General Transgender Discussion

http://www.harrybenjaminsyndrome-info.org/soc.html. There's a storm front coming in and that is a new definition to HBS, it is HBI. All of us have struggled throughout our lives to understand who we are, now we have a glimmer of hope. We are all "intersexuals." As we know this a "medical" term not "physcological." With this change to medical we now have a chance to get get the medical treatment we all need, including meds and surgeries. This is going to take time and patience. Many of us have had SRS and/or on HRT. Many have had to do it the hard way facing many obstacles and barriers, from medical indifference to social ostracism and even violence. This going to be an u…

I had an interesting chat today with someone from Personnel regarding me coming to work dressed according to my inner perspective. It appears that TS are very easy to manage in the sense that one day they appear as one gender, the next day in their new gender role. Changes such as name changes, new ID badges, and so on, can be easily implemented. A TG defies that easy rule, because every day could be different. I never feel very masculine or manly, and when I pretend to be manly (grr, beats chest) it's very comical. It is also insightful, in that being manly doesn't come easily to me. I really have to work at it. I digress. I can be somewhat more masculine one day, more…

I read an article about transgender rights being twenty years behind gay rights. What the article neglected to say was the reasons why. Here is my feelings and the reasons. 1. Roadblocks Transgender people and drag queens were front and center at the 1969 Stonewall Riots. When the leadership positions were created, transgender people were pushed to the margins. During the 1970s and 1980s laws were passed by gay and lesbian organizations to keep us out and prevented us from accessing resources we desperately needed. People like Janice Raymond and others were major obstacles. 2. Cold Feet Here in New York in 2010 marriage equality was on the same docket as gen…

Hello Friends, My wife Ann of 3 years is a MTF Pre-Op TS, we dated for 3 years prior to that. Ann has lived as a girl then as a woman since she was 13 she is now 24. I have been with Ann thru all of her surgeries and has just gone thru vocal feminization surgery. It has been 3 weeks already and it has been very rough on her and, I hate to say it, myself. I hate to sound hard headed or selfish but I loved her slghtly gruffy voice from before. I know she wants to be complete and I do support her... It's just wierd and I am sad... To know somebody as your only love then bam! She's like a different person, a stranger to me. I know it's going to get better but 2 weeks…

I've been wondering lately if -- in a large collective sense -- there are noticeable differences between those who say they are women vs those who want to be. I don't want to start any conflaguration here, just to see if any one else has noticed any collective differences between the two different self perceptions. As an example, might "those who want to be" tend towards crossdressing, while "those who are" might tend towards transitioning? Oh, and when I say "those who are" and "those who want to be", I am referring to how they think of themselves, not their physical bodies. As for my opinion on this, cannot say I have enough exposure or contact with others to get a …

I am looking for insight. information, websites, chat rooms (any) that you know of in relationship to marriage, affairs, sex, dating, between a MtF transgender and a normal male. I mean any tidbits, paragraphs, insight, experiences, websites or chatrooms where I can find out what I can expect in the area of marriage, affairs, sex, dating, between a MtF transgender and a normal male. OR the probabilities of transgendered MtF ending up in a lesbian relationship. Cassandra

I am new and i would like to talk to any one that can help out with what i need ask'ed thank have a nice day.

i have decided that i am going to give up on my transition as i no longer support the very community that time and time again have shunned me and not helped in my goal to womanhood. for the past 7 years i have went through literal heck, clawed and scratched to try to transition and no one seems to bother in helping nor cares i am even around. not to mention...i get critized, made fun of within my own community because i am having to present male until i get settled in my next place, if i ever do have one...knowing me ill live homeless the rest of my boring life....im so tired of being bashed within this community and looked down upon as gutter trash because i happen to be…

I am very lucky to have a very loving husband in my life,his name is Alex and we have been married for a year.It will be 2 years in December.Alex and I have been good friends for a long time and he knows I am a pre op,always liked the pre ops.We started dating 4 years ago and he was divorced a year before.I broke up with an ex of mine,this ex of mine forced me to have the GRS which I did not want to do.Alex sees I am happy as a pre op being this way for 18 years.Plus we do something together,adult films as a second job.Plus he knows I do help out the transgendered community also.My parents whom adopted me when I was 14 see I am happy and have a great life with him

Me talking me being transgender http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=c4maDLrotF0

I am the guy who came out to the entire school in his senior speech and got a standing ovation for his courage. I am the girl who kisses her girlfriend on the sidewalk and laughs at those who glare. We are the couple who planned and studied and got a damn good lawyer and BEAT the state that wanted to take our child away. We are the ones who took martial arts classes and carry pepper spray and are just too dangerous to gay bash. I am the transgender person who uses the bathroom that suits me, and demands that any complaining staff explain their complaint to my face in front of the entire restaurant -- and shares with my other trans friends which restaurants d…

I came out 3 weeks ago as bigender.As a crossdresser,knew I had feelings I had desires to dress as female starting at the age of 20.Things went well,my twin sister read my mind knowing I was not just a crossdresser.She is supportive and doing great with the changes.Rest of my family,did take it well and been great with the changes.My wife Chloe,I was amazed she took it well and says she has a much happier husband now.I live and dress as female now living a better life.I am seeing a therapist and the sessions are going well.Now I sleep well knowing this is over and have support.

long story short, she did not respond well (for a lack of better words). I think she's kicking me out tomorrow. Actually, Im pretty sure. I lost my wife, children, job, home and now my mother and a roof over my head because of my GID. its not fair

I can’t believe I actually did this. My wife and I decided to go to the mall tonight. Nothing out of the ordinary. It’s a relatively small mall. We had been there a couple hours, hit a few stores, and were at the last store we wanted to go to which as a jewelry store. I always like looking at their watches. I’m a Citizen snob. Anyway, we were in there and I reached up to scratch my jaw, and that’s when I noticed it. I hadn’t shaved for probably 3 days. I was instantly mortified. Adrianne hadn’t noticed, because typically, if I’m not going out on any given day, I’m too lazy to shave. So it’s nothing unusual for her. But when I realized it and asked her, she told me it was …

Just recently met another aunt on my father side of the family and she insisted after i told her i was transgender, to call me by proper pronouns and im her niece. i feel blessed to know that she is willing to support me fully and even consider me her niece and not her nephew.

I feel great my parents are in my life and still love me regardless.My parents care about me and I came over to see them today.It did go great to see them and they see I have a much better life now although my life as a boy was harsh.I am their only child and know I had a harsh life as a little boy.My mom saw at first,I fell in love with anything feminine at age 7 and never felt masculine.I was also teased and picked on a lot being called a lot of names which I will not mention.When I was 19,I told them the news I was going through the transition to become female not having the SRS.My mom supported me right away and told me she loved me regardless.My father cried at first…

To get everyone up-to-date; I have been in transition for four years, and am now a post-op woman living full time as such. Before and during my transition I suffered from a great deal of anxiety, largely due to my gender issues. These issues came to a head four years ago when my depression became so severe I was not able to make it through university. Through therapy, medication, and living my life the way I wanted I became a much happier and well adjusted person. I thought that I was finally well enough to take on school full time. After some success in arts administration I decided to take an Arts and Culture Management course at MacEwan College. I started part time …

Something keeps going thru my head, its what Annie said: "Sex is between your legs, Gender is between your ears" And I figured out something...MtF TGs are Male in Sex, but Female in Gender, so since I would gladly date an MtF as much as I'd date a bio-female, that makes me bisexual, but since I'm going on the gender, being female, I am straight, or heterogender? (If that is a word). Summed up, I'm Bisexual, yet Heterogender? What are your thoughts on it Ladies, and Gentlemen?

It pays a decent amount more than my last job. It will be nice to finally get things moving again. I haven't told them I'm a transsexual yet, and will tell them on friday when I start... Any ideas on a friendly way to disclose this to them?

Hi everyone, I was wondering if you have a highly feminine behavior in order to be tg? The reason i asked this is because i'm a young adult that has question my gender (MTF). I don't really do girlish things because i do karate, go to heavy metal concerts, and go deer hunting. However, i like to interact with women more than the men because i understand them better. I wanted a female physique since age 14 because i wanted to fit in with them. I tried on a bra it was awkward at first but then felt right. I never dress completely because i'm afraid of getting caught because i live with my mom. Is mid twenties too late to transition on hormones for decent results? D…

I have a great step mother,she has been in my life since I was 11 years old still loves me.Beside my father whom is acceptful I am transgendered,she is too.Through the years,she saw I was never happy.My bio mother shut me out of her life for good including her family.Not my step mother,never gave up on me and glad she has not to this day.I remember the day when I was 18,I decided to leave my male life for good and I told her this.She said if this is what I wanted to do,go for it.I hugged her and told her she will meet the new me.I went to a few tgirls I became friends with,made me over as a tgirl and learned to live my new life as a woman.It was on a Sunday,she met the ne…

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fzLrthThlu8&feature=youtu.be this is what i deal with daily in my life. would love for some to leave me comments on my video on my channel.

Today was the worst day in my life and here's why.... i had posted a cute gothic picture of me dress in my female attire and was really happy about it and my mother...well former mother now..decided to say in reply to the picture "oh i dont like this of you...your my son...love you" boy was i mad at her reply. so i asked her why she cant accept me(i asked her in private facebook messenger fashion of course) and her reply was...and i quote.... "your my G... D.... son and that is what your born as. i will never accept you as a female because that is not what you are. if i would had raised you, you wouldn't had become like that. your adoptive parents turned you into…

Hey. Maybe this is the wrong place for this topic, if yes, I appologize. I know I wasn't here for a while. Mostly because I kinda fought or you can say I am on my way but very confused. Okay to be more specific. So far I haven't "outed" myself here. I haven't said what I am. Welll I am a male in the body of a female. Thanks to this board and some really great friends I realized this. I found out what is "wrong" with me. Since I realized this I can say that I make a kinda morphosis. I live out my male soul. My closest friends don't call me by my female name anymore and one of them calls me man and brother what feels awesome. I also told some other people what I am an…

Actually it came to me in my sleep, probably because before I went to sleep, I had been researching way to finance my surgeries. Anyway, heres my idea. Alot of us dont have surgery because we either cant afford it or dont choose to get it. Well the ones who do want it anf havent got it yet, is most-likely because they cant get a loan because of poor credit, they maybe unemployed, it could be because they're full time students, whatever the reason. Money is tight all over the world right? Okay, because we have thousands of people on this messageboard, and it is active. I see different faces/names posting/joining everyday. Now what if everyone here could take two dol…