I agree the sick part is the abuse and murder, I hate that they focus on the panties and stuff, just trying to sell papers. This has nothing to do with gender identity and everything to do with being a killer. Media is constantly ticking me off.
Oh Bonnie I am so sorry you are all having to go through this, it's got to be horrible. I really think that as hard as it is, it is the best thing. Hard to believe i'm sure because of all the pain. To be honest, i didn't understand what benefit there was really to her with you coming back home. does she really want a husband there who is just 'acting' the part? As a wife myself, I can't imagine wanting my husband to stick around if i knew that he was only playing a part, what's the point. As far as your kids are concerned, I think they will come around. they will understand that what happened here was no ones fault, intent is what matters, and you never wanted in any way to hurt anyone. They are just kinda in shock, and reacting protectively with their mother. No human being can be happy unless they can be their true selves, especially with their loved ones, and you never had that.
I'm sure the rest of the month is going to be stressful on you and your family until you move, i wish the best for you. Love Kim
Oh Bonnie I was worried that this would happen. I was worried that you were going back because of the cancer diagnoses, and who could blame you for wanting to be surrounded by a safety net of people who love you when you are facing something scary. I wondered if after you settled in there and were finishing up with your treatment and getting back to your life, that you would be less afraid, and maybe feel even more that you need to be true to yourself. There is no easy answer, I am thinking about you though.
Dawn congratulations on your ongoing weight loss! I am hell-bent to lose some weight before summer as I want to wear short sleeves and tank tops and not see my sausage like arms. thank the lord I am tall so i dont look completely beach ball like, but i could sure lose 20 pounds and look much better. less jimmy dean like. so cough up the secret!
That's a bummer Janey, you had some cool outfits. Did you actually have to throw all the stuff out? The boots too? You did not throw those boots out! That had to be tough. Do you wear the clothes with your wife around, or does she not want you to dress period? I'm not sure quitting is likely being you enjoy it so much, just may have to keep a little more quiet about it. ~Kim
This has been a very interesting thread to read. I think all parties have been very thoughtful in their posts. I can only give perspective from a non tg person, but I believe that for the greater good of the ts/tg community, I have to lean towards GirlInside's view. I think if there had already been much progress made in the acceptance of tg folks by the general public, it may be great to begin showing the lifestyles of folks like Thomas Beattie, but I know that from what I see in my day to day life, and from working in a predominantly male office of all sorts of guys, blue collar, white collar and everything in between, stories like this do not further the acceptance of tg folks in their mind, it is the opposite. Pretty much a story like this is viewed by the general public as something pretty freakish. If the tg people do gain general acceptance down the road, it won't be through hearing stories like this, or by seeing the media go ape over over-the-,top drag queens, but by a slow assimilation of transgendered folks into their spaces, ie: work, school, TV and community in a non threatening and non-sensationalized way. I personally would love for that to happen. I'm not saying I like that this is the way it is, quite the contrary. But this is the way I see it.
The dude will be on Larry King tonight 9pm Eastern. I've seen enough of him myself. Why can't he just go away and have have the kid and shut up? I don't mind him having the kid, I mind him being on my TV.