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Hi Christie, Hey everyones different..............but who hasn't ever made a bad decision in their lives............? As long as you realise that it's going to be you for the rest of your life, (after taking oestrogen for a period of time at any rate it becomes pretty much irreversable and testosterone blockers seem to be pretty permanent too), and you're happy with that fine. I can't put my hand on my heart and say that I was 100% sure either. I know that for me I'm happier now than when I was fully male, but that doesn't mean that it'll be the same for everyone. The point is to have given it a lot of thought, you are no doubt aware that breasrs will grow, your skin will soften somewhat and muscles will lessen, your face will become a little more femme, and weight redistributes. But also it is very easy to put on weight when taking estrogen. Both Karen Payne and myself have posted entries about thinking it through, because we don't want to be adverts for transition to people who suddenly find out they don't like what has ensued. That being said, and me being impulsive (some would say impatient too), I actually started hormones and remained "part time" living in dual genders, I managed to do this by wearing a gynecomastia vest to conceal my boobs, sounds a strange thing to do I know, but it gave time for my face to feminise a bit and also time to practice being female, at that time I referred to myself as being gender nutral or an "inbetweenie". It was me testing the water really bit by bit. So there's not just one occasion when you might think 100% positive about hormones and go do it, I'd say it's a lot more realistic to be thinking 90 odd percent positive over a longer period of time, whilst at the same time getting expert opinions and advice before doing it. Isn't life a balancing act?, so think of all the pros and cons. And then if you do take hormone treatment, be prepared for it to be a little different to wandering around in drag or cross dressed, I find it many times better...............because it's me. So could it be the same for you, is it the same for you, only you can answer that, but be honest with yourself and don't blame me if you don't like it................... Sorry if this sounds a bit off-putting, but it's a very large step to take. Cheers, Eve. P.S. You have a pretty femme face already but try a fringe, I think you'll find it'll make a huge difference, I too was given this advice over a year ago, and it did make a huge difference to me.....

Christie, My honest opinion is when I first looked at your picture I saw FEMALE staring back at me, no doubt in my mind. Now with that said I have to agree with Eve in that you need to fashion your hair in the front one way or another to complete the look. Perhaps next weekend if time and money allow with a comfort level go to a hair stylist, tell them about yourself and ask "what can you do with my hair to give it a female look?" My guess is, again as Eve indicated to drop the hair to cover your forehead. Get the right hair stylist and I truly believe afterwards people seeing you in public will not see a male but a female. And I will say it again, all I see is female On the note about alone time, sounds like it got some results be in positive or negative and remember one time is not enough, find time again and ask yourself these questions again and any new ones. You even might consider writing them down and your responses to the questions so that you can go back to them again and also bring them with you to a therapist appointment for a discussion point or two.

Hair that drops forward to cover the forehead! See my gallery and me in the restaurant in purple. You've already seen me in my black dress and pearls, see my hair - well my wig anyway! Eve xoxo

Eve, It doesn't sound off-putting at all, it sounds appropriately cautionary! I do at moments feel very excited to move forward, but for the most part I'm able to control that (and fortunately there is some wait built into the process). What's a fringe? xoxo Christie

From what I see in your photo, after 2 yrs of HRT you are definately passable, and I wish my face was half as femme as yours ! Can't see how you wouldn't end up in a loving relationship with whichever gender you choose. Believe in yourself girl ! Eve.

Hey Warren, It's great to hear from you. Definitely let us know how it goes with talking to the CEO of that LGBT group. If nothing else it's great to add another link to your network of supporters. Who knows who you might gain a connection to. And, love your photos! Emma

No need to apologize, Warren. We all feel that way from time to time. Sometimes we just need to rant! But I'm glad to hear that you're feeling better lately, and I'm really happy for you that your sibling is coming down to visit. IIRC, the two of you had a great time together when they were staying with you last time, so hopefully you'll both have a blast together this time, too! Warm wishes, Sara

Mikah, Love the photograph of three beautiful young women! Monica

Brilliant blog Mikha, Being with someone else who you've known previously and then found out about each other is amazing, it happened to me. I think I told the story in my first blog.......... Cheers, Eve

Hi Michel, I love you, not hate you, I've decided. It's been four months since you wrote this so I imagine a lot has happened. Why don't you post an update? We'd all like to hear from you. Sincerely, Emma

I would love to hear - your words.

Hi Amy What a great way to open your first blog post! It's good to hear from someone not so far away down the M5. Maybe I'll try a scream on your behalf! So sad to hear that the vet practice couldn't cope with a transitioning employee. I hope that Toni%Guy willbe more supportive. Are you going there as openly transitioning? Also good to hear that half your family are supportive and, again, sad to hear that two of them can't cope with it. I guess from what you say that you're still living with your parents. Finding a place of your own in the current economic climate is not easy but it sounds as though doing so will give you the freedom to fly. I don't know about keeping your arms inside the vehicle. Maybe you need to stretch them out and make them into wings! I'm raising a glass to your flight BenV

Hi Caroline... good to hear from you, and glad you and your partner are doing well. Good luck on the business. Hope you will drop in more often. -Michael

I cannot think of a more romantic comment for a lover to make. Poetic. Poetry is not silly.

That was sweet of her, Caroline. Made me smile. There's nothing better than a happy story. She sounds like a good woman. As do you. -Michael