Hi Monica,
You're correct on all counts. In fact, she has told me how much better and different I was and am from all others before me. I agree with you too that she could have phrased her feedback much better. We are all human and this is part of what we try to address in our therapist meetings. We are so fortunate to be able to have him as a resource. In fact our next couples meeting is tomorrow and evening so it's all great timing!
I do hope she decides that being a lesbian, at least from time to time, would be interesting for us. That's a dream I have. We will see. All I can do for now is try to be real, patient, and supportive to her too. Then, maybe, we can meet in the middle. I think we are getting there one small step at a time.
Hugs,
Emma