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I love this book. It speaks to me so well. So much, that I’m reading it again—for the third time. While taking the light rail this morning I read: ”When we let ourselves feel, our inner self transforms. But here’s the rub: Destruction is essential to construction. If we want to build the new, we must be willing to let the old burn. We must be committed to holding on to nothing but the truth. We must decide that if the truth inside us can burn a belief, a family structure, a business, a religion, an industry—it should have been ashes yesterday. At first it’s very scary. Because once we feel, know, and dare to imagine more for ourselves, we cannot unfeel, unknow, or unimagine. There is no going back. We are launched into the abyss—the space between the not-true-enough life we’re living and the truer one that exists only inside us. So we say, “It’s safer to stay here. Even if it’s not true enough, maybe it’s good enough.” But good enough is what makes people drink too much and snark too much and become bitter and sick and live in quiet desperation until they lie on their deathbed and wonder: What kind of life/relationship/family/world might I have created if I’d been braver?” it is freaking scary to push forward out of our comfort zones. Her sentence about the deathbed came to me years ago. Then, I thought it was about not being in or finding a fulfilling career. I know now that it was about living and experiencing my authenticity. Back to the light rail. Have a great day!

Hi Dee, I’m glad for you that you have a week to yourself to live as yourself. But, as you said, you’re alone and missing that human contact that we all crave while at the same time having understandable feelings about your ex’s upcoming marriage. I wish I had some pithy wisdom to impart that would provide you with relief. All I can say is that I hope you will come up with fun and cozy things you can do for yourself this week. Curl up in front of a fire, have a glass of wine, cook something amazing... for yourself. Buy yourself some flowers for your table. Pretty up your house a bit to show off your feminine flair. At times like these it’s important that we give ourselves kindness and self-support. And don’t stop posting here! Best wishes, Emma