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Hi Eve, it all sounds great except... the roast chicken "UK style with lots of gravy." I'm sorry but you need to come visit us here at my house! No gravy except for Thanksgiving dinner here!!! I hope you know I'm just kidding... I'm very happy you had a nice vacation. It sounds like a blast! Emma

Christie, I bet that a great emotional high in regards to "is everything OK here ladies?" and especially when not in full femme presentation. In the beginning they are moments to treasure and down the road you will surely find it commonplace which should still bring a smile be it inside and/or outside as it makes us less of a role and more of the person you were striving to be but now it's simply a compliment that the waiter is being courteous to whom is at the table and you will forget about the passing aspect altogether.

Karen, This was such a great entry! I especially look forward to your new posts based on where you are in transitioning as I start to look much more seriously at my own. It's enlightening to see where I could be in a couple of years (obviously everyone's experience is different, but certain issues, concerns and joys are no doubt shared by many!) At lunch the other day the waiter came up to me and my co-worker and said "is everything OK here ladies?" I was quite happy about that, especially since I wasn't in full femme presentation! Xoxo Christie

In regards to electrolysis on the upper lip, when mine was done they had me setup an appointment with a dentist so that I would go to the dentist, he would numb my upper lip then off to my electrolysis appointment where I usually feel asleep during a two hour session when first starting the upper lip. Personally I had heavy hairs on the upper lip from constantly shaving so when going out as a female it was pretty well hidden but sadly made those hairs heavier.

Hi Lisa, With regard to electrolysis, I found that the moustache area is very sensitive, if you find that rings true for you too, try getting hold of some Emla Cream. I applied it starting an hour before "face torture" repeated 3 times after the first application dried, so aprx every 20mins. This took much of the sting out of the process, I also take 4x Ibuprofen an hour beforehand too. Hope this is helpful to you. Cheers, Eve

Hi Monica, I sense some deep sadness in your entry. Don't knock yourself down, I'm sure many people would be interested in you. I know, that's fine for me to say that, because I also do the same sort of self deprecating things, you might see that in my latest blog entry ,specifically to do with mental capacity................... Whatever my shortcomings and I'm sure I have many, such as I'll never have a shapely body with such broad shoulders and narrow hips, I'm old, I'm not good looking and cute, my voice is terrible and will never be very femme, not well off financially et al, others still like & love me. Point is, if I can overcome all that crap, you can too. A persons inner self which I think used to be referred to as their persona will always shine out, and ok you refer to it as demisexuality, but if you really like some one, and they really like you, the sex bit will likely arrive at some point later. To my mind anything else is shallow, and to an extent false. Second point is that your persona does shine out girl, hold on to it it's great.......... Cheers, Eve x

Monica, thats very humourous, I was thinking of having them pinned to my dress as a person learning to be a woman....................... Eve x

Dear Brigsby, i agree with you. I've heard many complaints about the Bruce Jenner interview. "Bruce should have said." "Diane Sawyer wasn't as respectful as she could have been." Blah! 17 million people watched that show and indeed, they kept emphasizing very important points, such as gender dysphoria doesn't equate to sexual desire, and so forth. i think the interview was Fantastic on many levels and I'm very happy that Bruce did it (imagine the courage THAT took) and that Diane Sawyer was the interviewer. I loved every minute of it. Emma

Eve, Please do not get "L plates" on your cars, as my partner and I, as well as other Lesbians, have had their cars vandalized over it. Glad to see that you enjoyed your vacation! Monica

That all sounds so wonderful! Both the travel and the response you got!

I think if you look at this from your mother's perspective that perhaps there is another path to working with her to cope and understand what you are going through could help with her coming to terms with the true you. Just last night I was watching “New Girls on the Block” which is about five transwoman where on last night’s episode one of them meet with her mother and for the first part of the meeting the mother kept calling her by her male name and had difficulties coming to terms with her transition but finally came around and partly because of how her new daughter presented herself not only in dress but also through true heartfelt emotions. Some people need time to digest such a change and hopefully this will be the case with your mother. In regards to "your mother's perspective", remember she gave birth to a male and has strong ties to this so best to keep this in mind. I would strongly urge you to purchase a copy of True Selves” and let her read the book as it may provide a different insight to what you are going through to find the real you. Concerning not letting people treat you with disrespect, that is the right attitude but choice your words wisely if it comes to the need to express yourself when you feel disrespect. First and foremost, put on a genuine smile if possible which is a method from Verbal Judo (this is a book on Amazon), take a second or two to collect your thoughts and respond back (if possible) in a calm manner if they are hostile to deescalate if need be. You need to educate them and also let them know you will not take being disrespected at any level. Think about this in regards to the above where I suggest de-escalation. If you grab the hand of a child who is upset and forcefully pull them they instinctively will pull back but take their hand gently with soft spoken words that still have intent they are less likely to resist. Same should hold true when in a conversation on educating someone who has been mean or harsh to you, don't raise yourself to their level but instead calm them down with kindness but to stay in control. I have used various techniques on criminals and the majority of the time they work but of course there are some who will still not comply, same can happen with your plight but well worth trying these types of verbal judo out. Regardless of the above, I am very happy for you as it sound things are on the right track with hormones and hair removal