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Monica, thanks for the words of wisdom. In regards to meeting people in public, in my past life I would not worry at all beings how I am trained but then even so would take counter measures to ensure I could not be traced back to my residence. Since transitioning have met a few people but nothing went so far as sex as I am the type who will not have sex with someone unless I have genuine feelings, not the type that come from below the belt. So with that said, yes, a relationship comes first. Eve, we have men here to that want to explore and nothing more, have encountered them in the past and avoid them at all cost.

Hmmmm, that's interesting and what develops might be more interesting. I find it strange that I have exactly the same thougts about women as you Karen, and the thought of me having sex with a man repulses me, but paradoxically, I sometimes fantasize about being made love to with a penis. I can only explain so far, and that it's not the reproductive organ that bothers me it's the rest of the flesh and persona around it! I think that Male persona's are what really bother me. It's all rather hypothetical anyway seeing as I'm married, yes Monica, albeit rather like Bill & Hillary, perhaps slightly more to true love but not romantic love, anymore lestways. I also worry about "Tranny Chasers" as they are called over here, males who want to experience something different, often wanting pre-op trans girls after seeing the porn sites, with the sole reason so that they can fulfil their fantasies. "Primeval and void of the notion of love" I think lots of men would fit that description, but not all. I just couldn't do it with a man, I think that they're nearly all ugly, such a shame God gave them all the penises................... Hugs, Eve

Dear Wpwyle, You will find transgender people among the kindest and friendliest people that you will every meet. May I suggest you go to our home page, and click on "resources" on the top bar, which will produce a drop down, and then click on "support groups." There are support groups in almost every state of the Union, and many overseas. You do not have to attend these groups dressed. A support group often is no more than a few hours' drive from where you live. If you seek counseling with a transgender counselor, many of whom are transgender themselves, they often sponsor transgender support groups. Also, there are gender conferences all over the U.S. Just Google, "Gender Conferences 2015," and all the gender conferences for the year 2015 will come up. In my opinion, TGGuide is one of the most friendly transgender blogs on the Internet, and I have seen most of them. Looking forward to hear from you soon. Yours truly, Monica

Dear Karen, It is easy to have misunderstandings on the Internet. There have been occasions when I have liked someone on the Internet, only to realize later on the telephone or in person, that there was no chemistry. Also, there were people I met in person, had I not met them in person, but on the Internet, I might not have given them a chance, frankly, because of their looks. Have known a few women (usually very young) who THOUGHT they were Lesbian, only to realize that they were heterosexual. Often they thought they were Lesbian while in high school and/or college, and realize near graduation, that they were heterosexual. They were called "Lesbian Until Graduation," or LUG's. Have seen people confuse deep friendship for romantic love. Examples, in my opinion, are Bill and Hillary Clinton, and Franklin and Eleanor Roosevelt. If you keep it only on the Internet, you will never know. Personally, if a person wants to correspond on the Internet more than a month, I consider the person as not really interested in me or playing games. You may want to bring it on to the telephone, after being on the Internet for about a month. If I were you, I would ask him if he was ever interested in a transwoman before. Perhaps consider sending him the pictures you sent your mother and brother, as well as others. My mother, may God rest her soul, explained that the six layers of a wedding cake, started with respect on the bottom, then the next layer was friendship, then the next, non-romantic love, the next, romantic love, the next, marriage, and the top, which is eaten on the first anniversary, represented family, because in the old days, a bride was usually pregnant by her first anniversary. The worst thing that can happen, is that you will make a friend, and it does not go any further than that, and the best thing that could happen, is that you will meet a wonderful guy who RESPECTS and LOVES women for all the right reasons. Please be careful, in meeting him in a public place, and take your time in getting to know him. You are an attractive woman, and the Internet will work well for you as another resource for meeting people, while a woman like me, would do best meeting people in person. By the way, I have had many wonderful friendships with men, while I had romantic relationships with women. My masculine energy resonated with men as friendship, and it also resonated with women as love. Karen, please remember, it starts as FRIENDSHIP FIRST, and having sex on a casual basis does not really give a person the insight they need to know if they are Lesbian or Straight. Don't rush it. Your friend, Monica

Yeah, perfectly passable in my opinion but I agree with Karen. All a person would see is a man and a woman.

I don't think you even need to use the term passable, I see a brother and sister in the picture.

Eve, Cisgender women use "props" to minimize their weak characteristics or bring attention to their positive characteristics. One in three cisgender women use wigs and hair pieces. In my case, I choose my eye wear carefully to bring attention to my hazel eyes, and because I am a women of size, I choose my accessories carefully. Also, I have large feet (size 11 to 11 1/2) and choose simply designed shoes as well as floor length pants instead of 3/4 length pants. Ladies, these concerns show that you are WOMEN, not transwomen fearing not passing! Your friend, Monica