I have recently taken another step forward in my ventures in public as a woman. My first step out in public was unforgettable as I am sure it was for everyone. It was many years ago and in another city than the one I live. Everything was done safely and with a group to TG friendly gay clubs. I went twice a year in subsequent years but never out in my own city. Going to Toronto twice a year for 2-3 days was getting expensive and it was not enough for me. I began looking for places to go out here in my city. My next step was to drive en femme. I went to see someone just outside my city and then back home again. Exhilarating! I went to a TG and admirers party dressed. A club became available that had a TG night once a month which I went to dressed. Leaving my apartment and going to my car as a woman was becoming easier to do. My next big step was to go to a public annual event called Sexapalooza, now called Taboo, where the sex shops would advertise their products, shows and educational seminars were given over a weekend. I went dressed a few years ago but had to park in shopping mall tower parking. I had to walk through the whole mall to find my way to the Centre where the event was being held. That was huge. I have taken a guy shopping for women's clothes during the day. I was dressed and he was in male attire. I took him to Value Village then a box store called Pennington's. I gave him not only moral support but clothing advice. Last year I went to watch the Pride Parade wearing a nice black with white polka dots dress. I went alone. I have been to a number of the city's hotels to meet with a man I know who flies to town from the west on business. He likes to role play and at first I went in male mode and dressed in the bathroom then decided it would be much easier to just go as a woman. Which brings me to my next huge step. He has been wanting to see me the last few months but the closest he was going to get was Toronto. He asked if I would go to see him if he paid for my flight? He flies often so he has a lot of frequent flier points and he would pay for my same day return flight. He would be staying at the hotel at the airport. I couldn't pass up this opportunity and was determined to have a new experience. I went on March 6. Flew out at 4:30 pm and was back by midnight. I was treated like any other woman by everyone and had no issues with security. I had used my male name on the ticket so that it would match my driver's license. I do not pass completely but wore clothes that did not particularly draw attention other than the fact I was wearing nice clothes. 3" black pumps, stockings, just above the knee length black skirt, a nice blouse with 3/4 length sleeves, knee length overcoat, nice black purse and a carryon bag. I wore my sunglasses as much as possible but put them on my head when lighting was not good. Another first I will not forget! Bonnie
I don't buy any kits and just go with whatever I like for each item. Sometimes it is the brand I like and other times it is the colour that is available along with cost. The only thing I am particular about are my brushes. I will pay higher costs for them. Mac are my brushes of choice.
Be as cautious as any woman would be anywhere she goes. Walking alone at night is a danger in itself and going into a club alone without knowing what to expect is as dangerous. I would advise that if you want to go to a club as a woman then be sure it is one that is TG friendly, usually a gay club but not always, ones with drag shows are good. If you are going alone then expect to be hit on.
July 31, 2017 CBC News Politics http://www.cbc.ca/news/politics/fallon-aubee-transgender-inmate-1.4215594 Canada's federal prison service has approved the first transfer of a transgender inmate to an institution based on gender identity rather than physical anatomy, CBC News has learned. Fallon Aubee, who has been serving a life sentence at B.C.'s Mission Institution, told CBC her request to move to a women's prison has been approved, and she will be transferred to Fraser Valley Institution for Women on Tuesday. ....
Here is an article about Harrison Browne who was playing hockey as her birth gender in women's hockey and will be leaving the league to transition to male. I am not sure if he will continue to play by switching to men's hockey. https://www.thestar.com/news/gta/2017/03/24/transgender-athlete-harrison-browne-will-retire-in-order-to-transition.html The second artile is about Jessica Platt who is MtF playing hockey for a women's team. “I want people to know you don’t have to quit pursuing your dreams to be the person you were meant to be,” she said. https://www.thestar.com/sports/hockey/2018/01/11/toronto-furies-forward-jessica-platt-comes-out-as-first-openly-transgender-cwhl-player.html I play a lot of hockey myself and am presently playing 3-5 times a week with various groups. The Wednesday group about half the guys know I am transgender and have no problem with it. They have yet to see me dressed as female but have seen photos. I would come out to more but my two children do not know I am TG and my ex does not want me to tell them. If it does somehow get back to them then so be it and I will come out more fully. I am happy to see that sports is becoming more open and welcoming to the LGBT community. Bonnie
I am sure Lisa will be great! Remember makeup depends on where you might be going when you wear it. Be sure to shave with sharp razors, heat your face first with hot water, then the cream, then shave then moisturize your face. Clothes shopping is as discussed on another post. Lisa will not be able to take you to the women's stores she knows unless she is a tall as you. When you do find a store for tall women she can go with you. Be sure the store will let you use the change rooms. Lisa can find out for you. Voice.... yes yes yes. I need so much practice. I still go out and I try to soften my voice. I don't exactly pass so no big deal if my voice gives me away. I still need to practice though. Many good videos on YouTube.
Hi Davi! BTW I am on FetLife too! Ottawa (BonnieR) 3 " heels for me puts me around 6'2". I tower over many women but not all. I am average height when I am with transwomen. Most if not all major cities have stores for tall women and they usually sell shoes too for large feet. I take 13 womens if they are close toed and 12 if they are open toed. I have one pair of flats which I haven't worn outside yet. Maybe this summer. The only shapewear I use are breast forms. I have tried hip and ass shapers but they just didn't look right and they were lost in a purge. If you ever think of purging don't!!!! Contact me if you do and we will talk. Do not wear heels if you are not going to have something firm underfoot like a floor, concrete, asphalt, etc. Sure they make your legs look great but if you are on grass or sand or dirt then your heels will sink in. You will have to tip toe around. I hope this helps. Bonnie
Do not give up what you have until you are absolutely sure you are bettering your present situation. Date but stay living separately. I am sure you can have sleepovers at each others places. That way you will get to know whether or not you can deal with the other persons idiosyncrasies. I can't see the pet thing being worked around so make sure that is in your Profile if you are using a dating site. I am not looking for a partner nor am I a so called moral person. I am looking for sex and am having a lot of fun. A few of my men have been long term and the others are occasional. One man did ask me if we could be exclusive and I said no and why. He accepted my reasons and comes to see me at least once a week. It is working well for me. I am going out more often now because I found a club where I could meet other transwomen so my translife is expanding even at my age. I am being complimented by men, women and other transwomen for my appearance and my openness. My sexual needs are being met and my social needs are also being met. If by some chance I do meet the man for me then so be it but I am not looking for him nor do I actually think I will meet him. I am living one day at a time. I have two other outlets that keep me going too. I play a lot of hockey, as a guy, and afterwards there is beer and food so I am having a social life. I did come out to about 8 players of one group I play with so we do talk about it at times but not often. The other outlet is a cyber world called Second Life (SL). I go there most evenings and I started out as a pre-op transwoman but am now a woman for all intents and purposes. I live a very happy life there and especially since I bought a better computer over a year ago. It is a great place for those who live alone and can't get out much and you can create a beautiful young looking avatar. Because of my lack of finances because I was married before I have worked as a stripper for most of my time in SL. The money I made, in their currency, allowed me to buy clothes and a rent a place to live. I am now a DJ at the club I was a stripper at. Drama still occurs there because people are still people. I state all this just to tell you how I have been coping with living alone. It is not for most but maybe you can find something I do or think helpful. Bonnie PS When I say I am not a moral person it is because many of the men are married. To me that is not my issue it is the men's. I did not go looking for them they found me.
There are brick and mortar stores that have clothes and heels in large sizes. By large sizes I mean for Plus sizes and then there are stores for tall sizes. These stores usually have dealt with transwomen and what I did was to phone ahead and talk to someone about whether or not the store is comfortable with my friend trying on clothes there. One store said they would stay open for an hour longer or come in when the store first opens since there is usually no one shopping right away. Another store said it was perfectly ok. My friend went in drab and I went en femme to support him. We went to the store that said it was ok. I chatted with the sales woman as she helped my friend. He was buying a bra and panty set and was measured and tried some on. I had already taken him to a thrift store where he bought a number of things. He would hold things up and I would give my opinion on it. No one gave us a second look. Well if they did it was no big deal. I was dressed quite respectfully.
It is very sad that people care so much about what your orientation is and they are not even looking for a partner since they have one already. I think people fear that their children or grandchildren will be LGBT and so they will not provide them with natural children. If we can make it socially unacceptable to be LGBT then the next generation will live hetero lives whether they want to or not. This really means that we don't give a damn about you and we care about ourselves more and what people think about me. You being LGBT will cause me to be embarrassed among friends and family. And I really don't want to think about how you have sex!!! OMG!!! In the situation the video examines I don't see anyone planning on buying two turtles or saying they need a female or male one because the one they have at home is male or female. They are buying just one turtle so what difference would it make? Briannah, since the people were acting it is difficult to say how many people actually come into the shop to buy a turtle. Bonnie
Thank you Erica. My comment was simply to complicate things in a humourous manner. You are correct and I feel the same way, transgenderism should not be a complicated thing to understand. Love, no matter the gender, should not be a complicated thing but for some reason it is. This site is here to support and to educate. We support each other and we educate each other. Once we understand ourselves both as an individual and as a group we can go out and support and educate others. I have been doing that much more in this past year and plan to do more this coming year. Bonnie