Bonnie

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  • Birthday 09/25/1952

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  • Gender Transgender
  • Location Ottawa - Canada

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  1. Bonnie added a post in a topic: Femme vs male persona   

    I am also fundamentally the same person, however, I find that when I am dressed en femme my femininity comes further to the forefront.  As a man my maleness is more present.  I have always loved to dance and I do not dance much differently which I attribute that the fact my body is male.  I cannot make those beautiful moves that the female body can make.  I have danced with my ex-wife and I would push all my maleness to the front and still enjoyed dancing.  I have also danced in the arms of a tall man and my femaleness easily came out.  Same goes with the sports I played, I played on highly competitive teams especially hockey and you have to use all your maleness in order to compete with the males at those high levels.  A female given a male body would do the same if she wanted to compete at the men's levels.  She would still be female inside but would not act that way if she was trying to hide who she was inside.  I know it is confusing.
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  2. Bonnie added a post in a topic: Going out and Bathroom Use   

    Yes, if one is dressed female then I recommend the women's washroom.  Going with someone else helps immensely.  The only places I have been while dressed female and needed to use the washroom were in nightclubs that were TG friendly.  The women never bothered me.  In one washroom I was in a young guy was waiting for his girlfriend when I came out of the stall.  I washed my hands and the girl came out and she said hi to me.  She asked if they could take a couple of selfies with me and I said yes.  I oblige because I think it helps people understand us more.  I have a lot of confidence in myself and it is getting stronger all the time.  So I love talking to people about transgenderism whenever I can.  If it is just a photo now and then and off they go then that is fine too because they see that I am not some dangerous sex offender.
    So confidence is a big thing, what you are wearing dependant up on where you are is another, if you are wearing heels then you must be able to walk in them as any woman would, wearing sunglasses helps a lot too, if you are wearing a wig then the better the quality the better the normality of your appearance.  Trying to blend in is the key as best as you can and the confidence of who you are will reduce the negativity that may be around.
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  3. Bonnie added a post in a topic: A few too many margaritas...   

    Lets all go on a margarita run!
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  4. Bonnie added a post in a topic: "Dentist of Horror" on trial   

    This type of story always worries me because it puts transgendered people in the poorest of light.
    "Dentist of Horror" on trial for mutilating French patients
    A Dutchman dubbed the "dentist of horror" by French media went on trial Tuesday after allegedly causing horrific injuries to the mouths of more than 100 patients in France.
    Although he is not required to offer a plea under French law, Van Nierop has previously sought to deflect responsibility, saying he suffers from "psychological problems" including gender identity issues and suicidal tendencies.
    https://ca.news.yahoo.com/dentist-horror-trial-mutilating-french-patients-112818545.html
    Shakes my head.
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  5. Bonnie added a post in a topic: Xtall women's clothing   

    An online store that has so many sexy women's clothes in a wide range of sizes is Fashion Mia.  The costs are so very reasonable too.  I have yet to order anything since I don't have a credit card and need to use the prepaid credit cards.
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  6. Bonnie added a post in a topic: Liberated   

    Hi Kaylee.  My first time out was scary and exhilarating.  Lucky for me too I went out with a group of other more experienced CDs.  We went clubbing following our guide who took us to a few TG friendly gay clubs.   I haven't been out shopping en femme yet but have had to walk through a very busy three story shopping mall from top to bottom.  I came in through a parking garage meaning to get into another building where Sexapalozza was having an event.  I got a few looks but most did not pay attention.  I wasn't if the looks were because I was not passing or because I was wearing sunglasses and it was dark outside.  LOL  I did find my way to the event and was the only CD there as far as I could tell.  I enjoyed it all.  Except one part, when I was finding my way back to the parking garage I had to go down and long winding hallway to get there.  I was alone.  Even though I can take care of myself I began to feel quite vulnerable.  I realized how women feel when they are alone and vulnerable.  We do need to be careful.
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  7. Bonnie added a post in a topic: Six feet plus blues!   

    We have Long Tall Sally's here in Canada.  I am a member.  I went in male to buy a pair of ankle boots I saw online and they were very helpful and polite.  The prices were great.  The manager told me they get a few other CDs there and if I wanted to return sometime to try on clothes I could set up an after-hours appointment.   I appreciated the offer but at the same time it gave me something to think about.  I can understand the offer if they think I would come to try on clothes in male mode, however, if I came in female mode why would I need an after-hours appointment even if I don't pass?  I still like what they offer.  I have been to the store here in Ottawa and also one in Toronto.  I was treated well there too and was again in male mode, except for my finger nails which were painted.  Love the prices of the "on sale" items.
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  8. Bonnie added a post in a topic: Clip on earrings free to you   

    We have Michael.  Thank you for the reminder to all. 
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  9. Bonnie added a post in a topic: Clip on earrings free to you   

    Hi Christine!  I am always looking for clipon earrings.  Would love to take them off your hands.
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  10. Bonnie added a post in a topic: TDOR South Florida   

    That is sad to hear.  I didn't hear anything about it where I live.  I am sure there was a vigil somewhere here but I didn't read anything.  I mean to go sometime.
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  11. Bonnie added a post in a topic: Fresno advocates to host Transgender Day of Remembrance memorial   

    I have yet to be to a vigil but my thoughts are with those who have passed.  I guess the higher rate of murders of transgenders is due to the increased numbers of those coming out.  The number of murders of anyone is way to high.  Suicides is another matter and is also way too high.
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  12. Bonnie added a post in a topic: Wedsday , August 5th is an anniversary   

    Congratulations Ellen!
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  13. Bonnie added a post in a topic: GLADD Spirt day   

    Very good!
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  14. Bonnie added a post in a topic: Petition   

    I don't understand how the petition could be lasting so long?
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  15. Bonnie added a post in a topic: Issues concerning Stealth   

    When I was still married I used to have several hiding places in the basement and eventually that got all full.  My wife didn't like the furnace area so that was a good place.  We had a dropped ceiling in the finished part of the basement and the space between the panels and the wood ceiling could be accessed from the laundry room.  I had to use a small step ladder to put stuff up there.  One other place was inside a panel that went around a sewer pipe.  It had a small door that was screwed in and I put a couple of shelves inside and stored magazines and lingerie there.
    I had a PO Box at UPS and then I got a Sears MasterCard using only my initials and surname (so when ordering anything they wouldn't know the gender) and the PO Box address,  When my MC bill came I would go to Sears and pay for it in cash.  The scary part was going in and out of the UPS store and hoping not to be seen by a neighbour or anyone who knew my wife.
    That was another issue, where do I get the money to pay for things without notice or questions from my wife.  When I would run errands or get money for this or that I would put $5, $10 or $20 away in one of my secret places.  It would add up quick enough then I would be out shopping or online shopping.
    I am happy I don't have to do any on that any more.  I still have to put $5, $10 or $20 away for shopping because living on your own is expensive.  I also still have a problem on where to put all my clothes.  My closet is taken up with mostly women's clothes and shoes and my women's dresser is full. My men's dresser is full.  I need another bedroom to use as closet.  Oh well!
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