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Roxanne, As above comments, plus I was 55 when I first came out to my wife, it's been gradual since, but I am now totally Eve & 59. I well remember the pleasure I felt getting rid of my male clothes. I hope that you have a good appointment with the Doctor you mentioned and that you have a productive session with your Endocrinologist, I found oestrogen wonderful, and testosterone blockers to be a truly amazing "game changer". But a word of caution, please , please be sure it's what you want, it doesn't take long with this treatment to reach the "point of no return". Good Luck & Cheers, Eve

Dear Roxanne, Am so proud of you! It is never too late! So glad to hear of your children's support and that you have removed yourself from that toxic situation! Every Fall and Spring, I do a deep clean, and, as part of that, I try on all my clothing. If anything does not fit well or no longer looks good on me, I either donate it to charity, or, throw it out. This is therapeutic in itself! You go, girl! Yours truly, Monica

May the point of no return come and go. I am very ready and looking forward to all the wonderful and permanent changes this will bring me! Thank you so much for your kind words Eve...breaking the isolation is a very important part of transition and you are helping with this! Roxanne

Dear Christie, As a cisgender Lesbian, I can attest to the fact there are a lot of divisions in the Lesbian community, as well. Whenever you get two or more people together, you will find "politics"! Everybody has a different "style." Some people are "young at heart," and others, "are older in spirit than their physical age." As for me, it varies, depending how I feel. When I feel good, I feel very young, and when I am in a lot of pain, I feel older, sometimes much older, than my age. Think that some women are criticized when they dress much younger than what they are, such as dressing as a teenager when they are decades older, for somehow "trying to be something that they are not." Have noticed that when we reach various "turning points" in our lives, starting at puberty, we start "experimenting" with different styles of behavior and clothing. This continues throughout our lifetime, but is most obvious at puberty, and when coming out as TLGB, what I call, a "second puberty." The reality is that we ALL are transitioning, throughout our entire lives, as our outsides struggle to keep up with our insides! Your friend, Monica

Roxanne, Congratulations on starting your transition! I'm also 48 years old (for another week anyway), and just started myself in the past few months (after a couple of years of cross-dressing without acknowledging being trans). It can be a challenge, but it's worth it for the emotional relief - as you mentioned! xoxo Christie

Best wishes for your birthday and vacation

In regards to changing gender on your SS, in Oregon the law is the same BUT as I learned was once I had my driver licence changed the SS process was fine changing my gender prior to bottom surgery. No change in birth certificate was needed. Sorry to hear you can't do the same.

Karen, Wonderful advice! I'm fortunate to have a very strong support system, in terms of friends, co-workers, and medical professionals (family not so much - my cousin and his husband are supportive, but not really anyone else so far, though there's been no open hostility - fortunately I didn't have the closest family relations anyway). My doctor, in fact, when I told him initially the very first thing he asked about was my support system - both in terms of a therapist (I love my current therapist!), and friends, etc. He's always been very good in that respect, he takes a very holistic view of medicine. xoxo Christie

That's how I felt the second I realized I couldn't pretend anymore.

Benjamin, That's so great - congratulations! I actually just got my letter this week as well, and immediately forwarded it to my endocrinologist! And you're right, it can be a difficult journey, but it's absolutely worth it! My own depression lifted almost immediately when I finally openly acknowledged being trans, and it has stayed away ever since. xoxo Christie

Yeah, we can be a fractious lot!, but that's not just us, it's people at large! Eve

Monica I can't agree more. We all are spiritually growing with the beliefs, knowledge and social acceptance. But we still get those stinted minds that refuse change and only grows hatred. My school life was filled with questions from others and dictatorship, not that I allowed people to rain on my parade, throughout my primary and high school life. I do understand American terminology even though I live in South Africa. Michele

thanks everyone ill post another blog entry after my shift tonight, lots of love!! Warren UPDATE: Super tired lol ill try and post tomorrow. much love!