Fortune 100 company. I will be moving to Columbus, Ohio next Thursday the 29th. Bobbie Jo

We have a very real chance that LGBT discrimination on the job will finally become illegal throughout the country. Congress is poised to pass and the President Obama has promised to sign a federal bill, the Employment Non-Discrimination Act (ENDA), that bars workplace discrimination based on sexual orientation and gender identity. But we need your help to persuade lawmakers in Washington that this is a problem that state and local government employees face too. We need to hear from people who wanted to work for a state or local government but have been fired, refused a job or faced harassment because of their sexual orientation or gender identity. We are looking for…

I know it's a long shot, but I figured that any shot not taken is a guarenteed miss. I have recently been denied a job by a company. During my interviews, they *loved* my background, my interview went amazingly well, and in the final interview, they had employment pamphlets and folders out for what I assumed to be a job offer. At the end of the interview, they mentioned that they just were doing background checks for everyone they hire, and asked me if this were an issue. Because PA took 9 months to change my name, at that point, I had not had it legally changed, I mentioned that I was indeed transgendered and my background check would need to be run under my birt…