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Thank you all for the feedback. I feel much better. I found myself doubting myself again today, but it was very fleeting. It typically is fleeting. I think that a lot of it is triggered by the unknown. This will take me time to get used to. Right now my breasts are sore and growing like gangbusters. Lots of changes, mentally and physically. Just trying to take it in stride. What I most like about all of this, is my personality. I am so much more of a humble person now and laid back. Other than those crazy moments, I am the opposite of a drama queen. Very even keeled. Not having the T in my system has overall lowered my anxiety, aggressive behavior. I've always been a gentle person and soul, but I am much more calm and understanding. I really like that! It just suits my personality and I feel like I belong to the human race for the first time in my life.

Thanks for sharing and the best of wishes for a flawless presentation(s).

Thanks for your thoughts Monica!!!

Dear Lisa, Just to let you know, women's breasts are seldom exactly the same size (although mine were, before I had a biopsy the size of an egg removed from my left breast at 9 O' Clock, where my breast contacts my left arm). Interestingly, the last two months my breasts suddenly enlarged (along with other bodily changes), before the hot weather started, and my nipples became very tender. Am post menopausal, and I do have annual mammograms (thank God, clean). Saw the doctor last Monday, for a complete physical and blood workup, and I will let you know what she has to say. Would suggest you invest in some sleeping bras, as they will help you get a good night's sleep. Wish they had them in my size! LOL! Your friend, Monica

Dear Karen, First the toes! ABSOLUTELY love that color and design! Glad you received feedback from other women as they can see your facial expression while you look at various colors and designs, thereby cluing them into what looks good on you. Obviously, you can't see your own facial expressions, so it is good to shop with women whose fashion savvy you can trust. About weapons in the restroom. Think it would be safest to place them on the tank of the toilet or on top of the toilet paper dispenser, rather than on the floor. My philosophy is that if I feel the need to carry a weapon to be somewhere, then I shouldn't be there at all. About cravings . . . when I feel a craving, I try to go without indulging eat for two or three days, and, if the craving is still there, then, what the *el*, I'll indulge it! Sometimes I will psychoanalyze myself, and ask myself, what is going on in my life? Personally, I do not allow potato chips, soda (not even diet), hot dogs, etc., in the home, but, I must confess, even though I have cut back, I still enjoy various forms of chocolate in the home! Interesting, even though I have cut back on salt, fat, and sugar, I have noticed that my body shape has changed (my chest has lost inches, my bra cup larger, waist gained six inches yet lost pounds). All my life, my chest and waist sizes were the same. For the first time in my life, they are not. Have seen my doctor about it last Monday. What concerned me the most, is that this happened rather suddenly, even before the hot weather hit. Have heard women's bodies change through the lifespan, but not suddenly, say, within two months. Had a complete physical and blood work done, and will let you know what she says. Karen, we DO live in changing times. Today I would not live in Sheepshead Bay, Brooklyn, especially as a single woman. Am amazed how much gratuitous violence I am seeing in NYC and other large cities, for no reason, at all. According to my best friend, my old neighborhood is no longer recognizable. In your case, you do not "look" Gay. BUT, you are an attractive lady, that looks years younger, and there are troubled men who resent/hate women to watch out for. To sum up, WE MUST LOOK OUT FOR ONE ANOTHER. Your friend, Monica

Hi Lisa, As Karen has said questioning yourself is pretty normal, and in the middle of the night, how similar to my experience, I used to worry and question myself with "What the hell are you doing?", only it gets less and less as time has passed. Now, I don't worry anymore about gender I'm just Eve, me and myself (and as Veronica has said so acurately you are a singularity, oh and do not confuse or associate that with being a freak ,as so many ignorant morons do so glibly). I didn't worry about being male much before I transitioned, I'd had years of practice being male, but I just wanted to be female LoL. Similarly after a bit of practice being (or perhaps appearing might be a better term) female I don't worry about it anymore. I hope that this helps you, Cheers, Eve

Lisa, you should never have to be sorry here for as you call it a diva dump as this is one place to do it. Having listening to many on the path to transitioning you are no different then the majority out there so feel good about that whether you question yourself or not as this is better now than later so do the questioning now. As I have told others get to a calming quite place and be true to yourself, that is going through your mind asking questions and also writing them down, why I should transition and why I should not transition and always be truthful.