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Dear Christie Anne, I LOVE your name! Thank you for the link to the NJ name change paperwork . . . Your friend, Monica

Brigsby, Wow, I would like to say that I can't believe that line of questioning (about masturbation, etc.), but sadly I can. I could see some questioning of sexual interest and/or fantasies, but positions!?!? Wow. I was discussing that part of the procedure with my therapist the other day and the fact that you need letters from 2 people to be approved for surgery. Neither of us knew if that meant I'd have to see a second psychologist (or something) for a few months. When I see my endocrinologist next week I'm going to ask about surgeon referrals so that I can start talking to them about what exactly is required. It sounds like at least in that area our 2 countries are similarly annoying (to say the least) about the process. "Informed consent" should really be enough. I'm a f*@#ing adult!!! Anyway - good luck! Christie

Warren, That's so great to hear about your job! Having a supportive work environment is so incredibly helpful (my own has been, some people here seem almost excited about it). It seems strange that top surgery would have an HRT requirement, after all there are certainly women who get it done who aren't transgender. And it seems like even if you weren't transgender it would be something you'd want. And that was a great video - and once again well-timed, at least for me (I recall your video explaining pansexual vs. bisexual happened right after I had been thinking about the subject, mere hours earlier). I filed my name change papers in New Jersey this week - I'm changing to Christie Anne (Christie was my birth middle name, Anne just sounded good - and it's Debbie Gibson's middle name, without the "e"). The filing fee in NJ is $250, and you also have to publish in a statewide newspaper both the court date (in case anyone wants to object) and when it's finalized, which I've been told typically takes about 4 months, so I should have it done around November (which works out nicely, by then I should be on HRT for a couple of months). In case anyone else reading is in NJ, here's a link to the name change paperwork - https://www.judiciary.state.nj.us/prose/10551_namechg_adult.pdf xoxo Christie

Sounds like things are looking up for you Warren. Best to take time to consider all options so that you are fully aware of how the final result will be as I have seen a few that were less than acceptable.

Dear Warren, Am very large chested myself (40 J cup, yep, that's right, 40 J cup!) and only my conservative view of surgery stops me from getting them removed (not because I am transsexual), but because they are so irritating! My suggestion you look at other surgeons (on the Internet) was for your own edification, not to meet them. Just to look at the pictures on their websites and see how top surgery can vary. By the way, out of curiosity, I DID look at various surgeons' top surgery pictures, and find little variation, in all due respect to surgeons' skill. This is VERY IMPORTANT as you will live with it for LIFE. Realize you are frustrated, but this is one step in your becoming a man (remember, you are ALREADY a man, just in the wrong body!) Please keep us posted. Your friend, Monica