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Hi Christie, It's really crap like that at the begining, I had thoughts male and female alternately coming and going like the turn of the tide. It does get easier later, believe me. It really helps if you have started hormone treatment, especially Testosterone blockers of one sort or another, that really seems like pouring oil on troubled waters. But even then you still have to be brave enough, as you have been, to go out en femme. After a month or so of gradually pushing your envelope you'll just start to feel like yourself and dressing fenmale will be irrellevant, but still enjoyable. You will not end up as a freak, you have already showed how determined you are to become a woman, you'll get there. Did I say before now "Believe in yourself", "believe you can or believe you can't, either way you're right"? Let that be your mantra. Yes you'll probably lose some friends, but ask yourself were they really friends? but you will gain some new friends too and they'll be amazing. Be careful with make-up don't go over the top with it, try to keep it low key until you have gained confidence after 4 months or so, in short don't attract attention to yourself when out in general public, unless you are amazing good looking with a beau shapely femme figure..............like the one I wish I had! LoL Good Luck with your Transition Plan, Eve oxo !!

Dear Winter, I'm so sorry to hear this from you and I'm not surprised to hear you're feeling depressed. I think what you are experiencing is what we all fear: rejection, loneliness, despair, and all that self-questioning: am I doing the right thing? How crazy am I? Well, you're not. No, I don't know you at all of course. But being TG isn't a "choice" the way that others would see it. It is what it is. And if you're on the Transgender Train I think it's best to get started and ride it out, to whatever stop(s) you decide to get off at. In the meantime may I suggest that you keep on blogging, let us know how you're doing, and allow us to give whatever support we can. Hugs, Emma

Keywords to me are; scary, reality and overcome. Take it from me (yeah here goes Karen yakking again), I know that when first starting out that these things are true and at some point we all consider these components to go on and on and on and on. But one day you will wake up just like any other day doing "it" right until that one day it's second nature and others "just getting" just like you without realizing "it". That day someone is going to say things like "you are so beautiful" or "I can't even imagine you as your former self (yeah they will avoid the "M" word, male" There will be a moment when you realize that you can't imagine yourself as a male too and this carries through to others and those who don't know the former you will never have to second guess because you are you, female woo-hoo. And it goes on from there. Best wishes on your journey

Thank you for this! I think you have used that quote before, but I'm glad you said it again, it really is a great mantra! I also noticed today that when I think about being "male" again it's always "going back," which means thinking as a female is becoming my norm

Hey Warren, I also liked the cartoon and assumed you'd drawn it. What a bummer about the beach. We don't get as crowded out here in Northern California but indeed the traffic can get thick. I'm always pushing to get started a little earlier to beat the rush. I would also be seriously bummed to have talked to K. We can assume (hope) that she was just having a bad day and you were unfortunate to be on the receiving end of her crap. Or she's always like this. Either way it has nothing to do with you. You're cool, we know that, and you don't deserve that kind of tone or treatment from anyone. No way, no how. Dammit. I also don't blame you for being reduced to tears. Why not? You're bravely putting yourself on the firing line, stepping in front, leading the way. Yes, it absolutely sucks to keep getting this kind of response. We're all pulling for YOU, Warren. Many warm hugs, Emma

Thank you for being so supportive , Emma. I am a little down right now but I'm going to try and focus on being positive.

Simple said it sounds like this woman has a chip on her shoulder and more likely than not is acting this way to others too. In regards to the cartoon, I can relate, had similar dreams in my younger days and were vivid. No matter how hard these times are do your best to ride through this as you have so many years ahead of you to make your changes. Bottom line is the world is not being nice to you now but like me you need to be strong (and I can say that because I was you at one time and for many decades). Sure there will be many downs but with persistence you can achieve a chest void of breast and more.

I didnt actually draw the cartoon, was something I found, but thanks! We're gonna try again for the beach next friday maybe, still in debate. Hopefully we can! I soooooo wanna go As for the HRT, I agree. Sounds like crap. I plan to call and talk to a surgeon when I get the chance this week, and although I cant make any plans until I have a job, it's worth looking into. Warren

Yeah...try not to let that woman's attitude get ya down. If she's like that to everyone... she needs to find another job somewhere else. Trans people don't need that kind of treatment. Way too many of us already have esteem issues That kinda crap certainly doesn't help things. And that business about being on HRT a year before you can get surgery has got to be bull... perhaps a requirement by the particular surgeon. I know of guys who have gotten top surgery within 6 months of being on HRT. And what about a person who can't do HRT for medical reasons? That mean a guy can't get top surgery at all? The way I look at it if a guy wants top surgery, he should be able to have it. If women can get boob jobs without having their heads shrunk, we should be able to get un-boob jobs! And like you... I want them gone BEFORE starting hormones, or before the hormones start making any changes. Besides... from what I understand, they make you go off HRT for surgery. Anyway... sorry to hear that the plan for the beach went down the drain. But hey... ya have the rest of the summer to make other trips to the beach. -Michael

Dear Warren, Please do not let that woman get you down. Count your lucky stars she showed her true colors EARLY in the relationship, and, if I were you, I would cease contact immediately. Let me assure you, she most likely treats everybody the same crappy way. Your friend, Monica P.S. I absolutely LOVE your cartoon! You are so talented! P.S.S. You look so handsome in your picture!