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About Bonnie

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  • Birthday 09/25/1952

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  1. Bonnie added a post in a topic: Virginia Ties   

    Thank you Erica.  My comment was simply to complicate things in a humourous manner.  You are correct and I feel the same way, transgenderism should not be a complicated thing to understand.  Love, no matter the gender, should not be a complicated thing but for some reason it is.  This site is here to support and to educate.  We support each other and we educate each other.  Once we understand ourselves both as an individual and as a group we can go out and support and educate others.  I have been doing that much more in this past year and plan to do more this coming year.
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  2. Bonnie added a post in a topic: Southern Comfort Transgender Conference Has Been Discontinued As Of December 10, 2016   

    I just found some additional info;
    Dear SCTC family,

    It is with a heavy heart that we must announce that 2016 was the last The Southern Comfort Transgender Conference (SCTC) as you have known it for the past 26 years.

    What most of you don’t know is that we, the Southern Comfort Board of Directors (both current and a couple of past members), have been involved in a five year lawsuit that only recently concluded. Please don’t ask. As part of the settlement, we cannot discuss it at all.

    Suffice it to say that it was a five year nightmare that completely handcuffed the BOD. Some have wondered why there were no new people brought onto the board. Now you know. Anyone that would have joined the BOD would have become unnecessarily involved in the litigation.

    Fortunately, we did have liability insurance and that covered the legal fees of the case. However, as a result of being in a five year lawsuit, we were dropped by our insurance company (though they were obligated to continue until the lawsuit was resolved, which they did). Subsequently, SCTC had to find a new insurance policy. Only two companies would even offer a policy to us. Our premium went from $1300.00/year with no deductible to $11,000.00/year with a $25,000.00 deductible.

    We just can’t afford this and, this lawsuit proved that we (the current BOD) simply cannot afford to run the conference without insurance. Had we not had the insurance policy, we would have been personally liable.

    There is talk amongst a couple of the BOD to try to reorganize SCTC into something very new. Please continue your Facebook and Yahoo group presence to stay informed; any future updates on any plans will be posted to keep you informed. Otherwise, any money that is left in our account, which is being held in escrow by our attorney, will be donated to a worthy trans organization.

    We’re sorry to bring you this sad news right before the holidays, but you deserve to know what’s going on.

    It has been our extreme honor to serve you all throughout the years and we wish you all the best!

    With love,
    Your SCC/SCTC Board of Directors:
    Shanti Keshavi devi dasi (Stefanie Schumacher)
    Alexis Dee
    Christy Anderson
    Phyllis McCall
    ​BOD I am assuming means Board of Directors
    Of course without knowing what they were sued for and why they lost makes it very difficult for other conferences to guard themselves against the very same thing don't you think?
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  3. Bonnie added a post in a topic: Southern Comfort Transgender Conference Has Been Discontinued As Of December 10, 2016   

    I wonder what they were sued for and from the sounds of it they must have lost a large sum.
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  4. Bonnie added a post in a topic: Virginia Ties   

    Hi Monica!  I am older than you.  ​  I know the expression quite well I just like to put in comments to throw people off kilter a bit.  As far as my age goes I do my best not to act it.  I am 64 and act like a 25 yo.  I wished I looked like one I quite often dress like one but that depends on where I am going or what my dates like to see me in.  Anyway, thank you my dear for the explanation.
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  5. Bonnie added a post in a topic: Virginia Ties   

    Apples and oranges are different? 
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  6. Bonnie added a post in a topic: What are you wearing right now?   

    Right now I am in my comfy clothes.  A blue and gray wide striped sweater dress and floral satiny panties.  Nothing else.
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  7. Bonnie added a post in a topic: Miniskirts are making a comeback   

    Bri, if you are going to wear a mini skirt you don't wear your turtle panties you wear something sexier. 
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  8. Bonnie added a post in a topic: Miniskirts are making a comeback   

    I like wearing mini skirts and I have quite a few, however, I don't wear them out very often because I am trying not to draw attention to myself.  My age is an issue too.
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  9. Bonnie added a post in a topic: One Love - opening at the Valentine 12-1 Richmond Va .   

    Wonderful, Ellen, simply wonderful!
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  10. Bonnie added a post in a topic: First Event 2017   

    I need to win a lottery so I could travel to all these very good events.
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  11. Bonnie added a post in a topic: Fantasia Fair   

    That would be great to attend.
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  12. Bonnie added a post in a topic: Name change question   

    I will tell you how I chose mine.  My full name is Bonnie Dawn Ryba - BDR.  My male name initials are also BDR.  My male first name is Scottish and so is Bonnie.  Bonnie was the first girl I liked as a friend when I was about 5 or 6.  She was the sister of one of the boys who I knew or one of my younger brothers knew.  I liked being with her.  It was on a military base in Germany so we weren't there for long (3 years).  When we moved back to Canada I never did see her again but I always remembered her and so I use her name.  I chose Dawn because it is the beginning of a new day.  Ryba was chosen from a list of names that came up after I entered Bonnie as a first name on the virtual reality site called Second Life.  Ryba began with R like my real name and it had 4 letters like my real name.  I found out later that it means 'fish' in Polish and that didn't bother me at all.
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  13. Bonnie added a post in a topic: Church sign saying 'Satan made gays' covered in black paint   

    This just shows how Hate can be placed upon whole groups of people no matter how those people really are.  There is evil everywhere in all groups and countries and races and the best place to look for it is at the top.  The people with power or the people behind that power.  I am not saying that all people with power are evil because they are not.  I am saying that is the best place to look for it.  So when someone is out there preaching hate then I would look very closely at them and question them.  It is easy to blanket a whole group of people by pointing at something in the Bible or the Koran or whatever Hitler used to convince the Germans that Jews should be exterminated.  Anyone who instills fear into the populace should seriously be questioned on their motives.  Look at all the horrible ways people have been put to death on behalf of Good!  How can good people do such things?  They can't unless they do it out of fear that that will happen to them if they don't go along.  If you question the power to be then you place yourself at risk of persecution.  The LGBT is challenging society by asking what is wrong with loving another of the same gender?  What is wrong with wanting to live as the gender you mentally are?  Just the questioning itself is scary for those in power.  They don't like being challenged.  It seems to me that is why these books were created in the first place and then everyone told they can't be questioned.  That is like saying that books of law can't be questioned or changed.  Tell people some god guided the person or persons to write the laws and then they can't ever be questioned or changed.
    ISIL is a perfect example of how Evil has gained control of a group on the justifications of being Good.  How can anyone Good be so cruel and vicious?
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  14. Bonnie added a post in a topic: Toronto Pride and Ottawa Pride 2016   

    This year Toronto Pride 2016 will be for a whole month.  June 1 to July 3.  I should have posted this earlier, however, the July 1-3 will be the best part of it.   July 1 is also Canada's birthday so there will be a whole lot of partying going on Friday.
    I had gone to the one in Toronto numerous times and was planning on going again this year but I am low on cash so will have to miss it this year.  I will go to the one where I live here in Ottawa in August.  August 15 - 21.  I had gone to this one last year for my first time.
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  15. Bonnie added a post in a topic: High Costs for Transgender Men and Women   

    Transition process full of surprising costs for transgender men and women
    Even in Canada, transitioning can cost as much as 'a house in a small town'
    Stef Sanjati is a 20-year-old Toronto-based makeup artist and YouTube star who is chronicling her male-to-female transition through candid, funny, and somewhat addictive short video updates. Within the next year, she hopes to travel to Boston for facial feminization surgery and expects expenses for the trip and procedure to reach $45,000. Because she only has $5,000 in savings, she has turned to the crowd-funding platform GoFundMe for the rest.
    On her GoFundMe page, Sanjati explains how the expensive procedures will change her life more than physically: “These surgeries are about feeling like you, every day, when you wake up in the morning - before cinching, pulling, and covering every inch of your body with body shapers, tape, and cosmetics. They're about recognizing yourself in the mirror, and feeling like living, going outside, is possible, and not something to dread.”
    She talks about the high cost of changing your wardrobe for transwomen and for makeup.  For me that is the cost of being a woman anyway.  The extra costs would be in the body shapers and the hair removal along with the non-covered surgeries if you decide to go that far.
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