Dear Jessica,

What breaks my heart is that the children suffer the most.  

Sadly, presently the adoption rules are changing constantly, not only in the U.S., but also other countries, such as Russia.  

An adoption lawyer, particularly one with international experience, should be involved from the beginning.

My question for the two fathers:  why use a surrogate, especially overseas, when there are so many children already here, both in the U.S. and overseas, that need loving parents?

Your friend,

Monica