Veronica, thank you for those kind words and your support. I don't want anyone to cry, though. :-)

I have never loved someone so much that I am willing to let her go and be happy. At times it is upsetting and heartbreaking for me because she has been everything to me. At the same time, I have grown being married to her and in my walk with the Lord. Love is and should be unconditional. Otherwise it is not really love. And I love her unconditionally.

I really do hope she finds a wonderful guy. And I am hopeful that my children handle it well. Both my transition and the new guy. Whomever that is or will be.

Dear Lisa,

Wow, your post touches on one of my deepest fears. I'm glad for you that you seem to be handling it okay.  That said, I hope you have someone near by that you can talk to and, maybe, grieve with.  

I'm like you in that as a woman I'm very much a lesbian.  I guess that if I was to transition I might explore myself with men but as it is now I cannot imagine it. But I would like to have the door held open for me from time to time. :-)

You have my very best wishes,

Emma

Hiya Lisa. I can totally understand where You are in Life. My own Wife, has been cheating on Me, for about 1 1/2 Year's, with other Men, and other Women. I " Came-Out " as a MtoF Transsexual, on 30 the. April, 2015, to My Wife. On 1st. May, 2015, I started Buying and Wearing Female Undies and Clothing, and being " Out " in Public, on the Same Day, as well. Lisa, You are so gracious, in Your attitude towards Your Wife. ( We have 3 Special-Needs-Children, ages 14 ; 11 ; and 10 .  Hence the Only reason, We are still underunder the same roof, but, Our Physical Relationship is long over ! ).  If I were to find another Trans-Woman, who lived fairly close-by, who I were to get in a relationship with, I would be happy enough. It might never happen, but, who knows !  Lisa, I Love Your Gorgeous Photograph's By the way. You are a Very Beautiful, Pretty, Young Lady. Lisa, I Wish You All the Best for the Future Honey. Have a Good Evening. Take Care, And My Very Best Wishes, Hugs, Stephanie. xx 

Dear Lovely Lisa,

As a cisgender Lesbian mid-butch, my heart goes out to you.

When I dated (for ten years) the love of my life, a transwoman who identified as a mid-femme Lesbian, the Lesbian community turned against me, saying I was not a Lesbian, but must be a bisexual, and that I was certainly not a butch!  Certainly I know who I am!

The only comment that I would like to make about your situation is that very likely your wife was attracted to your feminine energy and found you "very different than all the men I have dated in the past."

Please allow yourself some time to heal, before dating again, and I would strongly recommend you (and your wife, too), get counseling, even if you feel you don't need it, to be sure of where you stand, before proceeding.

My heart goes out to both of you.

Yours truly,

Monica

Monica,

Thank you! I have been trying to get my wife to go to counseling or support groups for families and spouses and she has thus far resisted.

I think you are right about being drawn to my "feminine energy". It's interesting, but several ex-girlfriends have said that breaking up with me was their biggest regret. I think many love my sensitive side but sexually need a man, so it just doesn't work out.