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Saratoga Pride


Jessicatoyou

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Saratoga Pride is an LBGTQ group outside of my hometown but close enough that I thought it would be worthwhile to check out.  I stumbled upon it from meeting Amy a few weeks ago.  They were having their annual dinner last night at a small restaurant/ pub, "50 South", just outside Saratoga, NY.  There was a rather small group there, about 30, less than I expected, not knowing what to expect, which also was good as it made for a more intimate setting.  (I give the restaurant a 5 of 5 on the food and service, and acceptance!)  I had never been to any kind of LBGTQ event or gathering before last night. I would not have been at all surprised if I had met someone there from my hometown, was well prepared if I had,  but I didn't.  I'm finding the more I step out as Jess now,  which is more often than not, I am as comfortable,  💇‍♀️ even more so, than in a cis-male role.  I never expected that so quickly, having only been stepping out for a few weeks, now.  And I'm finding that most, no,  just about everyone  I encounter out in public seems comfortable with me, too, whether I'm  just pumping my own gas, getting coffee, going to the supermarket, going through the mall,  walking downtown window shopping, and yes even going to a nice restaurant by myself I've never been to.  I've never been shy in engaging with anyone and I think people quickly figure out I'm non threatening and that may have something to do with it.  I noticed at the banquet, however, that the different groups there, i.e. the L, the G, the T,  mostly clustered together, not all, but it was very difficult for the most part to strike a conversation and keep it going with everyone.  Hmmm, have to think more on that one and figure how to better break the ice next time.  Still met quite a few good people, though,  and I'm looking forward to following up with them in the near future. 😊   Jessica 😍

     

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Good for you Jessica! You’re lucky to have found such a nice group that’s close to you. 

I echo what you are feeling going out. Wow, when I first started I was so scared, even to drive my car. Slowly, slowly, it’s come to the point that we dream of, that I just get dressed in whatever feels best and appropriate for the occasion. Yesterday when going to a clinic to see a girlfriend for a medical exam, I wore a longish navy skirt, black leggings, and white Banana Republic sweater. We’re getting together this evening and I’m thinking of a pair of khaki green pants and a casual top. Comfy, nice looking, and casual. 

Keep putting yourself out there. Sure, we connect with some people more than others. That’s the spice of life. 

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Dear Jessica and Emma,

Jessica, I have been to Saratoga, NY, years ago, and it was beautiful. Focus on making ONE friend at a gathering, instead of "working the room," especially if you are the newcomer. Once you are established in an organization, you can offer your services as a "greeter." Had to learn this the hard way. If you make even one friend, you have won. It is quality, not quantity.

Emma, I am not sure if I understood this right, but where you accompanying a girlfriend to a medical exam, and later, got together to talk about it? Sadly, I have to go to the dentist and doctor alone (I am the queen of medical and dental cowards!) and a great way to make friends is to be available to give a friend support visiting the doctor and dentist.

Yours truly,

Monica

 

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