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Emma you wouldn't believe this, my grandmother and grandfather from my mom's side takes the cake. The age gap was 26 years, with my grandfather being the oldest. Funny thing is you outlived all his wives and she was his last wife. He passed away when my mom was 18 years old and she passed away when my mom was about 2 years old. So yes age really is nothing but a number in my family. The oldest sister takes 2nd place, with her husband whom was 24 years older then her, and 3 years older then my mom. Then my parents take 3rd position, 17 years age difference with my dad being the older one. So normally it is the men in my family that is the older party, and I would be setting a record on the female side. My oldest brother though was 10 years older then his wife, and he passed away a few weeks after my passing out of police college. Emma and Karen, thanks for the wishes, but we still waiting on the notification that we can wear our ranks, even though they backdating it to last year when we officially had the qualifications. On being an inspiration, I'm just living my life according to what I need to and how I see it fit for anyone to live their lives. Confirmed after this that this young guy was screwing around and gave the option of stopping as the person he is screwing on the sidelines isn't one of my favorite people, therefore broke it off. Weirdest part is, his friends are actually sticking up for me and saying that he should've known not to play with a good thing. So broke it off without shedding a tear, as tears would be to much of a hassle for me to waste on a person that is a cheater. So hope this doesn't deter anyone from dating, not all men are cheaters and can't be brushed with the same brush. We actually have good guys out there that doesn't mind our differences, because it's not the differences that makes us, but the soul of the person that determines if we are worth loving or not. I just got played and remembered at the same time, that I'm still in the controllers seat and I have the choice to allow it to continue or to put a stop to it. Love Michele Xoxo

Hi Bree, Most definitely, I do understand and share your feelings. I called my shrink today to have an urgent meeting tomorrow, as I'm also way in the danger zone. It sucks to feel this way. But I love your description of dropping the soap. That made me smile. I hope you're feeling better of course. Emma

TO be clear, it's not really the president I'm worried about. It's the senators, congressmen, and lobbyists that have spent years building up thier constituancy on the idea that Christian religious values must be legislated and anyone who doesn't fit in them loses their rights. I feel like as a country quite a few people have lost the ability to understand the difference between the freedom to practice their religion and make thier choices based upon that religion and turning that religion into a tyrrany for others by legislating it and forcing them on people with different or no religions in a country that was created with the intent to separate religion from state matters is so scary to me. Not to mention the wave of harassment we're seeing all around the country by people on the streets around me. Trump will be what he's always been a dude on the tv far away from me. But those people in the streets, there around me. And using his televison persona (and who knows what the real trump is like) as justification for a lot of scary things. We focus too much on the president, and as a society don't pay enough attention to what is happening in congress and the senate.

Congratulations on your promotion!!!

Dear Michele, So good to hear from you! I love your updates, on dating, your hair, and especially, your promotion. I think your promotion to sergeant is so important for you as well as for your colleagues and the public, to see a transgender woman as a professional and viable member of society. It's people like you who are paving the way to everyone else, especially those who are much younger. But really, I'm also so happy to hear about your fun on the dating scene. A year younger? So what! My wife is 7 years older than me... Really, age is not that big a deal. Now 17 years difference is a lot, at least in my book. :-) Best wishes, Emma

I'm so glad your getting the full benefit! And your initial thought,t hat counseling is something to prove to others, isn't unusual. Sadly our world stigmatizes counseling and belittles its' value. I was 17 when my father decided I was crazy and forced me into a therapist, and I was really resistant to it, since my mother had done the same when I was 11. When I was 11, that therapist wasn't very good, she reported EVERYTHING to my parents, and it backlashed on me bad. So between what I had absorbed of culture and prior experience, poor Dr. H. But then that moment came, when I realized it was about me and learning to cope with my family. that Dr. H's intent was to help me be healthier and find what healthier meant for me, and that I wasn't the one who didn't understand the reality I was living in, that moment was tranformative. It was super emotional for me to read your post about that moment, most people won't share about moments like that in therapy for fear of the stigma, and it's lovely to see someone else doing so. Thank you!

Dear Jay, I hope you don't feel embarrassed but I understand where you're coming from. Nothing to be embarrassed or ashamed about. Just the opposite, in fact, that now because you were brave enough to accept and live with your T being late, that you may have learned something important for you. My sense also is that the RLE is important. Incredibly hard, too, like living in purgatory while also needing to keep a stiff upper lip to society. But maybe it does help encourage patience - which is not a bad thing. And a deeper level of understanding and acceptance, which is a glorious thing. Anyway it's great to hear from you, and I hope you'll keep posting and letting us know how you're doing. Emma

​I liked it, the people doing this are professionals and noticed other interviews being done the same way and they were fine with it too.

This was what caused me to transition MTF. I have low T my entire life and it seemed like a no brainer to take the T and masculinize. My Real life experience with T solidified several things for me. You should go slow. I have faith in your decision.

Did that feel awkward as an interview format to do? Of did you find it helpful in getting across what you wanted to say?

​I should expand, it's more like paraphrasing then asking myself a question.

That is such an odd format, to ask an interviewee to repeat the question then answer themselves. I wonder why they chose that, it seems that it would be awkward to do and to watch.

I would think that if your g/f felt the need to tell you that she would accept you, and remain with you, perhaps any time that you are ready to tell her would be okay. But that is just a supposition, and none of us really knows how any person will react when we come out to them. I told no one until I was 47. One of the people I told was my brother. Chances are, I could have told him MANY years before, as his response to me was, "you never felt like a sister to me." Turns out that while he had no name for it, or understanding of it when we were young, he was aware that I was different from "other girls." We were always very close, and after coming out to him, he said it always seemed that I was more like a brother would be. -Michael