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I'm so excited for you!

That is really a great story which gives the rest of us hope. It looks like you are emerging from the other side of transition. I'm having a hard time seeing the other side of transition. But I keep having to remind myself that I need to look 5 years down the road from now. It's a hard thing to do! But I'm sure that you know that!

Emma, thank you and I am sorry to hear about your loss. Yes, I've looked at Lynn Conway's website. Not recently. I've looked at a lot of transition related websites over the years..I guess that should have been clue. Anyways, thank you again. You are a good friend! Love, Lisa

Very well written - no reason someone on the outside looking in couldn't understand these delineations. Goes to show that many who don't see it, or claim not to understand, don't because they choose not to.

I think it is important to journal as I learned from others before me this way

"Upon requesting a change of nametag, I were told that the H.R. woman would have to ask my supervisor/head chef about it first." Does H.R. always defer to supervisors on personnel matters? What is H.R. for if they cannot make such a call? "...he denied my request. That until I get my name legally changed....he refuses to allow me to have my name tag changed. A non-binding piece of plastic...something that would make next to no difference in the world to anyone but me...but he said no." This to me speaks LOUDLY to his close-minded attitude in my opinion, and possibly even his until now unrealiized bigotry. So now... does this mean that "Mike" and "Jen" and "Hank" and "Lucy" will be issued new name tags with their full, formal, given birthnames of "Michael," "Jennifer," "Henry" and "Lucille?" If not... why? "...he has decided to start calling me Ren whilest at work, instead of my feminine name." It will be interesting to see how this is met with your boss- will he demand that your b/f address you by the name on your name tag? Will he mandate that all nicknames are henceforth not allowed in the workplace? "...eventually I'm going to legally have his Middle name in his honor". To which my older sister replied "Yeah because you'll never have his gender, no matter what you do." and she laughed about it." I'm so glad I never had a [older] sister. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=70TGisBTPlE, dude. -Mike

Karen, I'm glad to hear of your journaling plans. its been great to follow along on your progress! Hugs, Emma

Dear Monica, Always there for us with your wisdom and insight. Thank you! Emma

Hey Ren, You do shine, man, you rock. It's always good to hear from you although I am saddened by your hassles and pain. Hugs always, Emma