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Dear Mikah, Agree heartily with Eve and Christie! If I was not told, I would have assumed your picture was that of a cisgender female! You have beautiful hair, skin and smile! Mikah, you are welcome at my book club anytime! Please, I beg everyone, do not self-destruct in any way, as God made you beautiful women, inside and out! Your friend, Monica

I agree with Eve, from the picture you are very definitely passable! Being prompted by a question from a friend and then a TG book (within a day of each other) I started thinking about the question of what I think I'll look like. It must be fairly common to fantasize that you'll be a hot 20-something, but I don't think I can go from 48 yo man to that xoxo Christie

From what I see in your photo, after 2 yrs of HRT you are definately passable, and I wish my face was half as femme as yours ! Can't see how you wouldn't end up in a loving relationship with whichever gender you choose. Believe in yourself girl ! Eve.

What wonderful photos! You look gorgeous

So far I'm just doing this unofficially, I haven't started any legal name change yet - that will be daunting, but worthwhile I'm going to "live with" this for a while and see how it feels before taking that step (since it involves a legal proceeding)

I'm very happy for you Christie, hope it doesn't get too "full on" with your name change and doc's, it really did for me in December and January. Others have said they had an easy time of it, hope that'll be the case for you. Not sure of how it works in the US, but I pretty immediately had to change my name at HMRC (Income tax) too. If you drive whilst at work you will probably need to change your licence too? and so it goes on.......... Hugs, Eve

Eve and Karen, I do need to work on the hair - my current hair style is more feminine than what I used to have, but I'm not quite as good at getting it right as my stylist is Ideally it should sweep across and down, diagonally covering much of the forehead. I'll definitely get more alone time, especially now that summer is approaching! I typically spend a lot of time by the river when the weather is nice enough. And i always have a notebook with me, I know that writing out my thoughts helps me move past the initial thought and explore more deeply. Yesterday I initiated the change in my name at work. I told both of my supervisors, human resources, and a bunch of other staff members who i work regularly with. I knew I was going to, but hadn't really anticipated the level of anxiety it would cause during the day! On top of "upping" my make-up (adding lipstick and eyebrows), it was an interesting day. Fortunately I got a lot of very positive feedback from co-workers, so the day ended very very well xoxo Christie

Christie, My honest opinion is when I first looked at your picture I saw FEMALE staring back at me, no doubt in my mind. Now with that said I have to agree with Eve in that you need to fashion your hair in the front one way or another to complete the look. Perhaps next weekend if time and money allow with a comfort level go to a hair stylist, tell them about yourself and ask "what can you do with my hair to give it a female look?" My guess is, again as Eve indicated to drop the hair to cover your forehead. Get the right hair stylist and I truly believe afterwards people seeing you in public will not see a male but a female. And I will say it again, all I see is female On the note about alone time, sounds like it got some results be in positive or negative and remember one time is not enough, find time again and ask yourself these questions again and any new ones. You even might consider writing them down and your responses to the questions so that you can go back to them again and also bring them with you to a therapist appointment for a discussion point or two.

Hair that drops forward to cover the forehead! See my gallery and me in the restaurant in purple. You've already seen me in my black dress and pearls, see my hair - well my wig anyway! Eve xoxo