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Yeah, it's a nice realisation isn't it.................just you being you, glad you've experienced that. How are you getting on with "T" blockers? I found these to be the most significant cause of change. xoxo Eve

Sounds likea great day so happy to hear this

The t-blockers are working, but not as quick as I'd like, i'm apparently still in the "400s"

To steph, Thank you so much for sharing your personal journey with me. I appreciate you commenting as i love hearing how others have gone about there journey and how there transition has happened. I wish you all the luck on your transition and hope you cant get and afford all the surgery you need, as i too can not wait till i turn 18 so i can have my full gender re assigment surgery. Thank you for your kind words as well and i to love my name hahaha. to eve, yes it really does show just how far transitioning and how society has changed overt time with accepting and helping people transition, i really do appreciate your comment as it makes me think just how hard it would have been for you to have dealt with this struggle for over 56 years, plus having to deal with it in a complete different society back then. The important thing now is your a beautiful woman living the way you want and we are both liberated now. I just hope by sharing my story and writing this blog that i can show everyone how far it has come and give faith back to the trans community, i also hope youth can read this and see just how accepting society is and maybe spark the confidence they need to take that step. Thank you for your comment -Blair xoxo

Hiya Karen. You Poor Girl ! I would be Cheesed-Off too ! As Eve has said, It Is Complete lack of respect, by Big Corporation's. Karen, do You have any Legal Claim against them ? You must be so Upset, and Frustrated Karen Love. I know I would have been ! I hope that You have had a Good Day with the Car run Today. Karen, Take Care, and My Very Best Wishes to You, Stephanie. xx

been there my self to some degree.. always a hard time finding mens clothes that fit me , last time i found some that did fit was mid 90's.. womens clothes fit me like i was built to wear them to start with ......ether way good luck and happy shopping

Things like that make my piss boil too.......................It's just complete lack of respect for other people "who don't matter" by big corporations yet again...............

Wow, glad you're enjoying your new self, when you get testosterone it'll help you with your upper body among other things........hope things keep going well for you. Cheers, Eve

Well.........shame there's not a 'love this' option after Crissiesan's entry, and the very sage comments too. I look at it like this, when you're in the mist it's not easy to see the way ahead, so this creates a state of confusion and doubt etc., Crissiesan when you get out of the mist, all the doubts will dissapear. How do you go about getting out of the mist? Well you could wait for the weather to clear, i.e. wait for social change, or you can try to move out of the mist in different directions until you find your path ahead, I guess some would call it pushing your personal envelope. Hugs, Eve

At the end of the day, you need to do what makes you happy in the moment! I sat on my transition for many years, mostly out of fear on how my family would react. There is no rush to transition and you will know when the time is right to pursue the next step. If it's meant to be, you will make it happen. You will find a way to make it happen.

For me, I am transitioning, even though 100% of the time I don't feel female. This creates self-doubt. The reason, at least for me, for the self-doubt is that society is gender binary. We are torn across two extremes of gender. That being said, if the idea of having wide hips and breasts as a result of body changes is unappealing in any way, you should reconsider. Myself, regardless of whether I transition or not, want more of a female figure. I just feel that is the way things should have been. If your doubts are mostly related to the fear of transition and fitting into society or losing your male self.. All of us have those doubts. You will miss the male privilege, and really that is what I know I will miss. Plus you will miss your male self. There are things about ourselves that will not change with gender, however there are things that undoubtedly will.

I'm no expert either and agree with both Karen's and Charl's feedback. I'd say that I'm going through the same think as you, Crissie. I'm like the classic "chicken and egg problem": which came first, the chicken or the egg? I recall always wanting and wishing to be a girl. But I also had a very dominating and punishing mother, and an absent father, with no siblings. Perhaps one thing that threw my mother into a rage was my expressing my wish to be female? I'll never know since both are long gone. These days I'm achieving some peace by just trying to allow myself to be me. While in public I'm visible as male but sometimes wear feminine underthings. At least I have that awareness of that while I'm outside. At home I may or may not dress. I do what feels comfortable. It's hard to get this all figured out. As much as would all like to have it known and "done" right now, it doesn't happen that way. Patience with yourself is, I think very important. But that's hard to do too. emma

Also, you don't have to settle for being either a boy or a girl. You are no less transgender, no less human, and no less valid if at times you feel male or female, both or neither, all of these positions are valid and true expressions of transgender identity. And if you feel 100% girl, then that's who you are and that's fine too. Love Charl -o0o-

Crissiesan, you are far from being alone with these feelings, many of us have and will deny them but if you are destined to be female then as you get older these feelings will become stronger and as with many undeniable but of course this may simply be a desire to dress in the opposite gender which may very well feel like you should be female. The only true way to find out if you are transgender, crossdresser or (let's call it confused) a false/positive where false/positive means you think you should be female be don't fit into the need to transition nor dress in the opposite gender. So this is the task of a therapist who is well versed with gender dysphoria. Gender dysphoria can simply be that a mother was dominate in the household or that one played more with the other gender, I am not a therapist so these are only educated guesses. Without a therapist many go down a dark road that leads to nothing good and can very well cause a train wreck. Best to find out now and learn what the steps are to move forward.