General Transgender Discussion

I dont know if this has been discussed or not yet. But I, right now, get medical assistance from the state I live in. Which means I have to go to DES to get it renewed every 3 months or so. Anyway, when I have to go there, I like that they have to call me by my choosen name, but being that I dont totally pass for male in the chest area, I get people staring in my direction. Anywhere I go that I use MY name, I get that. Does this bother anyone else? How do you handle it?

(edited 12/20/05) ~ TRANSITION ~ What does "transition" mean to you in the TG sense of the word? Does it ONLY mean the physical alteration of your body through surgery, from one gender to the other? Do you see transition as the opportunity for an evening, a day, a week or longer to swap your regular clothes for those of the opposite sex, and in the process adopting this other gender's behavior patterns? I think the word means both of these and more. There are many of us on these Forums who are right now in a state of transition. In my case, I've been living as Annie for over five years, have had some cosmetic procedures, but not the fina…

I know, not a common complaint, huh? Yesterday I was out with friends (equinox and all) and spent most of the time hanging out with the ladies in the group.. had lots of fun. We met up with an old friend we thought we'd lost by way of a jerk husband, and she had left him and was doing well. On the way home we were talking about boyfriends, girlfriends, and sundries with one girl we were taking home, and she said... I decided I didn't want to be a lesbian because I just like the 'guy parts' too much. So my wife pipes up and says, well, I get the best of both worlds because mine's trans! The other girl didn't show any surprise at all, she just said ohhh yeah, I dated one…

I didnt want to sideswipe JessicaSideways topic so I started this one on the subject of 'admirers'. From being here a while i know that admirers seem to be frowned upon. And I am wondering if there is something that is inherent in an 'admirer' aside from the fact that they would prefer to be with a transgendered person. In a perfect world a straight biological man would prefer to be with a female, and that female could be cisgendered, or transgendered. But i don't think that is actually how the majority of men think, at least not yet. An admirer is someone who is attracted to transgendered people, and why is that objectionable. I have a cousin, she is not transgender…

It pays a decent amount more than my last job. It will be nice to finally get things moving again. I haven't told them I'm a transsexual yet, and will tell them on friday when I start... Any ideas on a friendly way to disclose this to them?

Wired magazine recently had a blurb along the lines of "When a transgendered one has gotta go, where?" They answered with http://www.safe2pee.org. I checked, the site is real and created by self-described genderqueers with anarchist tendencies. You can search, add, upload photos, etc. Search is by city and state but includes Canada, too. Check it out before you go out!

I have often worn a bra and considered bras the most feminine of clothing usually worn by females. Since taking female hormones, I have wondered whether wearing a bra on a regular basis during the day helps shape one's developing breasts. Thank you for any insights about this subject.

Hello, I've been reading on the net about Dr Bushong's 'Gender Matrix". As usual, tried to figure out how I might fit into the classification. For those not familiar with this -- I would think most everyone here is -- he uses a five axis system to show how complex gender identity can be. The five axis are: 1. Genetic Gender 2. Physical Gender 3. Brain Gender 4. Brain Sex 5. Gender Identity In the article, he uses simply "M" or "F" in his examples. Since these are a continuous spectrum, maybe it's better to use something like M - m - N - f - F to represent from strongly male to weakly male to neutral to weakly female to strongly female. So, according to …

I hate to sound arrogant or immature. But.... I AM A GOOD KID. I want to be out o the closet so bad, but I'm terrified my parents will disown me. I don't have the money to support myself. I don't even have a license! I work only a few hours a week for minimum age. I love my mom and dad, but things are just getting so ridiculous! I've been homeschooled for the past few years, and I know that it was a good choice because I KNOW public school would have been a disaster. I am up against my wall and slowly going insane. My college counsellor told me she thinks I am suicidal and that the stress I am putting myself through could kill me. I'm going crazy! Please! Words of wisdom …

I'm sure most of the girls here know what it's like to want to have a baby of their own but be unable, so I thought I'd ask here. A few members here, in response to the news of pregnant man, have expressed the desire to be pregnant, give birth, breastfeed, and raise children as a mother. However, we all know this is impossible. Even adopting is out of the question for many transsexuals, thanks to nonexistent antidiscrimination laws. I would love to be a mother, but there are many reasons, only some of which have to do with being stuck in a male body, that I have chosen not to have children. (For one, I wouldn't inflict the curse of being my kid on anyone. ) But…

Being that transgendered people look to alter there lives to match what truly lies within, coming out is a must. It is probably the hard and scariest thing for anyone to do. So with that said, to anyone that is reading this who did you first come out to. Why do you chose that person over others? Sorry that I can't contribute to my own topic. I have yet to come out to anyone. ^_^

I was physically and/or sexually attracted to very few females during my teens, twenties and thirties. Since I considered myself a male to female transsexual at about age 40, especially in my 50's, I have been physically and sexually attracted to far more females than when i was younger. However, the strongest effect of seeing an attractive genetic female is not a desire to have sex with her, but a very intense desire and wish I could be as pretty, feminine and sexy as her. When I see a woman with a very nice, feminine figure, especially with large female breasts and a noticeable female rear, I very strongly wish I had such a lovely female figure, especially with …

Hello friends, I am writing to let you know that i have completed orchiectomy.. I feel very calm and satisfied with the decision to have this procedure first as I could offord it now and was able to get clearance as well. It is very strange to wake up with absolutely no sexual desire. Recovery is a process and I hope to have some feelings come back, but when the doctor said this is it, Yes this really is it. My body is no longer fighting testosterone and even without estrogen I feel extreme calmness and peace. I am also very happy that I did my complete name change and id changes before this procedure. Then to everyones surprise, two days later I was rushe…

How often do you replay these comments in your head? "Don't do this you are bringing shame onto this family" "Don't you care about your wife and children?" "It says right here in the bible, you are an abomination to God" "Take up your cross, suffering is a part of life" "You are bringing so much hurt to your family and friends why are you doing this? "Why don't you just let that part of yourself die so that we can get on with life" "We like you as you are, you will be causing so much trouble for us" "How can you do this to us?" "You are so selfish" "Your self-centeredness is going to destroy your life" "You are killing your career" "Why can't you shake this …

Long story short I have gender dysphoria. It was interesting but disturbing seeing just how much I have in common mentally with transgendered people. It seems I've taken an unusual or unheard of path however. Complete transition just sounds too dangerous what with all the bigots out there, legally changing gender while not having an extremely rare type of family /etc/... So even though I identify as very feminine in personality, I masquerade as gender neutral. Trying to do what I can to be somewhat passable without getting completely screwed over if I'm discovered. This means no buying appearance altering products which may be suspicious, no going to doctors for anything …

I know I saw one message on the forum about this when I searched, but I wondered if anyone ever thought they were going through MPD when sorting out gender identity issues? From very early days in my childhood I think I compartmentalized the "girl stuff" in my head and started thinking of her as a ghost personality in my head. Not of the strength that the media-sensationalized MPD people, where there's a total switch-over, memory loss, etc. Just kind of like an imaginary friend who happened to have many of the same wants, needs, and interests as me. An imaginary friend who liked the girl clothes I had and wanted to just wear them, but the guy body had other ideas... …

This movie survey offers up titles not listed in the TS MOVIE POLL or the CD MOVIE POLL This one's multiple choice, so have fun! (includes TS, CD and drag films) .

For me, being TG is like having lived my whole life in a country where everyone looks a certain way except me; I've picked up the culture from my earliest years, to the point where I know no other, and many see me as a noncitizen because of my physical appearance. (Fortunately, women usually overlook that when they get to know me; the girls at school treat me more like they treat each other than like they treat the guys.) It's like being Jewish in a strongly Christian anti-Semitic country; by being who I am, I break the basic God-given rules the majority live by, and if people find out the truth, I'm finished. Male puberty is like changing from human to Neanderthal…

Hello everyone here. I just had a question I had to get off my chest. Has anybody here ever woke up in the morning with anxiety or even high levels of anxiety? I had that happen to me over the weekend. They were gender related. Its like when I wake up every morning I am having a battle within myself. I have periods of denial and frustration. A piece of me denies being trans and fights to be male for the sake of being normal. But the real me always battles that side to myself. Its a real crappy way to start the morning. I just want to know has anybody have or use to go through this? If so how did you manage? Thank you for your input everyone. Love you all.

So basically, my friend (pre-everything) got outed as wanting to be a girl, but she still has 1¾ years of highschool left. She says the counselors are supportive, but the teachers let the kids bully and harass her to no end. She also says that her family is not likely to be supportive and they regard her siituation as "just a phase." Now, the problem here is I wanna help but I don't know how since I live in Georgia and she lives in Wisconsin. All I can really do is talk to her and try to comfort her over the internet... >_> Any ideas?

I really really really don't mean any disrespect. I'm not calling anyone a coward. I don't mean to advocate any politcal action. <--- That's my disclaimer. In short: I can't. I refuse. I resist. I spent too much time worrying, about what everyone else thinks, to leave any of *my* places just because my prior history there is "as a man." The people in my life will either comply with their obligations based on our shared social contract (lubricated by my very polite and respectful behavior) or suffer the consequences. The exact nature of these consequences will depend greatly upon the nature of my relationship to the person in question, but will be there …

Hey, I'm a genetic 23-year old female who happens to be completely flat-chested, and it's wreaked havoc on my self-esteem/body image. I stumbled across this board while looking for hormone treatment for breast development. I know they can give this to girls who aren't developing properly during puberty--which, at 23, I am well past--but I figure if it can give genetic males some decent-looking breasts, it can probably help me out too. I'm desperate. I've tried various types of birth control (Ortho-Tri-Cyclin, Yaz) as well as those hokey breast enlargement pills (yep, I'm gullible), and none have had any impact on my breast size whatsoever. I am scared to death to …

Hi Everyone, Has anyone bought or used a home laser hair removal device such as TRIA or Rio Scanning both sold on Ebay? I would like to hear your opinion about. thank you!

I know I've been posting a lot of threads lately... sorry I just love to talk. I've spent a lot of time lately just meditating on, and seeing beauty everywhere in the world. I know how cheesy that sounds, but doing things like life drawings tends to do that to you. There's something intimate about putting down a person's lines and shadows on paper and unless you hate your work, it's impossible to not find beauty in your subject. It spills over into the rest of life. I grew up seeing images of TSes of the Jerry Springer variety, like some of the other threads I've seen posted on here -- badly botched implant jobs, real drag queen looking types, don't really seem to …

Just sometime I'm curious about... does anyone know any cases where more then one child in the same family have transitioned? Or maybe a father and son/daughter?