General Transgender Discussion

Just had to get this off my chest. Even though I get along with all my family, today has been a somewhat bitter sweet day. You see, today is my birthday, and I heard nothing from my family. At the same time it has been a sweet day. Just got a phone call from a very dear friend, and telling me she loves me, and thanked me for being in her life. I also got a surprise e-mail from my life coach saying happy birthday. How she knew it was my birthday is beyond me, but it felt good. So, trying to hang on to the positive and let go of the hurt of not hearing from my family. I am finding that blood is not thicker than water. Having a few good friends is much more.

I got to thinking about this as I waited at my son's school today . I'm about to get dressed to the 9's to do a memorial for the many who have been murdered or taken their lives tonight at 7 P-M . Uh, it's T D O R folks . I want to propose we as Americans have a Trans Day of celebration ! Yes, a day where trans People are finally recognized for their achievements , their contributions to society and community . In addition , some worthy recipient could be presented an award , a potential college student with a scholarship, a lawmaker acknowledged for doing the right thing that year . Yes, many of these elements have been squeezed into T D O R services . Hey, if the ga…

Hey everyone! So, Who here has had to feel the pain of being fired back into the closet.... Coming out for me was extremely hard because I did it on more then one occasion.. The First time, I simply just told my parents I was a lesbian, not an issue to my bio-mom. She already knew. By dad refused to talk to me for a few weeks until my mom Overdosed and I had to live with my dad. Then, there was a whole new problem-- My step mother who is a religious zealot. at the time, I was still figuring myself out, I never knew was transgender was until meeting a girl my sophomore year who was the nicest person I've ever met and she was trans. She helped me sort of figure mysel…

Well, this week here in "Riva City , also known to me as the city too damn conservative to change , Richmond Virginia wil host T D O R Wednesday at Saint Paul's Episcopal church about a block away from Virginia's Capital Bell tower which in the 1700's was also a look out tower for the Red's . Uh Englishmen for those of you in Europe . Among topics that were on the agenda , Transphobia . What is may or may not be , who is , isn't . The discussion was held at the Gay Community center / Diversity Thrift . I was asked to chime in as I have been someone affected bu this insidious disease . How , you say, ok , uh I got let go three months ago when a transwoman called me Elle…

ive decided that im going to have to give up being transgender as living where im living i cant be myself nor can i really afford the stuff to look pretty and gothic like i want to. those who are like me know what im going thru and know it takes money to fix what is inside us. i know some will be disappointed in me but what can i really do. not like i can pull money out my arse every month. 700 monthly dont go far when you got to pay rent and bills and food. here is the factors that made me decide this: 1) no friends literally that i can hang out wiith that are like me in my area that drive as i dont drive at all 2) my current residence town wise prevents me from b…

This is wonderful. The facilitator is just one year older than I, and three years into her transition. So she seems to be the perfect mentor. The group requires an interview, which was no problem... so next Wed. night, I'll meet the group. This first meeting will be at a local cinema where there is comunity/public welcome gathering and a movie for National Transgender Day of Remembrance. I could not have possibly imagined a more appropriate day to introduce myself for the first time in a public forum as a transsexual woman. My official entry into the group will be the following week. They will be able to guide me to all of the local therapist, doctors and …

November is traditionally a busy month for me. I've bee slowed down the past few days by elevated blood pressure (doing better, thanks) but the mind is still sharp. Next Monday is Veteran's Day. I have marched in the past but this time I will be a spectator. Though my transness was hidden from me when I served I am proud of my service. I will attend Transgender Day of Remembrance festivities also. Once again I plan on speaking briefly. Over time these two events have meant more to me. What it demonstrates is that we are everywhere. We have talents, gifts, skill, and perseverence. No one can ever tell me we can't perform. We have done well even under duress. With th…

A man has been jailed for life for murdering a transsexual prostitute in north London. Destiny Lauren was one of a number of transgender people to suffer violence, and there are concerns such attacks are on the increase. http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-10803570

I want to look like I am forever? Can anybody tell me how to do exactly that? I have come up with 3 parts to looking young or keeping fit on daily basis beside from eating food. -stay in lean muscle mass shape or not get fat -keep your mind brain & life in good cross check -use lots of girly cosmetic products to keep ones skin the way it is now. Any help appreciated?

As many of you know, I have been transitioning for years. So, I write this with joy and also embarrassment, that it took me this many years to get here. As I mentioned in the ftm forum, over my vacation time, I let my beard grow. I came close to shaving it off before going back to work. That fear of what will people say and always trying to just be invisible. Well I kept the beard. And glad I did. I realized that yes, people might talk about me behind my back....So What??? From what I hear they already do. 1 or 2 might say something belittling to my face, So What? That's just 1 or 2 people I do not need in my life. having the courage to finally be me, do what I…

Hi everybody I'm right at the start of my journey. I saw my doctor a couple of weeks ago and told her that I was transsexual - the first person I've told! She referred me for assessment to a gender identity clinic and when I called her secretary today I was told that it will likely take many months to be seen. Does anyone have any information or experience of the time it takes for an initial assessment to take place from point of referral? I guess I should have anticipated some delay (this is our NHS after all) but it's a bit disappointing to have made a commitment to starting down the road to transition only to find there's going to be a long delay before the next st…

I loved to post this in the Lets get social, but it swas mostly for introductions n such . And well , I guess it is but anyway . Like I don't know ANYONE here. Like ssly, everyone here is like seeing a person on the streets walking by, and im like, hey , thats you... or ehm, Yeah But want I want to do with this streetwalking person (thjat came out wrong) is to be friend to them! xD You! I mean if anytone want to be friend to twenty year old transexual girl that is !! It be AZMING . We can share stories, we can gossip about clothing, boys and fun things to do, and things we wanna do, and whatever really.. Im not into this big discussion about topic s like , politics or…

So my landlady was here a while ago. She is elderly, uses 2 canes to be able to walk. Her friend who is also an elderly woman was with her. I noticed they were trying to do some stuff outside so went out to see if I could help. I don't see my landlady very often. She does know I have transitioned. Anyway, for the first 5 minutes, she kept calling me by female pronouns. (I guess full facial hair doesn't register.) But I decided to keep my peace. She is a nice lady and I am just not into being that easily offended anymore. Anyway, after that first five minutes, she looked at me and apologized. And all was well. We had a friendly, fun conversation. When she left…

I guess you know that it is time to give up on a relationship, when you spend your last cent to send someone you care about, and you think cares about you, a birthday present, and you get no thank you....no response at all. Yea, been kidding myself for too long.

Hard to believe it's been a year since I was doing the therapy stuff. As most of you know, I started working with a life coach in late December. I took the month of Sept off from the coaching. Took the time to review all we have talked about. Going over my notes and e-mails. And, I am amazed. The way I look at things, think about things is so different. Things that used to drive me crazy are not even a blip on the radar screen anymore. For the first time in decades I can say....I am excited about my life. I have a lot of life yet to live. And....I have an awesome life coach.

Life is filled with trials and tribulations. Some are pleasant, other not so pleasant. Whatever lessons we glean from this trials will serve us in the future. I listened to a sermon this yesterday touching on this subject. Trials are like studies in school; they are the basic training that we receive before going on our own in the world. Afterwards that training is put to the test. We all travel on our own roads in life. Sometimes we may have to go it alone. My road to self-discovery was one that no one else could travel for me. There may be detours along the way that serve us and help us to embrace new things in our lives. We may discover that there are some thing…

My psychologist and I had a good talk about HRT this week. Now, I am married, and currently I am very much "in the closet", so I had mentioned that I would have to start outing myself before proceeding. However, she indicated that was not necessarily the case, and that people had started HRT without coming out before. Now, please note she wasn't *endorsing* doing it this way, and in fact mentioned that doing it this way was fraught with dangers, but it was technically possible. I'm not sure how this would be viable long-term, since if everything works as you would want, there are going to be changes that you couldn't exactly hide from a spouse. As well, it seems re…

found this one while searching videos about transgender stuff and he popped up so got curious and oh boy hes off his rocker...specially the videos hes got titled regarding transgender https://www.youtube.com/user/GraceByWhichIStand/videos

Hi everyone, my name's Claire Bailey, and I have been living as a woman for six years now, am 33, took me a long time to get the courage up to be the real me. Have often wondered why so many of us are given the wrong body, it's one of the most upsetting and hardest things to live with, I mean, being round some ones house you don't like for half an hour is a stress, but living inside a body you disgust is the hardest thing ever! Gosh, I spent 26 years waking up and saying to myself, god I wish i was a woman, and if I cant be, ill die trying It's pretty crazy when you think about it, most people don't understand, they cant, how could they? When I was five, I woke…

I have a great step mother,she has been in my life since I was 11 years old still loves me.Beside my father whom is acceptful I am transgendered,she is too.Through the years,she saw I was never happy.My bio mother shut me out of her life for good including her family.Not my step mother,never gave up on me and glad she has not to this day.I remember the day when I was 18,I decided to leave my male life for good and I told her this.She said if this is what I wanted to do,go for it.I hugged her and told her she will meet the new me.I went to a few tgirls I became friends with,made me over as a tgirl and learned to live my new life as a woman.It was on a Sunday,she met the ne…

...Yeah, it shouldn't be that way, but it is...and there's not much we can do about it. Yet. So... I once commented somewhere among the many threads here at TGG that it seemed one can usually tell if the speaker (or writer) is lesbian or gay: lesbians will always say "LGBT," and quite often, gays will say "GLBT." Even some straight women and men will follow the same "rule." But no matter what, we are always last. Well, that is, if there aren't a slew of other initials tacked on by the well-meaning over-zealous. Some of you may have noticed that I have recently started using "TGLB" instead of "LGBT" or "GLBT." But that's probably only because maybe I make a f…

Haii my name is Kira but my friends call me Fatigue . After comming out and going to group, i met a transgirl names Roxy who was able to lactate, and proud to mention it, but when i asked how she did it, she gave me the most vauge answer like she didn't want people to know and keep it to herself. and i wasn't about to stop my hormones for an unknown ammount of time in order to induce lacation hoping to start again at the right time... so if anyone knows how to do thing i would like a detailed description of how and all the steps from breast pumps to hormone manipulation. thank you very much :3

Hi all, I thought I mention some common sense pointers: It takes way too long for dating interaction through social media websites, It costs on average registeration and per monthly fees $45 for premium access and full features, Response time from male or women it can take forever to get a reply or actual meeting in real world (for me its easier to go out and meet and greet ), Lastly for trans male to interact with male to link up the male checks on trans to see in every detail who he is meeting with. Generally I put all my facts straight up in my introduction page so I don't have to go with introducing myself over and over, the pitfalls of trans dating versus…

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It was eight years ago today that I came out to myself as a crossdresser and transgender person. My life went in nother direction and it get better. the journey has been interesting and challenging at times. I wouldn't change anything that has happened.