Male to Female (MtF) Transsexual Discussion

In contrast to the Being treated like a lady! thread, here is something that happened yesterday. I just spent the weekend in Chicago at a board of directors meeting for Lutherans Concerned. One of the other directors is a transman named Galen. Yesterday we were at the airport to catch a flight back to Minneapolis and stopped at the food court to get some breakfast. We both opted for breakfast burritos. We were both asked if we wanted guacamole. I had to pay 75 cents extra for my guacamole. Galen got his for free. So we're looking for a table, and Galen starts in being insensed that he didn't have to pay extra and I did. Frankly, I hadn't noticed that it had h…

In the new millennium, we’ve come far. Civil Rights for almost everyone in the country, everyone that is, except Homosexuals and Transgendered. This time, this era, full of new ideas and technology, we must renew our rights for everyone. In the early days, being homosexual was taboo and even illegal. People have been killed or shunned by society in the earlier times for mere preference. In many states now, sodomy is still something that can get someone arrested. The law should get out of our personal affairs a little. Yes, we appreciate our government for their enforcement of laws (oppression), and keeping the peace at a reasonable level (assaulting minorities), and mai…

Well, I've been talking over the internet to this guy on this forum I'm a moderator at about my situation. He's really polite but holds one of the narrowest views I have ever come across about gender, and it's not religious at all. So, I've read a lot about the hypothesized causes of being gender-queer but it's been a while and I need to refresh my memory. I've been using the hormone imbalance in the brain a few weeks after conception theory but, he's found specific citations of people saying that biological sex is determined at the moment of fertilization, not the gender neutral theory where sex is developed later which the theory for our existance depends upon... I'…

Well, now that visually my transition has me in a state where I pass as a female in public quite seamlessly. But it didn't quite prepare me for the casual shivalry, I've had older men - whom quite frankly I should be bloody opening the door for - opening the door for me to go into shops and things like that. Male doctors who have pulled out chairs for me to sit down. Despite being quite young, I am rather femminine and a little old fashioned. So it surprises me first that I didn't think to expect this behaviour. But what surprises me most, now, however is when a woman did it for me. Now, I am not shy about it. I am what would be deemed as a lesbian. I am probably te…

You guys have probably heard the old question about race. Why should it matter? Well what about sex should that also matter? I just came back from one of my favorite stores. Sporting my new size 10 Levi's which weren't the hip huggers that I was hoping for, But I had decided to wear them to the store just to break them in. I had to ask one of the little girls for some assistance finding something. After finding what I was looking for the little girl asked me if she could ask me a personal question? Not thinking much of it, I said sure. She said " Are you trying to be a guy?" Wham! did she catch me off guard. I didn't know if I had just been complimented or insulted. I d…

this might seem like a rather bizarre question but.if you could change your nationality.ethnicity or race would you ? i myself am one half native american and one half european . i am constantly asked :youre not a real indian are you?: well if you mean do i fit the stereotype then i.d have to say no if i had a magic wand i would turn myself into a beuatiful .young.and sexy native american woman

I simply can not see a need for gender separate fitting rooms.Considering they are one - person- at - a- time!! What's the big deal? When I use the fitting room I hardly care who .male or female. has used it before me! (or who will afterword for that matter) :o

if you could not pass or pass very well would you settle on being androgynous? :unsure:

My definition of sex is any activity between two or more people that involves contact with genitalia for the purpose of sexual pleasure. So if somebody pleased you with their hand and that was all, I still count it as sex. Please use my definition when answering. Specify if you want to.

I'd like to hear some opinions on this. I told my parents I am FtM more than half a year ago. They still call me by my female name, talk about my life as though I lived like a girl, and discourage me when I'm talking about anything except seeing a psychiatrist (my mother really believes in therapy an all such things). I told my mother (very seriously) to call me by my male name after she'd called me by my female name when I had some new friends (who'd only ever heard my male name) with me when visiting her (she lets us use her apartment to party a little sometimes, it's a big apartment and she lives alone so she likes having people around). She "tried" for half a day,…

Hi everyone, I am an mtf, 27 years old, who started transitioning about 5 months ago, on hormones for almost 2 months. I wanted to hear a third opinion on an issue that is very pressing to me -- my doubts about what I am doing, namely, the transitioning thing. The point is, it feels right, and I have been dealt a few good cards by nature as to appearance (testosteron seems to have forgotten to affect both my voice and everything below my neck) and I get ma'amed several times a week in boy mode even with (still) short hair. I almost never get sirred. I realize really good passing will probably never be realistic, since my face is not perfect and I think almost no mtf ever …

Hi everyone. I'm an 18 yr old mtf who's been on hrt for a little over 17 months. Some of y'all probably already knew that. I don't doubt that one day I'll get FFS and SRS, along with a good voice coach and some electrolysis, but it's what happens afterwards that I don't know about. Anyway, I'm in college and I'll likely graduate in 4 years. But, the thing is, I have no idea what to do with myself in life. I already know what I want -- friends and, if I'm lucky, a lover, but I see no prospects for me ever having either of those. I've been a loner since pre-school, and people don't ever let themselves come close to me. Now, I'm out about being TG, and I definitely…

Although I have begun HRT and I am also using T-blockers it seems that my facial hair is still growing faster than I want it to. I plan on getting a laser removal later on but in the mean time do any of you know of a good way to retard or slowdown the growth of facial hair? I was under the assumption that the hormones and T- blockers would slow my facial hair growth by themselves. As far as laser treatments are concerned are they expensive and do they work well?

I'm 20 and i've been on hrt for 10 months (going on 11), and I've noticed that my hips are widening. The reason I raise the issue is that i'm thin enough that I can see the edge of my hip bone, so it's not fat. And all the HRT faqs i ever read said that hrt wouldn't effect bone structure. But after talking to some other transsexuals my age that doesn't seem to be the case at all. It's certainly not my imagination, i've gained 1.1" to my hips, at the point where I can feel the bone under the skin (clearly visible as well, trust me, i'm pretty skinny). Young transsexuals seem to experience a widening of the hips in some cases, thats not strictly due to fat. So I just …

With all the talk about the side effect of hormones, does anyone know which form is best? Is it better to go the patch route or the gel. Is one pill safer than another? I use the sublingual form which is said to go directly into the blood stream thus avoiding liver damage. Would the patch be better? I sure could use some opinions from girls that are more experienced than me. :)

I am currently in the process of a career change and interviewing for jobs and I am looking to buy myself a nice pant suit. I have found one that I really like online, but I need specific measurements in order to get the right fit. For the suit I am looking at I need to provide measurements for bust, waist, high hips, and low hips, as well as height. The height part, of course, is easy, but what I am wondering is *where* exactly on my body I take the rest of these measurements, especially the ones for the hips? Also, should I take these measurements standing up or lying down? I have noticed there is a little bit of difference. I know these probably sound like dumb que…

I've been doing some research on male-to-female sex reassignment surgery and, so far, I've only found one predominate type of surgery: penile inversion. Considering the advancements of cosmetic surgeries over the years, I'm surprised that this is the only type of SRS mentioned. Does anybody know of a male-to-female SRS procedure that does not involve removal of the penis? There are two reasons I ask this. One is that I'm trying to compile information for an academic website in which I outline the kinds of sex reassignment surgeries availabe. The other reason I ask is that it would also allow one to become somewhat intersex through SRS, without having to 'go all the way.' …

NOTE: In order to complete this poll and have your choices register, you must answer all three questions. There are quite a few difficult decisions to be made in life, and being transsexual can really complicate our choices. Being a parent, for example, can be life-altering for anybody, but for us, whether or not to have children is one of the hardest choices of all. The Raising children and being transsexual poll is divided into three distinct sections: The first part is specifically for those who have already had children, while section two is for anyone contemplating becoming a parent some day. or who has no kids. The final area, "Consequences," is a mixed ba…

I have read repeatedly about how transsexuals need to be cautious when using female hormones. Some websites go into great details about possible harmful effects female hormones can have on one's health. I am curious as to whether any of you have had any detrimental side effects, especially serious or potentially serious, using female hormones. Or do you know any other transsexuals who have had such effects on their health? I am taking relatively low dosages of female hormones and spirolactone, but at 57, I occasionally wonder about how many transsexuals experience health problems related to using female hormones. I also am curious if anyone knows, preferably…

I discovered about six years ago I did not have any sperm. Last year I began trying to ascertain the possible causes of this condition. One of the possibilities seemed to be Kleinfelter's syndrome, as I seemed to exhibit in much of my life some, but certainly not most, of symptoms associatd with this condition. A lab test last summer confirmed I did not have Kleinfelter's. However, it was discovered my Y chromosome had two copies of the short arm and some loss from the long arm, which resulted in me being infertile from birth. Neither the physican who prescribed the lab test, a gender therapist I went to last summer nor a genetics specialist who later contact…

If a magic fairy came down and said that you could only have one of these choices, at no cost, risk, or pain, which would you choose, if any, keeping in mind that this would be the ONLY thing you could EVER get done. I mean, whichever one you pick, you would never again be able to have either of the other two done, not even at your own cost. sorry, it's an odd fairy. -Facial Feminization -Genital Correction -Voice Correction to any type of voice you want I wonder what this magic fairy looks like -Kim

Most M2Fs have an ability most GGs don't: The ability to pass as a male. Are there any full-time M2Fs here who use this ability to their advantage? For example, if you need to walk alone at night, you do have the option of impersonating a guy so that you're less likely to be bothered. I'm not full-time myself, but I do go out as a girl a lot. I've recently taking to walking an hour per day, several days a week to try to slim down my belly/waist. My boyfriend told me I should do my walking as a guy so that I won't be hit on by random guys. Note: I'm not as gender dysphoric as a canonical M2F, i.e. I don't loath my male self, but I do prefer being female.

If money was no object at all, what makes some women feel they MUST have SRS, while others are perfectly content as is. Of course I understand that assimilation into the female populous is a need for all women, just wondering why some dont care about SRS while others will get it done if it's the last thing they do. Take finances out of the picture, what are the driving reasons? Also, I was wondering what needs to be done physically, if anything, before you can actually change your drivers license/passport etc. Can you also get your birth certificate changed? -Kim

From what I have read and common sense indicates, some transsexuals are very fortunate in being quite passable, some transsexuals pursue various surgeries to become passable or more passable and some transsexuals know they will probably never be passable, but decide they must live as females anyway. Some transsexuals also eventually decide not to live full-time as a female and/or have SRS because they feel and perceive they can not be truly passable to an extent desired. I have wanted to pass as a female since about my mid 20's, but I have been too shy, passive and lacked self-confidence to try to pass in public as a female, many years before beginning female hormones. …

I'm just curious, testosterone blockers, what permanent effects do they have like biologically (do they sterilize you?) and also do they have any effect on body composure such as breaking down of muscle mass?