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I had one friend on Myspace whom inspired me in how she lived her life on her terms, other than that I never really followed any of the known people who are trans. I do applaud those out there publicly that are trans.

She sounds amazing Emma. It sounds like you found a good therapist. Good luck:)

Hi Karen, As I wrote in today's blog post I showed the chart to the therapist with my areas of congruence highlighted. She immediately recognized it as coming from Harry Benjamin's classic "The Transsexual Phenomenon." I had already provided her with fairly detailed email descriptions of me and what I'm going through as well as having attending her support group twice, so she already has a good idea of where I'm coming from. That said, I felt that the highlighted chart provides a helpful communications "yardstick" and confirmed what I'd told her. So it was all good, thank you. Emma

Congratulations Eve!!! Sadly, the police will never be there in the majority of cases to interdict in such crimes, they are there in the aftermath to take the report to what happened. It is not just the United States but all of the world. Usually those who act out our in fear of the unknown, it may hit home from how they were brought up to something simple as they admired someone then found out that person was not who they appeared to be gender wise. Every time I hear such tragedies it deeply saddens me and at the same time strengthens my resolve to train people. Yes, this is kind of a point of no return but there truly is a returning point, that is if you have not gone through gender reassignment surgery or have been on hormones for an extended period of time that causes issues down below. For me I had years to prepare with zero regrets and you need to be the same way if planning GRS.

Hello Eve, Congratulations on your new passport! If I was you I would want to use it right away. That would be so much fun to see that the border guard would just glance at it the way they do, and wave you through. Yes, you're most definitely a Transwoman now although you were one before of course. Yes, we do have violence here in the US against all sorts of people. I don't know if it is more or less than in the UK but my intuition says it's about the same. One thing I'm rather sure of is that the "news" reports are typically negative. At least here, it seems like most news stories are about problems, complaints, crime. Otherwise it's not so interesting. And I suspect that the particularly heinous stories are the ones that make it into the press over in Europe and elsewhere. Of course we do have laws against hate crimes such as battering someone because they are gay, trans, black, etc. and those crimes are prosecuted. We all agree that the violence toward trans people is especially scary. Clearly for some people seeing a trans person raises some weird emotion in them. You also read about problems with sheriffs. Sure, some are jerks, corrupt, or worse. But 99.9% are excellent and here again we mostly hear about the bad ones. And generally as their badness becomes public they lose their jobs and sometimes have to go to jail themselves. Hope this helps! Emma

Dear Warren, Yes, you're Warren to me but I like RenRen too. You most definitely have my and I'm sure our support here. You can take that to the bank as an old TV show character used to say. Please keep writing, airing your thoughts, and I hope we can help by providing feedback and listening, I mean that. I'll write more later, Emma

Hi Emma & Karen, Thanks for your comments re trans violence, yes it has happened in the UK, but not in the numbers reported on the internet in the USA. We are a smalll country so we can expect fewer instances, not sure if the percentage of total population who are Trans is any different or not though..... With regard to Karens point of no return comments, I have been on oestrogen for two and a half years now, so my equipment is not functioning as a normal males would! GRS? yes please I want it to complete my transition if not for any other reason. I had made the decision to transition many months ago, however the new passport bought back some slight mixed feelings, it was as if it rubber stamped my decision.............. I hope that this explains my feelings and situation.., Eve

Oh Eve, thank you. :-) Hugs, Emma

Thanks Emma, After reading your latest blog, I realise that we have had a lot of similar experiences, this also helps me to get on with my life. Peck on the cheek! Eve.

Hi Eve, Good to hear your update, writing articles, out and about with your wife (and more Schrodinger's Passes!), and thank you for posting the links to the video and the TG process in the UK. In my opinion the "bad language" is quite minimal and the overall document has a lot of value. It always helps me to hear about other's experiences and to recognize that we're part of a community of wonderful people. Hugs, Emma

Hey Warren , thanks for opening up like this. I believe you and in you . Integrity is a virtue one presents , in your case a boy to a young man.

For all of ya's who wish you could hit the "Like This" button more than once... clik 'til yer heart's content if for no other reason than to just feel good.... :D

Being yourself and happy being yourself is healthy for the soul. Good to hear things are brightening up.

If it was possible to exchange parts, I'd give you mine and I could have the ones you don't want anymore. You're braver than I am, brother. In the real world, I must keep my Jennifer to myself and be the man the world expects me to be and it's all because of a certain set of parts--the center of guilty pleasure and strange discomfort. That is why I'm so glad I found this website and I am able to hold teleconferences where I can put my masculinity on the shelf and be the lady I could never otherwise be, heck with my physical makeup and the undeniable male voice. There's just something weirdly wonderful about being addressed by a female name. Had I been biologically female, I would have actually been named Jennifer, but the closest I dare use that name is on a musical instrument. I gave that name to my autoharp, like B.B. King called his guitar Lucille. Anyway, I'm glad there are online places where I can ditch the maleness for a while.