ComedianSalemDjembe

Sounds like the Boise, Idaho meetings,sans the therapist, as we are all in someway a therapist to one another in our own ways.

I am very happy for you. Remember, whether you get on the train or not, whether you ride to the end of the line or get off to shop.. no matter what you do, it's yours to do it with. There is no right or wrong as long as you are owning your decisions. I appreciate what you wrote about the spouses. I am not married, but if I ever get maried, I hope that I will be the kind of husband that wants the best for the family.. and my selfish ways are deferred by comittment and love.

You have a gift of words.

Personally, I like the word. It's six letters. It's short and to the point. I dont have to go into great detail about top surgery, addadicktome's, Testosterone or why after four years I am as gorgeous (though still hairless) as I am ever going to get. Sticks and stones will break my bones.. helllllll yes they will.

Call me a tranny anyday, but keep the actual physical assault weapons away from me.

Besides..... no one can hurt your feelings unless you give them permission and power to.

Tranny I can deal with..

So eloquently stated.

Beautifully worded. You may have been coached on pronouns, but the depth ans sincerity comes only from the heart, and it shows.

I agree with you both- communication is paramount to the success of a loving relationship."

While a valid and valuable argument to the positive, there is much to be said about a promise made should be a promise kept and when one of the marital parties throws in something that the other was not expecting (I am assuming, not knowing) then the blindsided party is naturally more likely to have some very distinct feelings of violation, or hurt, and maybe even fel like it is a direct assault on their own cisgen femininity.

Marriage is a gift that people give to each other. I mean lets face it, someone trusts you enough to get naked in frnt of you, to strip down to their deepest darkest secrets.. not just once like an emotional hit and run but every day. If they trust you to be there for them and trust that you will love them unconditionally, then you must be willing to tust as eqully that right from the start, you are acceptable to them as well, in all your secrets and nakedness. (general speak-you=all and anyone) And before one springs a surprise like someting they never new about or bargained for like cross dressing, you should be willing to unveil your secrets as well. Communication has to start from the start.

If I was married, and what I presumed to be our life together was suddnely disrupted by something like "Happy fifth anniversary, and Oh by the way, I have a fourteen year old that I never told you about" or "Hi honey, I got the groceries, milk was on sale, two for one.. I got your favorite ice cream, and by the way, I had an addadicktome in my late thirties and thats why you can't get prenant now, which shelf did you say you want me to put the butter on?" yeah that just doesn't work. Comunication is key but for a marriage to thrive and be healthy, both parties have to communicate from the start.

We need to take care of one another. If we don't who will? No one deserves to die, but I won't sit back and pretend that this senseless death has done any good in the world.

With her intelligence, she could have gone on to do great things. She is not my concern at this point, anymore than anyone that I have loved that has moved on. My concern is all of us still here. She matter(ed) and we still matter. We need to take on our 'siblings' and protect each other, but also to hold one another accountable for our actions.

If we don't, more good kids will die alone. I wonder if Leelah was crying as she saw the headlights of the semi-tractor. Was she ready? Did she have second thoughts too late? Was she already feeling comitted like she couldn't back out because her letter would post before she could get back to it Did she fear retribution of her family more than she wanted to live? Did pride give way to a straight road to death? There are so many unanswered questions. Things we will never know..

I don't have the answers. I just know we need to love each other, more than we do.

I am usually pretty long winded.. so I'll just say "Thank you, for not giving up and continuing to inspire"

I got lost in all the family frama stuff. I am an only child, so all of that makes no sense.

What makes sense is that you are in the right place. You are cared for here and we don't mind reading stuff that was meant for your therapist. We're so cheap.. we're easy.

Bring it. Everything you say has value to it.

No shave november? I'm native American.. no freaking problem.

I will never give up the sound of music... I will never know what it sounds like coming out of my mouth again... Its the price I paid for sanity.