General Transgender Discussion

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I've been living as myself, a woman for over four years now, post-op for over three ... I am who I always wanted to be, a strong woman working in my chosen field as an artist and have appreciated a full life. We (my partner and I) moved a year and a half ago to a fairly small town an hour or so from Toronto Canada ... recently a non-eventful visit to my (now not so) new Dentist required that a treatment be submitted to my insurance company, a fairly normal thing. Keep in mind now my legal name was changed some four years ago and after several visits to a couple different (because of moving) Dentists per year for check-ups and cleanings have caused no problems as my name h…

What prompts a person to claim being attacked when s/he really wasn't? In the past 2 or 3 years, I've read a few articles about lesbians claiming to have been attacked (Charlie Rogers, Dayna Morales - to name a few), alleging a hate crime against TGLB people. Recently, there has been a trangender student claim to have been attacked while coming out of the men's room in school. He later recanted his story. Do these people believe they are helping to change things for TGLB people? What could possibly be going through their minds when they report crimes that never happened? And with today's technology, do they really believe they will not be found out? Seems t…

No, I'm not venting! I have had this thought in my head for a couple of weeks. It's good to let all the frustration and tension out of your system. Whether its posting here, writing in a journal, creating a blog,or just screaming in an empty room, getting out all the negative vibes is therapeutic. Once that's done, creative and positive ways to resolve issues can be thought of. I read numerous posts of people who vent. I do understand what they go through. I created a blog when I was dealing with my gender issues in 2005 (still have the blog). I posted everything that was on my heart. One one particular night I posted until three in the morning. I was emotionally drai…

"Because the word is predominantly aimed at trans women, with us as the joke, it is only trans women who can “reclaim” it if we so choose. While I’m certain some trans men have had the word thrown at them, it’s not theirs to reclaim. While I’m sure drag queens have had the word thrown at them, they have the benefit of being able to wash off their makeup, take off their dress, and fade back into their male lives. I don’t have that luxury. This is my life. This is my identity, not an activity, and not a hobby. This is who I am, forever trans, forever vulnerable to the damage this word can cause." -Parker Marie Malloy, It's Time to Stop With The T Word, advocate.com I'm …

Hey everyone. So I don't know who else get's this feeling. I'm a part of a support chat room...thing and I get mixed reactions. Of course there's that one head strong woman who "Understands" but makes you feel like disappearing every time she's there. ANYWAY. Yesterday at work, I was feeling extremely inadequate next to the people I work with, why? Because their all cisgender. All I could think was that I wish that I was born like them. Personality wise, yeah i may be like every other 19 year old, but here's this one "Trait" of mine that isn't. Every time I'm in a classroom full of people or with friends I'm automatically clouded with absolute depression beca…

Does anyone know of a primary physician (HMO) in the Los Angeles area? Andrea

A day does go by that I read of another transgender woman killed. Brazil has the most trans murders followed by Mexico then the United States. With the increased visibility and many ordinances for trans people becoming law, the vitriol and violence has been wratcheted up a few notches. The United States is one of the biggest exporters of anti-TGLB hate to places like Africa, Jamaica, and eastern Europe. Here is where we must be vigilant. Two projects of mine is to refute the lies that passing protections for transgender people will affect religious rights. The other is that I will demonstrate that transgender people were front and center at Stonewall and other movemen…

As I have mentioned before, I transitioned on the same job I still work at today. Where I work nights the only people I am around are the security guards. It did take some time for them to get used to the change. Anyway, last night I was talking to one of the guards. At one point he asked if he could ask me a question. He asked,"Did you always know you needed to make the changes you made? I told him I knew from my first thoughts. He then asked, "Why did you not make the change sooner?" I told him until the year 2000,being from small town New England, I didn't know it was possible. We had a great talk. He asked very respectful questions and was very interested in b…

I know this issue has been brought up here from time to time. In my 13 years of transitioning I have always dated transwomen. It always ends up the same way. My being told I am to masculine, and can we still be friends? The last transwomen I was in relationship with was long distance. I always called, sent her flowers and took the 500 mile ride to see her when I could. But it wasn't enough . I have looked at the trans dating sites out there and they really turn me off. Al this sexuality stuff. Is there any place to find real people?

From a spiritual perspective, as a trans sexual woman, I am intrigued by the shamanic tradition in indigenious people of two spirit individuals. In some tribes we are considered blessed with the connection to both genders. We are considered healers and the receipients of the tribes shamanic traditions for healing and spiritual quests. Does anyone else see the transsexual experience in this positive light? Does anyone have sources of information about this topic

Each year at this time, I set goal which I work to accomplish. It can be be anything from a reading goal to a writing goal to a personal goal. I have noticed to each year something about gender comes into play. Gender goals are harder to set because sometimes I may not be clear on what direction the goal will lead. Like life, gender is not stationary. I have considered some things off and on. Name change and transition are two things that come to mind. I believe most of you know my position about transitioning. Regarding the former, this possibility has gotten stronger. Really can't why except that throughout 2013 people viewed me as a woman. I'm no prophet but I ca…

Hey, Here's me again asking yet another question. Does/did anyone else ever have the issue that I am where you can't even focus on figuring out what you want to do with your future? I honestly spend more time thinking about trying to get out of my house and start transitioning, i really can't see a future without first being comfortable looking in the mirror. -Ty

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I know I ask an awful lot of questions, but as many of you know this is the first time that I'm open with myself and others about who I am. I wanted to know, because I'm in the process of looking for a new job, When would be the appropriate time to tell your employer about name/gender/pronoun business?

So I am not looking to discriminate against anyone. If anything I want to be a help. The obstacle that I face is not understanding people that question if they are trans or not. Or people, later in life, questioning their gender. I know for myself it is because I am an old fart. And for myself, it is because I have known since I was 4 years old. I do believe there is a generational gap in what it means to be trans today vs. 10 - 20 - years ago. I know I was 43 years old before I even knew that I could transition. That such a thing existed. And I jumped on it. And have no regrets. So, I'm not sure if my not understanding is because trans issues have become more…

So, I was put in charge (since I suggested) of the transgender day of awareness as my college and I'll be working with Pflag, who will probably be doing most of the presentation, but I want opinions as to what kind of things we should talk about. Being as this is my first semester of being "Out" on campus I don't really know what I should touch on for my club or for the community. Suggestions?

Hello, I'm a transsexual woman, I live in France near Paris. I'm a teacher and I've got a problem. My voice is androgynous (between male and female) and I think about voice surgery. My apparence is good, except I'm tall (1m84 which represents 6 feet) and my voice not that good. I'm 29 years old and I take hormones since 3 years.My ortophonist (the person which teach me to improve my voice) told me that there were a good technique in corea, so I'm thinking about it, and I would like to talk with people who had done this surgery. Excuse me for my english, thanks in advance, Tatiana

Does anybody have any advice on what career options would be suitable for a MTF transsexual? I am currently pre- everything so it has to be a job I can transition at. I have a degree, if that helps. Also, I am from the UK and I am quite good with people if that helps. Ty.

I read an article about transgender rights being twenty years behind gay rights. What the article neglected to say was the reasons why. Here is my feelings and the reasons. 1. Roadblocks Transgender people and drag queens were front and center at the 1969 Stonewall Riots. When the leadership positions were created, transgender people were pushed to the margins. During the 1970s and 1980s laws were passed by gay and lesbian organizations to keep us out and prevented us from accessing resources we desperately needed. People like Janice Raymond and others were major obstacles. 2. Cold Feet Here in New York in 2010 marriage equality was on the same docket as gen…

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Hi all, long time since I visited here, hope all are well. My question is about the word transition, I have read about people who abandon transition due to money, location, and the like. Does transition only mean physical changes? In my non tg mind, transition happens inside first, like for a M to F person, they are transitioned already inside, it's the clothing and appearance that matter so much? If money is the issue, but you are M to F inside, can't just simple clothes and maybe makeup be OK? Or does the meaning of the word Transition mean that hormones and/or surgery is necessary? I met a auto magazine reporter who was born male, and all they do is wear femal…

I always thought being fully transitioned was a physical thing. In the work I have done with my life coach this past year, I have come to realize it is so much more a mental thing. With the work I have done, it no longer bothers me that I have family that still wants to use wrong pronouns. I have come to realize that is their problem, not mine. I will even be spending Christmas with them . And if they can look at my hairy face and still call me a she...they are not too bright.

Hey, So today at 11:30 My club is doing a discussion on trans issues since for some reason, I don't know how to start the discussion at all. It's freaking me out completely because I'm the one who put this on our agenda. They're really trying to brush it off, the discussion i mean, but how do i make them more engaged in this, since the T is rarely ever discussed in our group. -Ty

Just heard a song from the past that reminds me how far we have come and how far we need to go. The song is George Thorogood, Bad to the bone. I remember back in 1990, I was dealing with a therapist that would not hear of my gender issues. I got so mad that I drove my car under her window, blasted this song and started dancing on my car. Yea, I ended up in a padded cell. But I look back on that and see that as my defining moment. The moment I said to the world....here I am. Just wondering, what was your defining moment?