General Transgender Discussion

just sent my oldest son a letter on his facebook inbox of me coming out to him. im so scared because for the last 15 years of his life i was shoved out of his life by his grandfolks because they didnt like me dating their daughter back then. and now i feel like what i done has become selfish of me and my transgender life is a curse. im almost crying right now and im so hurt cause now i may never be able to speak to him again as he probably will hate me for being suck a freak. sometime i wonder if being transgender is really worth it cause now im losing the one thing in my life ive been trying to get back in my life. his mother knows of me being trans and is nothing but su…

attached is a picture of my new look.

I just bought my first waist cincher. I'm so excited :-)

Hey everyone. I have a lot on my mind, so I decided to create a blog. Its located at http://nickystjournal.blogspot.com/ I hope everyone enjoys' it. ^_^

My parents have been great to me lately,last week they finally came to terms and accepted I am transgendered on the hormones since August.We are talking even more and did this today.Called me Danielle for the first time and adjusting very well saying she and her around me.My parents saw I was never happy as a child and this was it.I knew at an early age about the age of 5 that I had feelings that I was born with the wrong body.They thought it was their fault and did tell them it was not.Mom noticed something right I had done,my nails and said the color was pretty.Told her thank you.My dad said I am whole better person now since I have been out of the closet on this.We eve…

Hi all. Putting this out there in case it might help someone else. I am in the process of making a gameboard. At the top of the board are my ultimate goals. They deal with health, relationships, spirituality, career....etc. I have then come up with the steps I need to take to reach each goal. the gameboard will have movable game pieces (probably velcro) that I can advance forward as I complete each step, or move backwards if I need to find an alternative route to the top. I am very visually motivated, so feel like this will be a big help for me. I am also setting up small rewards along the way. This will also help me in seeing the areas I am strong in, and the a…

My sister Alex and I doing great since my transition starting in August and we are close.Alex is glad I finally came out finally this year and knows she is getting a new sister in her life.She knew I was holding on to this secret of mine for a very long time.Plus she says I have a better quality of life too transitioning into the woman I see myself as.Alex is 3 years younger than me and says I will become a great big sister.Alex has helped me through my transition too,has found clothing stores that I can buy clothes at safely.Even told me about a shoe store I can buy shoes at.Alex even says I am just like a genetic female,love shoes and I told that is true.She has two boy…

Recently my son remarked to my wife that she wears the pants now while I wear the skirts. I take that as a compliment.

The Leveson Report in British press standards has some harsh words about the tabloids’ treatment of transgender people – now action is needed 29 November 2012 | By Helen Belcher " For days before the hearing in Court Room 73, I was frequently reduced to tears reading and re-reading the horrors that trans people and their families were repeatedly subjected to. It was powerful stuff, and the inquiry team, including my interrogator, the fearsome and erudite Robert Jay QC, seemed sympathetic." --gaystarnews.com My tears over Leveson trans evidence (w-Video) See related threads: ............. ............. << classic example of the types of issues dis…

As I noted in my introduction, I am in the first stages of transition. But it feels like I am not in control. I had my nails done, and pierced each ear twice. I automatically shave each morning and put on my makeup. I can't even find my mens trous and have a closet full of ladies clothes and what must be the biggest collection of ladies shoes and boots (can't get enough tall boots). I make a point of going out every day even if I don't need to...just to be sure I am seen by people. Six months ago I was terrified to even walk through the makeup aisle; today I shop their like I own the place. And I won't even start hormones until next week; I must look odd as a femini…

i am in voice training, i am intersex which may be the problem but every so oftern my voice slips from male to female, i always get the omg coment but i never seem to hear what my female voice sounds like nor do i know i even do it, sometimes my voice goes like mini mouse and will stick for several hours and as much as i try it wont budge ,does any one know why and what can i do to keep my fem voice and stop the high pitch squeel thank you stefanie

Hi there, Let's face it, we could all lose a few extra kilograms here and there... Everybody included, whether or not you be a man, woman, child, beast, etc, etc. Here's what i'm going to do.... I would like everybody who would like to join in here, put your name down, your current wieght, (no cheating you're only cheating yourself) and your realistic goal weight. I feel really strong about this and determined that i said to my wife that i would grow a beard until the goal wieght was acheived. However, that's not happening straight away... However i wouldn't rule it out. So as of the 7th of December 2007, I currently weigh 92kgs. My goal weight would be…

I am new to the forums and not really transgendered at all, but here to gain knowledge of transgender issues. I was wondering if anybody had made a study of transgenderism as it might relate to the Myer-Briggs personality classifications. There are 16 personality types in the Myer-Briggs classification system, and I am one of the most rare, INTJ (borderline ENTJ). Only 2% of the total population at very most is an INTJ. On top of that, it has a VERY STRONG GENDER BIAS as there are 3 male INTJ types for every 1 female INTJ type. The 4 different NT types make up 25% of the total personality types while only being somewhere between 7% and 10% of the population. On the other …

After much thought and discussion with my wife we have decided I am going to take the next step . It is our goal that by years end I will legally change my name but with a minor concession to protect my job,I know that sounds silly but I cannot afford to risk my livelyhood. This means I will retain my first name with Victoria Anne as my middle but I will get an ID card ommitting my first name. For now this an excepptable compromise but none the less it is a step forward and I feel good about it.

Well it is settled , next week I am heading to court to get my name legally changed and with my wifes support and blessing , Victoria Anne will legally , finally be here I am so giddy I just can't wait. To court then social security and then my new lisence and off to celebrate with a nice dinner and perhaps a movie who knows I am just so excited as the day draws near.

Well, as of Friday, Dec. 8 I went to the court house and applied for my name change. The name change paper did NOT have anything on it about gender change, so I had to piggy back it on there. Where it says, "what is the reason for the name change" I put: Common Useage/life changes. I put life changes due to my transition. It sounds better to put that than to put "transitioning, FTM" or "SRS surgery". The lady at the court house said that was perfect. On the line below that I put "Request for gender change" The lady told me that next week I will receive a paper in the mail and I am to take that to the local newspaper and tell them to put the ad in the paper fo…

Hi everyone. It has been a long time since I have posted here. As of tuesday my legal name change has been printed in a newpaper. I was almost moved to tears. Now I await my affidavit so that I may change my social security, I.D and all other documents. Also I am in grooming academy to become a petstylis. Everything is going well and I love how things are going. I have been full time since January, my name change is almost complete and I am embarking upon my first career. I feel so lucky and accomplished. Thank you all for listening. -Nikki

I'm currently in the process of getting my name changed. I was wondering if changing my last name as well would be a good idea too. The reason I'm wondering about it is because I'm considering the opinion of going stealth and naturally I don't want people finding out information about my male pass that could be damaging to me. I just wondering what would be recommended to do in a case like this.

The following article (which includes some video of the person undergoing gender confirmation surgery) to me shows how important it is to have a strong support system in place as shown several times in the video of the mother's love for her child. The mother was clueless when she first found out her child was transgender but that all changed and she loved her no different than prior to her child's announcement. I believe a person can go through this surgery without support but with just a single person in their corner raises the success of a happy life ten fold so imagine what the support of an entire family will do then couple that with friends who are supportive. http:/…

http://transequality.org/issues/national-transgender-discrimination-survey In 2011, NCTE and the National LGBTQ Task Force released the National Transgender Discrimination Survey. Interviews with over 6,400 transgender and gender non-conforming people make it the largest such study ever conducted. The study has been a game changer—both for our policy work and for cultural change. For the first time, we were able to quantify the discrimination and violence transgender people face. NCTE is now working on a second iteration of the survey to be released in 2016 that will measure how things are now and how they have changed over the past five years. The findings from NTDS are…

I am new to the forum, can anybody help me with the recommended dosage of fenugreek and saw palmetto tablets for good breast development. I am 6 foot 220 pounds. I have heard good results from others but not how much to take and how often.

i wish i had a better job for many reasons...my current job would be impossible to start my transition and begin hormones. ..its not a trans-friendly place...its not even a regular friendly place...its just a retail store in a not great part of an inner city...me wanting a better more friendly work environment is not just an excuse to delay taking hormones...its a legit concern

Hi all. I have been working with a state rep in changing DMV rulings regarding changing one's gender marker on a drivers license. One thing this state rep asked me to find out is....how many NH trans people does the current policy, that requires complete surgery, a hardship? Seems like all the NH support groups that I knew in the past, have vanished. So, I am asking here. And, if there are NH trans people here, that have other contacts, info on support groups, please ask them. I don't need names...I just need numbers. Thank you for any and all info.

I was wondering if maybe anyone had some tips in this area. I can't afford electrolysis just yet, going to start that as soon as I can, but in the meantime I'm trying to find a way to hide it. I have very dark hair, brown but so dark it's almost black, with facial hair to match. It grows fast, unfortunately (hoping when I go on hormones in a few months it'll help alleviate that), but the main problem is that even when when I shave thoroughly and my skin feels smooth, there's still that shadow on my face that gives away that facial hair was once there. I've looked around for methods of hiding it, and all I've seen so far is one article that suggested pancake makeup...w…

Hi guys. I’ve just joined here. I think I may be trans. I was born female. But I don’t feel like I am. I’ve came out to a few friends etc and started dressing more like how I feel on the inside. But then I started dressing back to the way I use to. Thing is. I’m 31 almost 32. And I don’t know I feel like I’m too old to transition. And plus I have two children and I’m terrified how it’ll affect them. Plus I know my ex will go mental if he found out. As he was very abusive towards me to begin with in our relationship so god knows how he’d react to this. My family would disown me. I’m just absolutely terrified. Anyone else on here was or is in the same position I am now? I’d…