I will tell you how I chose mine. My full name is Bonnie Dawn Ryba - BDR. My male name initials are also BDR. My male first name is Scottish and so is Bonnie. Bonnie was the first girl I liked as a friend when I was about 5 or 6. She was the sister of one of the boys who I knew or one of my younger brothers knew. I liked being with her. It was on a military base in Germany so we weren't there for long (3 years). When we moved back to Canada I never did see her again but I always remembered her and so I use her name. I chose Dawn because it is the beginning of a new day. Ryba was chosen from a list of names that came up after I entered Bonnie as a first name on the virtual reality site called Second Life. Ryba began with R like my real name and it had 4 letters like my real name. I found out later that it means 'fish' in Polish and that didn't bother me at all.
This just shows how Hate can be placed upon whole groups of people no matter how those people really are. There is evil everywhere in all groups and countries and races and the best place to look for it is at the top. The people with power or the people behind that power. I am not saying that all people with power are evil because they are not. I am saying that is the best place to look for it. So when someone is out there preaching hate then I would look very closely at them and question them. It is easy to blanket a whole group of people by pointing at something in the Bible or the Koran or whatever Hitler used to convince the Germans that Jews should be exterminated. Anyone who instills fear into the populace should seriously be questioned on their motives. Look at all the horrible ways people have been put to death on behalf of Good! How can good people do such things? They can't unless they do it out of fear that that will happen to them if they don't go along. If you question the power to be then you place yourself at risk of persecution. The LGBT is challenging society by asking what is wrong with loving another of the same gender? What is wrong with wanting to live as the gender you mentally are? Just the questioning itself is scary for those in power. They don't like being challenged. It seems to me that is why these books were created in the first place and then everyone told they can't be questioned. That is like saying that books of law can't be questioned or changed. Tell people some god guided the person or persons to write the laws and then they can't ever be questioned or changed. ISIL is a perfect example of how Evil has gained control of a group on the justifications of being Good. How can anyone Good be so cruel and vicious? Bonnie
This year Toronto Pride 2016 will be for a whole month. June 1 to July 3. I should have posted this earlier, however, the July 1-3 will be the best part of it. July 1 is also Canada's birthday so there will be a whole lot of partying going on Friday. http://www.pridetoronto.com/pride-month/ I had gone to the one in Toronto numerous times and was planning on going again this year but I am low on cash so will have to miss it this year. I will go to the one where I live here in Ottawa in August. August 15 - 21. http://ottawacapitalpride.ca/ I had gone to this one last year for my first time. Bonnie
Transition process full of surprising costs for transgender men and women Even in Canada, transitioning can cost as much as 'a house in a small town' Stef Sanjati is a 20-year-old Toronto-based makeup artist and YouTube star who is chronicling her male-to-female transition through candid, funny, and somewhat addictive short video updates. Within the next year, she hopes to travel to Boston for facial feminization surgery and expects expenses for the trip and procedure to reach $45,000. Because she only has $5,000 in savings, she has turned to the crowd-funding platform GoFundMe for the rest. On her GoFundMe page, Sanjati explains how the expensive procedures will change her life more than physically: “These surgeries are about feeling like you, every day, when you wake up in the morning - before cinching, pulling, and covering every inch of your body with body shapers, tape, and cosmetics. They're about recognizing yourself in the mirror, and feeling like living, going outside, is possible, and not something to dread.” https://ca.finance.yahoo.com/blogs/insight/the-surprising-costs-of-transitioning-can-put-some-transgender-people-in-danger-202146371.html She talks about the high cost of changing your wardrobe for transwomen and for makeup. For me that is the cost of being a woman anyway. The extra costs would be in the body shapers and the hair removal along with the non-covered surgeries if you decide to go that far. Bonnie
Meet Amelia Gapin The First Transgender Cover Star Of Women’s Running The cover of the July issue of Women’s Running magazine looks much like the other covers of the popular sports and fitness mag. But it’s unique for one pretty special reason: it features the magazine’s first-ever transgender cover star. Say hello to 33-year-old, Amelia Gapin. She’s pretty badass, not least for her sporting prowess that has seen her compete in eight marathons, but also because she beat 3,000 other cover star hopefuls to make history fronting The Body Issue of the running mag. “Being a transgender woman on the cover of a magazine dedicated to women says people like me are not just being seen, but being seen for who we are,” Gapin told the magazine in her cover interview. “It’s a feeling of acceptance, inclusivity and being welcomed.” https://ca.style.yahoo.com/meet-amelia-gapin-the-first-transgender-cover-star-132240736.html Congratulations Amelia! Bonnie
Two spirit: gay, indigenous and out Massey Whiteknife recalls having to go to the bathroom during classes as a kid growing up in northern Alberta and not during breaks at school to avoid the bullies. “It was horrible. I was very feminine. I would get beat up if I went during the break,” the 37-year-old businessman from Fort McMurray told Yahoo Canada News. Whiteknife and other indigenous Canadians have come a long way. They have embraced their two-spiritedness despite the challenges. Whiteknife, from the Fort McKay First Nation reserve, runs a multimillion-dollar occupational training and safety business: he is out of the closet to everyone and is sometimes in public as Iceis Rain — a drag queen and recording artist. As an adult, Whiteknife came to understand the indigenous term of two-spiritedness, which has helped him embrace all his facets. His 2014 record, The Queen, garnered six nominations at the Aboriginal Peoples Choice Music Awards. He was the first two-spirited person to perform in drag. “[Iceis Rain] has become a leader and mentor in her own community.” It’s a bitter and rough road for many indigenous youth who are two-spirited, says Alex Wilson who’s from the Opaskwayak Cree Nation in northern Manitoba. Wilson heads the Aboriginal Education Research Centre at the University of Saskatchewan. Her focus of study is two-spirit identity development. “I used to perform on my own in the basement when I was a kid,” he explained. “She was reborn when I was 18. She does her own thing and I do mine.” “We use the two-spirit term [to refer] both to sexual orientation and gender identity,” Wilson, who is also lesbian, told Yahoo Canada News. “In our language it makes sense because we have roles and places for various gender and sexual identities.” https://ca.news.yahoo.com/two-spirit-gay-indigenous-and-out-100135855.html Another example of how life can appear to be so bleak with no future and then things turn for the better. Education and assistance can go a long way. Bonnie