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"I think we all do it at least a little bit. But I still say that it is mostly girls who do it" I agree. I found a way to make the binder work better...I can PM ya with details if you'd like. -Mike

I think we all do it at least a little bit. But I still say that it is mostly girls who do it XD Warren

OK, I admit I find it somewhat amusing when someone tells me that something I've always done is "typically" a female trait. But talking to yourself in the bathroom can't be exclusively female, can it? We all talk to ourselves regardless of gender... right? To be fair, I try not to do it when I know there are other people in there. But of course sometimes it happens that, oops, didn't realize there was someone in that last stall! Then I just really hope I didn't say anything too embarrassing! And of course, there are other places I talk to myself other than just the bathroom. But perhaps I'm just a bit crazier than most! :lol:

Yeah, I know exactly what you mean. Let's face it, your being transgender is probably hard for both of you to talk about. But he fell in love with all of you, and maybe he didn't know it, but Warren was always inside. So now Warren is coming outside too and that may be hard to understand. But you deserve love, acceptance, and respect. And all relationships need open communication to flourish. I remember you both have different work schedules, and you both work hard and are tired. Maybe you guys can set up a time to get together when you're both rested and talk? Go for a walk outside if it's not too cold. It helps to be doing something other than just staring at each other! If it's too cold, go for a drive somewhere. Or go to a coffee shop. Don't force the communication but let him know this is very important for you, that you love him and want to be sure he knows what is going on for you. Hope that helps, even a little, Emma

Hey Warren, I have a lot of thoughts about this. First, you are doing the absolute correct thing by writing about it here. We are here to listen and to help as best we can. Second, I completely understand your hurt, anger, and disillusionment with your therapist. How she could demand that you spell out your goal for therapy is beyond me. I was angry myself when I first read your post. After I calmed down I thought, well, maybe you could give her some goals. Here are some ideas. Obviously (I hope) you are the only judge as to their accuracy for you. I just hope they trigger some ideas: 1. Relief or ways to handle depression. 2. Help with sorting out and planning what to do with your gender expression. 3. Understand what is driving you to hurt yourself, and, learn and implement ways of handling those issues without having to hurt yourself for relief. 4. Help with understanding how you can talk to your family, and, if it doesn't go well, counseling on how you will deal with this. 5. Same thing with your boy friend. This is important, whether or not you stay together. If he leaves or you break up there will be another one. Please do not cancel next week's appointment. These goals are all very important for you. I suggest you write down more, maybe come up with a crazy long list, and then you can consider combining and prioritizing. While I don't think the therapist was tactful or kind, she does have a point. You and she are a team. And as a team, you both need to know where you want to go, what it means to make progress and succeed. So her question is okay even though very poorly presented. Let's keep up the discussion. Emma