General Transgender Discussion

:D A page from my diary 12/13/2005 started medroxyprogesterone 01/13/2006 started spironolactone and estrodiol... Now i have been reading all the articles, read every message on this site, searched the web about HRT and yet I said to myself..here goes nothing, if it works terrific, if it doesn't..at least I feel good about my decision and process. Diary chest measurement 01/13 40 inches chest measurement 02/13 42 1/4 ....... WOW!!!!! Ladies, IT WORKS! Can't wait till 03/13 and 04/13 who knows even a few more inches and I'll be elated! So for all you just starting like me...you and I have a lot to look forward to. Womanhood..Here we come!

I just want to give Aylwin some public gratitude. Over a week ago, I would have been terrified of letting anyone know. Talking to Aylwin and seeing how well that had been going to her really encouraged me to tell an old friend. I even got to hang out with this friend this weekend as shannon and it went really excellently. I was a bit nervous, but other than that she said it was one of the more normal/fun social times we'd had in years(possibly ever). That was on Sunday, and I thought that went well enough that I told a good amount of my closes friends yesterday, and even hung out with a couple last night. Things really couldn't better in regard to how everything wor…

Happy Halloween and Samhain! We pretty much sat at home and handed out candy and watched Survivor.. I know, boo. I realized though that I can't do "en femme" for Halloween. It's sort of self-insulting and sending the wrong message to myself. If anything I've had my costume today by not doing anything special. I felt kinda cruddy about it as the day went on though, seeing a bunch of people dressed up as various things today, because now I wished I'd taken the opportunity to do some sort of female Halloween costume. Oh well, maybe next year. My wife wanted to be Eowyn, so maybe we'll get swords, armor, and Nordic dresses, and do dual Eowyns Anyone actually do anythin…

I have been reading and not posting very much and the impression I have gotten is that a lot of you feel like you are in your own hell because you can't be open and out about what you do. What I want to know is have any of you REALLY taken the time to stop and think about not only the hell you are in but, if you are in a relationship, the hell your partner might be going through. My own real life experience says NO! My partner thinks only of personal needs, not mine, not our daughter's, only of self. I realize there have been the years of hiding this side, the side that NEEDS to dress, but that softer side has always been there. I have said the clothes don't change…

is why so many people are "in the closet". WHAT ARE PEOPLE HIDING FROM? It's a great big beautiful world out here people, get out and enjoy life as the person you are. Don't let anyone get you down, or tell you that you can't (or shouldn't) do something. You simply need to dismiss the naysayers. (and this includes ANYONE who is a naysayer, "family", "friends", etc., etc) If someone doesn't like what you're doing, then the hell with them. Tell them they have a choice, they can either love, cherish and accept you, or they won't be in your life anymore, and you will simply dismiss them from your life. That is what I have done. WE HAVE A RIGHT TO BE HAPPY TOO. …

we've all entered into discussion at some time or another as to whether or not god makes mistakes. our loving cisgender heterosexual brothers and sisters say that he does not - meaning that we were all born the sex/gender we were meant to be, and that we should fulfill our assigned roles thusly. well... i have found proof that god DOES make mistakes... .............CLICKETH THOU HERE <snickers like mugsly from the whacky racers> NOTE: if you read this after 19 october, be sure to choose 19 october 2008 to view the comic strip that applies to this thread. the date can be found below the strip -michael

Jojo, I know that you and your wife have been going through turmoil this month. I see that you have cancelled your myspace page and I have not seen you here since before the holidays. I know things are really hard now, but are you ok? Please check in if you can, and know that whatever happens I am caring about you, and miss you here. Love -Kim

I saw a topic named this and wanted to respond, but then realized it was in the F2M forum. So I decided to make an analogous topic for M2Fs: How far do you plan to transition ultimately? For me, I've already had a bilateral orchiectomy and started HRT. However, I haven't been presenting as female in real life yet. I'm just taking things one step at a time. Going all the way with FFS and SRS would be a possibility for me, although first I have to figure out what my ultimate goals are. I like to be female in social situations, but I think being a male in professional situations is an advantage.

I don't know if this is the right place for this. If not I appologize. First of all hey I'm Jesse K. I am on the explore about the question what am I. I think I know it now but for some reasons I'm shy to admit even at this board what I am. (Though this is probably the last place where I have to be shy) Maybe it is because I figured it out today what I am. It is not really hard to take for me. To the contrary I'm happy that this question which bothered me my whole life finally got an answer. It is though uhh yeah strange because I am obviously homosexuall (if it becomes to my inside gender, to my body gender I am hetero). Yes this is confusing but I though …

First off, I want to say hello. I've been talking to a member of this site on another forum, and he has give me the link here. I Have been looking around for the last 3 weeks or so, and have decided to post my little dilemma. Hopefully someone can help me or maybe just give me some advice. Here go's: As far as I can remember my feelings started around 10, 11, or 12 years old. I used to put on my mum’s clothes when she was out, and strapped my penis back, so it looked like I didn’t have one. I had a funny childhood and for a boy, I had some strange interests; among over things, I was into Horse Riding and also was in a Jazz Band, in my eyes these are main…

If there were a country you could go to where even the most masculine-looking man can live as a woman, and even the most feminine-looking woman can live as a man, and they could be accepted in their desired gender and everything without changing their bodies, would you choose to go instead of transitioning? (If you have transitioned, would you have chosen to go to that country if you could avoid transitioning by doing so?)

I have a date this week, and I'm rather unsure as to when would be the best time to let her know that I wasn't born as a girl. I'm thinking that I should after spending sometime chatting with her (like say one or two hours), which I'm hoping is enough to establish who I am before this revelation might affect any of those ideas. Granted, it's going to change some, but I'm just not sure whether it's wise to wait so long or to be up front about the matter. I mean, I'm afraid I'll hurt her if she becomes attracted to me and then she finds out that I'm not a girl. I know she's interested in me, she contacted me first for crying out loud; I guess all I can do is hope that she w…

My apologies for the whiney ennui of this post up front. I feel like I need to get it off my chest though. I'm not even completely sure where to start with this, it's all tangled up in my head... so I'll start here: I've waffled a lot. I'm not as completely sure as to the state of my mind as some of you are with yours. However, I realized the other day that if I had a "magic button" that would make me into the real GG female image of myself that I see in my head, and change everyone's memories and such to match it.. you know, parallel universe or whatever.. I wouldn't hesitate more than a second to push it. I think that says a lot. I also realized that the "full d…

To the mods: I posted this in another forum, but I think it may be helpful to some so maybe it will get more traffic here. Want to stop? I'm sure you have all been there. What is this crossdressing thing really about? Perhaps I can shine a little light on the subject and share some of the insights I recently stumbled upon. What it comes down to is: What do you really want? You have to be willing to be honest with yourself. Be willing to look beneath the surface and really want to see what is there. There is a reason why you crossdress. You believe it will make you happier or bring you closer to peace. That's the bottom line. That's what everybody on earth…

I thought I'd post this as a companion topic to the TG Movies thread. Does anybody have any links to online TG comix or graphic novels they'd like to share? I have been a longtime reader of Venus Envy, and always enjoyed it immensely, although, sadly, the updates have been far-and-few-between lately. This morning while link-surfing I was fortunate enough to come across the Jack Pallett Refridgeration online comic book. The genre is gutterpunk--and definitely much grittier than VE, but I find the artwork and storyline to be some of the most compelling and engrossing work of its kind I've ever seen. At any rate, I just thought I'd post these for those who might…

I have a few questions for everyone: 1) Is the opposite TG gender an absolute mystery to you? For me, FTMs are as much of a mystery as any other men--more so, actually, because they have taken huge steps to actively reject something that, to me, is a dream come true. I imagine FTMs find MTFs equally mysterious because of this. (I hope no one is offended by what I just said.) 2) Do you think MTFs or FTMs have it easier? Why? 3) Do you feel that you have more in common with non-TG people of your (internal) gender or TG people of the opposite gender?

I thought this deserved its own topic, because not everyone who may be interested or have something to say would neccessarily be reading the other thread. This is basically a place holder. I had something typed up as a reply in the other thread, but the site ate it. Gave me a "406 Error". So, I started a new thread and there's more to come. Pages 4 and 5 in the other thread are the "important" ones. Just be patient. It will take a bit to reorganize my thoughts and such, but I will get back to it.

:) In the spirit of the holiday, here's a few questions about a longtime tradition. Have you made any New Year's Resolutions? Are you planning to? Have you ever? What's the longest time you stuck to a resolution? What do you think the most common New Year's Resolution is? Annie

I am 17, and as I become more comfortable with the fact that I am trans, and that I really am a girl I find myself more and more forgetting as of now that I'm a guy. Like today I was looking at a prom magazine that was in the house of the girl that I'm taking to prom, and I'm looking through the dresses actually thinking about which ones I would wanna buy and which dresses would like nice on me...then I remembered oh yeah, for now, for all intents and purposes I'm a guy...

ima 38 year old male that needs help getting out of this body and into the body i was ment to have

If you are interested, her show will be about transgenders, she has a HUGE audience, so lets hope it is done properly, with correct facts. Have a great Friday, I will check in later for a critique. -Kim PS) ABC 4pm Eastern time.

These questions are about motivation and what sort of trade-offs you'd be willing to make. (Yes, they are very hypothetical.) FOR THE LADIES: If you remained your birth sex publicly and could experience pregnancy, would that satisfy you enough to not transition? What if by transitioning, you would lose the ability to get pregnant? FOR THE MEN: Is there any circumstance that could persuade you to bear a child post-transition? (example-- your wife was unable to) Would you be willing to go through a pregnancy if you could be an anatomically-correct male? Annie

I've been outside into the great unknown.... See normally i don't have the guts to venture out in the car when i put women's clothes on.... But last friday i had some problems with my car and eventually it started so i had to go for a drive, i couldn't just put it back where it goes because that would've been worse for it. So, here are some of the photos i took on friday night from my phone, and one from the camera before i went out

Revelation! "Committed long-term relationships are not what I need right now." That and I couldn't see it lasting. Neither did she. The only difference was the timeframe. She thought it would happen later. The stress caused by my discomfort with the relationship was enough to affect my driving. Barely missed two crashes inside a single minute. Pulled into a parking lot and sat there until I could go on. Had to talk first though. Wasn't the best place for it, but then again, I didn't feel like I had a choice. Oh well. There's never a good place or time for "bd news." It hurt, but both of us will be ok. I think I'm going to try "casual" relationships, w…

Hi everyone, I'm guessing this has been covered before but I couldn't find a specific topic for it. I want to know how other Ts have coped (or are coping) with 'angry explosions' at other people (like friends) who don't understand and touch a raw nerve when commenting on your gender. Or perhaps I'm just really touchy about it? I'm gonna vent a bit here so apologies for waffling but just to enforce my point... I am pre-op so everyone 'knows' me as a girl (even though I've been hopelessly presenting as male for a few years). I don't intend on having surgery any time soon, simply because I can't afford it. But through the way I look and also many verbal hints along the…