Male to Female (MtF) Transsexual Discussion

Hi all. I am a 23 year old post op transsexual, having had my operation back in 2003. I've noticed that my sex drive has dramatically decreased since the operation and it's really messing things up with me and my boyfriend who i've been with for 2 years. I'm of course still on hormones but my sex drive just won't come back. I mean this is horrible, lol!!!! I feel totally satisfied with my results, body, myself in general aside from this. I just get irritated alot when my bf wants to engage in any sort of sexual contact and it's very bothersome for him and especially me knowing how sexual i used to be. I was wondering if any of you that are knowlegeable or post …

I want to come out so badly, I'm sick of walking around in this male body with everyone looking at me as a boy, but whenever I'm about to say this sentence to a friend "I'm transgendered and in a few years I plan to become a girl", it just won't come out of my mouth.

how long did it take for your breasts to grow in full? or able to walk outside with a chemisole, and not look like a young girl?

I'm a pre-op MtF and ever since I can remember I've prayed to God to PLEASE let me get pregnant. Although I know on an intellectual level that someone born with a penis isn't going to get pregnant, emotionally I can't help but to want to give birth to my own children. I know how insane this sounds, but I see this as one very big indicator that I have a female brain and tell psychiatrists about this thought when they ask why I think I want to have srs. Sorry if this bothers you, really, I just needed to get it out. :ph34r:

Hey girls! Sry its been such a long time since ive posted anything. I joined a while back, but hadnt been able to get on the computer very often. But anyways, I was wondering if any of you could answer two questions. One, do you know any tgirls in transistion or that have transistioned that are close to or around my height of 6'4? Also, does anyone know if their are many transsexual models out there? Since I'm 18 and now beginning hormones, I feel like I can transistion into a very passable girl, except for my size, and since models are so tall, I think that I could go into modeling sometime soon and it's something that I have wanted to eversince I can remember. I …

I'm just in a curious mood and can't sleep tonight. Who's on HRT (Hormon Replacement Therapy) MTF? How long have you been taking F hormones? Self medicated or with Dr. supervision. How do you feel about your HRT? Would you ever stop HRT? Even if you were told you had to. Has taking hormones changed your perspective on life? I have been on F hormones for a year and a half. One year and 3 months self medicating and 3 months with Dr. supervsion. I strongly recommend Dr. supervision. I am much more confident about my decision now. I really like my HRT and enjoy every bit of it. I don't think I could ever stop HRT. I feel so much more normal now…

I'm perplexed and curious. I've read the surgical descriptions of how SRS is performed. The prostate is left. I have found nothing on the seminal vesicles so I assume those remain. So, since the testicles provide the sperm and just a minor fraction of the total ejaculate, then why does ejaculation stop after SRS? Not that anyone would want it to, but am curious what causes it to stop? Is something else done during the surgery, or is it just the hormonal change that prevents it just as after being on hormone therapy for a long time?

Hi, I'd be really interested in hearing experiences of people revealing their transsexual status to unsuspecting partners. Has anyone come clean about this with a love interest who only knows you as your "new" gender? How did he/she take it? I actually have never done this, and I've dated several guys. I have not dated anyone for three years though, because I made a deal with myself that the next guy that I met who I felt something for (and who seemed to feel something for me) I would just be honest with him and tell him the truth. There is someone who I'm considering telling...but I'd love to hear anyone else's experiences with this type of thing. Thanks so much…

hello... my husband just resently told me that he like to dress in women close. which i had no problem with.... actually it was pretty cool. then just this weekend he told me that he was thinking of becoming a woman full time. he started talking about job changes, etc. i love and support him no matter what, but i was just wondering how i could be supportive and try to deal with my own feeling at the same time with out making him feel guilty or anything? i would love ANY advice regarding this or anything you have to share! thank you SOO much!! thinkinchair

Hi there, I am new to this site so hello all. :-) I'm a 29 year old post op woman, who had surgery in 2000 with Dr. Meltzer. I'm writing in hopes that other MTF post-op gals could share how they care for their "parts." Unfortunately, I have had a seemingly continuous discharge (sorry to be graphic) for the last five years and I don't know what I'm doing wrong. I long ago lost the post op care literature that the doctor gave me, and so I don't know how often a TS is supposed to douche (I do it very rarely) and as I said, if others could post their vaginal care "regimens" (how often do you douche and with what solution, etc) I would be truly grateful. Perhaps by hearing …

Has anyone ever taken pills to grow a couple of inches.. if so for how many months and how many additional inches did you exceed? I was plannin im taken some being on the fact that im only 5'2 but if you guys don't have the question for above.. im more than welcome to opinions.. whats your overall views on pills to alternate someones height?

it's pretty much well known that the suicide rate among transgendered people, and especially the transsexual, is very high. though i no longer think of, or even consider suicide, it became a constant thought about a year after entering puberty... and remained something i continually plotted for about 2 years - at least all of 7th and 8th grade. i do not know if the medical world has taken note of the most vulnerable time period for TS people, and so i wondered if there may be a pattern...perhaps something that could be considered in preventing TSs from committing suicide. if there is any one period that is most vulnerable...it may help those who come here t…

Hello, all... my name is Danielle; I'm a ts in my mid-forties, and I have an urgent request for help here on deciding where to move... it's such a looong story, but I find myself now with a unique opportunity to go start anew somewhere... I've been stuck in OH for quite a few years now, and this place is horrible if you ask me... My own research has yielded the following possibilities: Minneapolis - There's the transgendered program at the U of M to consider; I also have a single contact in that town who has offered to help me get on my feet... but it's been a long time since I've been on 'em, and she's a good friend but with no real experience in dealing with transge…

Ok I've been seriously losing weight over the last 2 months, and I've dropped off about 15 pounds or so. I'm startin to see some flaws in my figure that I worry will be hard to mask when I try to pass as a girl. Around my waist measures 30 inches. Around my chest, (I have no breasts whatsoever yet, so this is just my ribs), is 37 inches. My ribs are kinda visible now too, so there isn't anything left to lose up there. Anyway from the waist down I think I could look pretty good. I've tried on some friends pants and it did look very convincing. I'm sure hormones will only help that. However I just worry that my large shoulders and chest will give everything away…

it has been my observation that the sexual orientation of many MTF transsexuals is for the preference of women for partners. today, while reading several posts, all from MTFs, i began to wonder why this is, or seems to be, as the incidence for homosexuality among FTMs seems far less in comparison. i think for the most part, we all know there is the religious aspect - that homosexuality is a sin. i think we all are also aware of the constant barrage of societal messages that homosexuality is far less acceptable for men than for women. not only do men harbour a dislike for gay men, but so do women. male homosexuals have been killed just for being gay - i can't, off …

Thanks for Annie's link.. http://www.transkids.us/gid.html I realise that i am a homosexual transsexual. Thats why gender identity is linked with my sexual orientation. SOOOOOOOOOOOO true.

Is it just me, or do you too find the term shemale, not only very incorrect but also very offensive? Now don't get me wrong, (Im not having a go at ANYONE - Im just having a B.i.t.c.h) but that term, "shemale" to me invokes images of things that I don't even want to talk about. Now Im not a prude either and have been around the block once or twice (or five times) it just that, well you know....... We are not shemales....we are people, with hearts, emotions and feelings, We are not "things" to be treated with contempt and disrespect. As humans everyone has a god given right to be treated with respect by their fellow man, and as a Trans person, or as a trans community we a…

okay...let's try this again. i had never done a poll on the forums before and it didn't come out as i expected. so...as i was sayin', in chat it seems that most FTMs prefer straight females for partners, and many MTFs seem to prefer females for thier partners. this has only been an observation based on the few i see in chat, so it may not be representative of the majority. also, thanks to kenny, i realized i left a choice out of the original poll/post. what's your preference for a partner in a relationship? 1. Straight men 2. Gay men 3. Straight women 4. Lesbian women 5. Bi-sexual female 6. Bi-sexual male 7. MTF (pre-op) 8. MTF (post-op) 9.…

I'm sure that some of you more experienced TS's would be able to explain how one would speak more femininely, because I'm having alot of trouble with it...

hi im new here. well im 15 years old male and i want to be a 15 year old girl. So my parents dont know it but im planning to order estrogen and progestorone pills. i know how i will hide it already. I was looking up gynomastia and in my research i realized that exactly how i would hide the fact that i will have breast growth. anyway the reason im stalling on taking any estrogens is because of football. i realize some of you may think "if you like football than you probably arnt a trangender" but i am. so i had some questions to ask people that started taking estrogens around my age 1 what kindof mucle reduction did you experiance 2 what kind of breast growth 3 d…

heres a generic quiz I made to see if you are or will become a transsexual for those who are still questioning themselves. criticism is welcome. take the quiz and please dont take the quiz too seriously, i made it in an hour and im no professional or anything

Can anyone give me guidance please.Do many transsexuals feel the need to masturbate regularly to overcome frustration and is this normal. I am confused.

Hi, I found these forums while searching Google. I'm a MTF (Pre-Op), 16 years old, and struggling. I have done my homework on my condition, and know a lot about it. But I have some questions that I'm hoping someone can answer. My case is quite different than the ordinary TS. You see, I grew up home schooled. Which means I didn't have much social interaction, period. And if I did, it was with boys. I didn't know any better, and quite frankly wasn't concerned with my body. Years passed by, I was 12 years old. During this time my parents and I lived in a small community. Where I met a few friends. (Who were all boys.) And once again, I thought nothing of it, or my bod…

does anyone know what the statistics are for parents who accept their (adult) TS children vs. those who do not? example: "79% of parents accept thier child's transsexuality," or "Only 18% of parents are accepting of thier child's transsexuality." please include your source(s). thanks -michael

(5-7-05)~ BREAST IMPLANTS ....An Inside Story ~ I had a breast augmentation done in April of 2001. If you've been considering the procedure, this article is my attempt to let you know just how things went with me. I'm not saying that my experiences will be yours, nor is this an expert's primer on all there is to know about boob jobs. Total cost for my outpatient surgery with tax and all was 4.5 K. My surgeon, located in Fort Lauderdale, is locally-famous for doing all the "HOOTERS Girls" here (HOOTERS is a restaurant famous for busty skimpily-clad waitresses). During our consultation, photos were taken, and I was shown a book filled wi…