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Hey Ren, Glad I get to be first to wish you a merry Christmas. Certainly sorry to hear about you, your mom, and Kai. But then again, at least you get to (finally) see her on the 11th, so that's something to look forward to. And good on you for getting so far ahead of most of us on shopping, wrapping, and cards. You're amazing, man. I haven't even started. It's also good to hear that work is going well especially after all of the trials and tribulations in your past gig, right? It'd be fun to hear more about how that's going for you. Sorry to hear you can't see a therapist. No, you're not a TG dope by any stretch. I don't know about MPD. I think we all have little conversations with ourselves. I've read that it's mostly about our mind's automatically trying to sort things out as they come, to make sense of them, to see if there is danger - that sort of thing. If you're interested, read Thinking Fast and Slow. But you'd better be really interested 'cause it's a very thorough treatment of the subject. Anyway, maybe the other guy inside you is that alter-ego we all have that, like you, is pissed off about his being restricted from fully expressing himself as he is. But I do wish you could see a therapist to talk this out. Sounds like it would be a very fruitful thing to do. I like your photos! To me it says a lot positive about someone who, while otherwise feeling pretty crappy and down, is able to get their shopping done, set up the Christmas displays, and plan for a haircut. Keep writing and letting both you and Alex vent. Can't hurt and possibly will help. And definitely, send your photo with your new haircut! Hugs, Emma

Hiya Karen. I Personally have a dormant Facebook account, but, when I have got some spare time, I will close it down. I dislike Facebook, and I think that it it more trouble, than it is worth. Karen, it makes no difference to how I feel about You as a Friend. Karen You are a lovely lady. Karen, Take Care, and My Very Best Wishes, Stephanie. xx

Hiya Jay, and Karen. Karen, that is One Expression, that I will have to remember. It Is a Simple, but, Effective Expression. Jay, this is the thing about TGGuide, when Lovely Friends, like Karen Payne, give advice like that, which is Great. Karen, Thank You. Jay, and Karen, enjoy the rest of the Weekend, Take Care, and My Very Best Wishes, Stephanie. xx

Many people need time and space to reconcile with these matters so it's usually in one's best interest to do so. When I made my announcement to most people the phrase "I am still the same person you always known, that has not changed" was spoken and believe it carried much weight. Continued best wishes in your journey.

Hiya Jay. Thank You So Much, for Your Kind Words, Young Man. Your Kindness is very much appreciated. I have known My Best Mate, since We were very Young, and We normally telephone each other, 4 or 5 times a week, every week. He and I have been, and always will be, totally supportive, of each other. I have another Good Mate, who is also very supportive. He is Not worried, if, when We meet up, I Am wearing a top or blouse and skirt, or a dress, or ladies leather trousers, or jeans. But, My Best Mate knows about TS/TG People, and so He is totally supportive. I have My 9,Year-Old Son, is My Best Friend, as well as being My Son. He loves Me Wearing lovely Female Clothes, and He has even helped Me to Choose Some, and helped Me buy some. Jay, I Am so Glad, that You and Your Lovely Husband, are so close. You lucky chap. I hope that things continue to go from strength, for You Both. Jay, as for Family, My Parent's helped to blow Our Extensive Family, right apart, Very Many Year's Ago. I have Not spoken to them since. Through other Family Member's, My Parent's could have contacted Our Children, Their Own Grandchildren, but, They have Not so much, as sent any of Our Children card's, or anything, ever ! They are just too roped up, in Their Own sad little lives ! Jay, Cherish Your Dad. He sounds like a Good Man. My Late In Law's, They were Great as Grandparent's. Sadly, They are no longer with Us, and Both Passed Away, after Serious Illnesses. Jay, I wish You and Your Husband, A Wonderful, Weekend. I Am just on a Bus, on My Regular Friday Evening Journey, to Pink Punters, The L.G.B.T. Nightclub, a few miles away from Home. Jay, Please stay in touch, Thank You So Much, for Your Kindness. Good Luck, Take Care, and My Very Best Wishes, to You, and Your Husband, Love Stephanie. xoxo

Thank you for your words, Stephanie. I understand what you're saying but I'm saddened by reading your comments. You're right about friends being our choice and family not. I chose my husband a long time ago and it seems I chose well. I hope your friends are supporting you properly. Take care of yourself.

Hiya Jay. My Own Wife, does Not like the fact that I AmAm a MtoF Transitioning Transsexual. ( I Came-Out to Her, on 30th. April, 2015. ) Yet She has been cheating on Me, for 2 Year's now, with Other Men, and Other Women. ( She is a Real Hypocrite ! ) If She was supposed to be meeting up with another ( Person ), and They have had to Postpone it, She Will gouge My Arm's with Her Finger-Nail's, out of Spite ! ( She Has been doing that for Year's. She has even gouged My Lower Eye-Lid's, and My Neck, over the Year's ! ). Jay, there is an old Yorkshire, England saying - "There's nowt so queer as Folk !". Jay, "You can choose Your Friend's, but, sadly, You cannot choose Your Family. Your Friend's, They Are the Family, Who You choose for Yourself !" These expression's, are so Very True ! I want out of Our Home, and Marriage, it may well be in The New Year, now. I Am left to do Most of the household chores, so Family reaction's, They can be horrible. Jay, You and Your Husband, Look After Yourselves, and Each Other. Good Luck, Take Care, and My Very Best Wishes to You Both, Stephanie. xoxo

Hi Jay, I feel so sorry for you and especially your husband, how does he feel after the tirade from your brother, perhaps he'll need some support now? It's difficult with families, I have a brother who totally ignores me I think we might have spoken 3 sentences in the last 4 years, and I sentence each way to his wife when her father died, whom I had liked a lot when I was Steve, I wasn't invited to the funeral, and that made me quite sad. I think people just put their head in the sand and try to believe that it's not happening, I also think in my brothers families eyes they'd prefer it if I was dead, it wouldn't reflect badly on them then, and it'd provide a neat respectable answer or reason for my not being around. It does make me feel like never ever forgiving them, or talking to them again......... Well I knew that some doors would close whilst new doors would open at the start of my transition, and like you didn't expect such reaction from close family members, it's really hurtful, but only when I think about it............... Keep your chin up Jay, Hugs, Eve