General Transgender Discussion

I didnt want to sideswipe JessicaSideways topic so I started this one on the subject of 'admirers'. From being here a while i know that admirers seem to be frowned upon. And I am wondering if there is something that is inherent in an 'admirer' aside from the fact that they would prefer to be with a transgendered person. In a perfect world a straight biological man would prefer to be with a female, and that female could be cisgendered, or transgendered. But i don't think that is actually how the majority of men think, at least not yet. An admirer is someone who is attracted to transgendered people, and why is that objectionable. I have a cousin, she is not transgender…

Hi everyone, I just needed to kinda vent for a little bit and hope for some encouragement and stuff. Tomorrow, 3-23, I'm going to my first therapist session to move along and begin to fully transition to become a woman. I was lucky enough to find a therapist who works with people who are on a budget and specializes in people with GID. There are a million emotions that are going through my head right now and I can't wait to see how it'll go. I'm excited to really start my way to eventual SRS but nervous about opening up to a complete stranger. I'm worried about what my extended family will think and friends and everyone really. Also I'm a little angry with myself tha…

I'm going to get a new doctor soon (because I'm 18 now) and I plan on asking him to refer me to a therapist.I was wondering if anyone could give me at time line of what to expect, like how long before i start hormones and when i do start them what to expect in the first year.I was also wondering if since my mom is a 40D cup size(the women in my family are well endowed) and I'm less then a decade past puberty will i have decent sized breast? Oh, and i plan on dressing as a boy for as long as possible exactly when does it become noticeable?

First I am not afraid to be out of the ordinary. I call that extraordinary. Also if I use the word disorder in here I am going by the current diagnoses of Gender Identity Disorder. You may not think of yourself as disordered at all. I am not implying anthing by using the word other than the point that I am discussing in this thread. I was thinking about something rather philosophical this morning and I hope that you see a positive in this. I happen to enjoy watching Star Trek a lot with my family and they often use the word Anomaly to describe something that doesn't follow what they usually expect and they often do not have a lot of information about it. As you re…

Sometimes asking " what if? " can help solve certain problems. It is a way of thinking; Not for regrets but rather to ponder life and its possibilities. "What if" can help a person in decision making. Every goal starts as a dream. My dream is for greater social freedom because everyday I face problems that the rest of the world may never consider in their whole lifetime. What If? What if there was no electrolysis? What if we couldn't shave for some reason? What if there was no hormone therapy? What if I couldn't continue hormones? What if there was no SRS? What if I can't get SRS? What if there was no make-up? What if I can't wear make-up for some reaso…

Ok, so I have this really shi**y part time job until graduate school starts in July. I was in the break room yesterday, and they were bashing the gays and lesbians that works for us. They were talking about how many of them are homophobes and how they would literally drop everything and run away because they don't "want to get raped." I was so horrified over it. It was like 15 minutes of hell. I heard it from my own family the last thing i need to hear it from is my job. I looked on the internet and saw the company i work part time for is rated as the least friendly towards the GLBT community. Thank God i am only there for 4 more months.

How far have you gone with presenting how you feel and what is the most that you think you are willing to do to bend your gender. I use to be afraid to wear women's underwear under my clothes, now this is where I am at. wear nylons or womens panties all of the time. have shaved all of my body hair including my arms and armpits for years. now have a feminine hairstyle and longer hair. Recently pierced my ears. wear womens slacks and stretch jeans Wear womens shoes that could almost be masculine, but they have more height than a man's shoe Sometimes I wear light base make-up Sometimes I wear a bra I often shop in the womens section "as Is" and push myself to …

Living two lives?? I am happy with the life I have lived up to this point. The friends that I have know me as a male, and for years they have used my name with others and identified with who I am. What troubles me is my need to resolve my Gender Identity Crisis within myself. If I look at my life number one as presenting the real me but with a male costume on then I could present in life number one, looking at it as an acting job. I go to work, do my thing and go home. I currently do not have a social life. The only time people see me as a male is when I am performing or freelancing in my Video Business. The only other time people see me briefly is at church, w…

Ok I have been reading a lot around here for days. I would like some insight on this matter. My drivers license has a place for indicating SEX which will be M OR F. It does not indicate gender identity or sexual orientation. To me it would seem that there are many reasons why your drivers license should accurately indicate your biological sex. It may be embarassing at times but what about some good reasons for accuracy here. I am not absolutely sure about this but I think there could be emergency circumstances where a particular procedure or medication would be different for a male or female. If an officer calls in a victim who is barely alive needing assistance …

Well, after two weeks of pure hell, my mother finally kicked me out of the house. I am still in shock over it and very numb and I think that's my body's defenses kicking in so I don't have a mental breakdown. But, now I can honestly so without a doubt I have experienced the worse form of rejection from my family since coming out, short of murder. I have applied to a graduate school and Im hoping i can get in for their summer classes. This is all craziness

Does anyone have experience with having a little relief from transgender feelings by dressing another woman, Girlfriend, Spouse, Daughter. I originally thought that I might be cured when I got married because I could shop with my wife and enjoy seeing great looking clothes on her. Unfortunately my idea didn't last long because as soon as I had a chance I wanted to borrow my wifes clothes. This was a big problem because at the time she had lost a lot of weight and it was almost impossible to fit into her size. I also noticed how much prettier the smaller shoes were. So for a time a felt better about myself because I was reaching out to my wife, but then I felt like…

long story short, she did not respond well (for a lack of better words). I think she's kicking me out tomorrow. Actually, Im pretty sure. I lost my wife, children, job, home and now my mother and a roof over my head because of my GID. its not fair

So, I shoot a letter off to Some Company to inquire about some parts. I wrote a letter for a few reasons: ....1. I no longer like talking to anyone on the phone - just knowing that I will be "ma'amed" to death can sometimes bring on mild panic attacks. So I only do phone when I have to ....2. I could find no email address for Some Company ....3. I could have filled out one of those "email forms" on Some Company's website, but the page was not secure. Additionally, while they didn't require me to choose a title, they did require a phone number on this [unsecure] web form. Since I felt I was forced to use snail mail, as usual, I used only my initials and last name... …

How often do you replay these comments in your head? "Don't do this you are bringing shame onto this family" "Don't you care about your wife and children?" "It says right here in the bible, you are an abomination to God" "Take up your cross, suffering is a part of life" "You are bringing so much hurt to your family and friends why are you doing this? "Why don't you just let that part of yourself die so that we can get on with life" "We like you as you are, you will be causing so much trouble for us" "How can you do this to us?" "You are so selfish" "Your self-centeredness is going to destroy your life" "You are killing your career" "Why can't you shake this …

Hi I am 32 and started HRT only last week and all is going well so far, I was just wondering if any one could give me any idea of the breast size I could expect, I know it varies a lot for each person but would still like here for others about there experiences. Before I started HRT I was a 40AA almost a 40A I understand that I may loose some muscle from my rib area and chest. Thank you

I have spent the last year truly pondering my GID and what it means to me. I have had many dreams through the years and some opportunities have just simply past. The early fanatasies of turning into a little girl can never be. Having a little girl body, wearing pretty girl things, slumber parties, and roller skating and ice skating, just aren't going to happen. Having everyone see me as pretty in pink and being adored at parties, is one for that early age. The young sweet face that draws all the young men to dream and desire me is a thing of the past. Being a Cheerleader and Prom Queen just aren't going to be there either. Being a teenage girl has past, as well as …

Hey everyone I don't know if you read my blog but if you haven't you should so you can get a feel about who I am as I sorta dont wanna spam it here But, anyways, I wanted to post something and I do not mean to offend any other person who is not Christian. It isn't my intent and I want to apologize beforehand if I do. Long story short, I have been a children's minister in a fundamentalist church pretty much since I graduated Bible College in 1999. I'm 35 and when I told my wife of 10 years that I was transgender, I am transgender I will always be transgender and that I felt like I have always been a girl in my soul, she pretty much took our children and left me …

I love my girlfriend/my longtime friend Erin and she is glad I am in her life knowing I understnd her.Erin is just like me,a pre op ts and I supported her too although she supported me through my transition.She started when she was 21 and decided not to have the SRS also when she was 23.My G/F was not lucky through her transition from her father,her father walked out on her when she came out to him when she was was 21 years old.Her mom took the news very well and supported her.I am glad Erin is in my life too,she supported me and has taught me that I do not have to give up in my life being very strong.Finally 2 years ago she told me a secret that she was holding,Erin had …

Hi Everyone, I am kind of confuse about this subject. I read that permanent infertility is possible after 6 months of continuos use of hormones. Is that true? I mean, if someone stop using hormones at some point, everything goes back to what used to be before? I guess my question is: Is the infertility permanent as long as someone is under HRT? Thank you in advance to all! Andrea

Found this video on Youtube, meant to be one of these hypnotherapy things "Your Feminine Self" Rather entertaining, would help if you listened to it during your sleep.

My wife reminds me every day of how she can't live up to the supposedly perfect models on Television and in the magazines. I feel there is a distinct connection between Transgender people especially those with a male body and bio XX women who have masculine features or are simply dealing with weight and other self-esteem issues. It seems that for most of us there is this super self-consciousness of what people will think. In fact even those thoughts are feminine aren't they. What types of positive thinking methods could we use to remind ourselves each day that it's fine to work at being beautiful but the real beauty comes from within and in accepting ourselves as we …

I went and asked my pastor my gender confusion. Has been very comforting and compassionate toward me. He brought up some good questions for me to think about so I will post it here. "what is truly masculine and truly feminine" Is it all about clothing and feelings and emotion? Could it be possible that the goal for all human beings is to understand that these to areas of a personality are ok possesed partially in both sexes and that the only real problem is when we repress them? When we join with another human being that compliments us there can also be this sense of fulfillment and completeness. Could it be that many of us feel isolated and alone and …

I recently filled my gallery with the nicest pictures I could come up with for now because I was hoping it could help me feel better about myself. I always wanted to do this from little on, but I was afraid someone would find the pictures and we all know what kinds of things could happen after that. With some help from my wife I picked the ones I felt respresented how I feel on the inside the most. I personally am really excited about them but most of you probobly have no trouble seeing the physical man underneath the clothing. A life feeling so different on the inside versus what people see on the outside is sickening. I have tried to open up to close peop…

I recieved a job offer I could not turn down and took it.I work as a make up artist for a living,loving it and a hair/make up salon offered me a position as master make up artist.I said yes,my new boss Susan is excited.The currant workplace I am working at is my last week,shutting down due to bad mangement.I am excited and move my equipment in on Saturday.My new boss Susan is pretty nice,will treat me right although she knows I am a pre op ts.Susan is my mom's longtime friend and has known me for a long time.

I feel great my parents are in my life and still love me regardless.My parents care about me and I came over to see them today.It did go great to see them and they see I have a much better life now although my life as a boy was harsh.I am their only child and know I had a harsh life as a little boy.My mom saw at first,I fell in love with anything feminine at age 7 and never felt masculine.I was also teased and picked on a lot being called a lot of names which I will not mention.When I was 19,I told them the news I was going through the transition to become female not having the SRS.My mom supported me right away and told me she loved me regardless.My father cried at first…