General Transgender Discussion

I also posted this in the Intersex forum, just heard the Oprah show today is supposed to have a good discussion of the Intersexed. If interested, tune in! -Kim

My wife thinks she can sex in straight. We don't have an outragious sexlife but it has always been good. I'm 42 and she is 30. I have been with alot of women and it hasn't changed my mind one bit. As a matter of fact it only solidified my decision to transition. When I see a woman naked I want to be the same as her. When I watch them get dressed and put on make up I want to do the same. When I am making love to my wife I can't stop thinking that I should be the girl. My dreams are of me as a woman and when I wake up I am sad. I've never read or watched porn where I didn't identify with the girl. When we go clothes shopping for her I always choose clothes that I eventua…

It was the beginning of a Monday morning sometime around 12am, so the sky was still dark. Anyway, I had a throbbing tooth ache that didn't allow to rest. So I got dress and prepared to go to the hospital's emergency room, to give me pain meds. During the registration process, I wrote down on the forums using my biological since I didn't get my name changed legally just yet, and next to the name I wrote my female name that I wanted to be called by as "Rhonda". The treating nurse called me out by my biological name, which caused a lot of heads to turn around wondering why my gender expression MTF didn't match using male pronouns? I was hoping to avoid being starred, anyway …

Ok mates, I'm in full panic mode. Had my first official transgender related shrink's appt. Got nervous. Had mom sitting there eyeing me and basically negating everything I was saying. I now have to take a bunch of personality and IQ tests to make sure I'm "sane". I'm scared. What should I do?

Hi everyone, I'm guessing this has been covered before but I couldn't find a specific topic for it. I want to know how other Ts have coped (or are coping) with 'angry explosions' at other people (like friends) who don't understand and touch a raw nerve when commenting on your gender. Or perhaps I'm just really touchy about it? I'm gonna vent a bit here so apologies for waffling but just to enforce my point... I am pre-op so everyone 'knows' me as a girl (even though I've been hopelessly presenting as male for a few years). I don't intend on having surgery any time soon, simply because I can't afford it. But through the way I look and also many verbal hints along the…

:angry: I hate it. Summer is coming, and i want to wear some more skirts this year. Casual skirts. Do you ever wear skirts without hose? Like maybe use a self tanner, and not wear the pantyhose? Does that look trashy? Should it only be done with sandals? Opinions please. -Kim

Hello. I honestly don't know if this is the place to post this, but seeing as how there was a much more aggressive thread (with the religous guy) some time ago, I hope it wont be a problem. If it is, then buggers, I'm out of luck. I am a straight cis male, hailing from the notorious 4chan, the "Internet's butthole", as some of you may know it. But I don't bring trouble, I am just curious about your opinions on something. The thing that you should know about me which is also relevant here is that I adore women, all women - transgendered women included. Unfortunately, I am also plagued with numerous fetishes and an extremely high sex drive. Depending on your definitio…

Hello one and all, To many here I am old hat, simply bern away and missed, I am sure newer members have read a few of my posts, I have been away yet watching from my distant place. I would like for you all to take a look around and with open eyes see what surrounds us these days, are you seeing the troubling things I see or do you grasp onto and incorporate into your lives the troubling things that those of us strove to achieve yet see fading back into the past, I come from a generation who realised that pounding on desks and ordering others into submision was not going to work. We settled back for the long haul understanding those old nazi like tactics were working agai…

I'm making this topic again -- I had it a few months ago, so I'm posting an update. Basically, I was asking about how long it should take to pass as I'd been on hormones for a year and I was still getting sir'd. My situation has not changed. I know I need FFS and whatnot, but since that's temporarily out of reach I'm asking for general advice on my every-day appearance. Here're some fairly recent pics: Yay for Halloween!! So, yeah... Any advice is appreciated, but if all you're gonna say is that my hair needs to grow, please come up with something else. Everyone tells me that but my hair grows really slowly... I can't help that. Iunno. …

Government stupidity, (but I repeat myself). Good thing I am starting this process early. I figured government stupidity would be involved at some point, and it was, right at step 1. Today I go to get my passport application done, and they tell me that they can't take my birth certificate. Apparently they need a certified copy of the long form birth certificate (whatever the **** that is). So I guess I get to call the Baltimore City health Department on Monday to try and get this long form nonsense. Why is it that our idiotic government does such a fine oustatsnding job of harassing its own citizens? If our stupid government wants americans to have a pa…

Past came back to me and coming out 12 years ago was a journey that was tough and got easier down the road.I remember in my teens going in my mom's closet starting at the age of 13 trying on her clothes when she was gone at work.Included my step sister's clothes too.I loved wearing them know how comfortable they were to wear.It was never noticed,put everything back the way I found them.A month after my 30th birthday 12 years ago,wife introduced me to women's clothes and it was into a year when we started dating.She let me try on a few pieces of clothes of hers on and it all came back.After that I went out with her and a couple of her friends dressed as female.She saw I lo…

Hi. I have never had counseling and have been self-medication for a number of years. I know it is bad but it is what it is. I want to start counseling and also start seeing an endo because I want orchi surgery. I did not just start randomly taking meds but read and studied a lot about hormone therapy. My question is-Will it be a problem to start therapy or go to an endo because of the self medication? Will they refuse to help?

Many opponents label the passage of bills for transgender rights as a 'bathroom bill'. They stoke fear into uninformed people that allowing transgender people to use public accommodations will endanger the children and women. Well, these people shouldn't talk. How come the military is sweeping over 20,000 rape cases under the rug? How come lawmakers have a hard time protecting women from discrimination, abuse, and exploitation? Recently, a transgender woman was denied the use of a dressing room because the owner felt the customers would be uncomfortable. I saw through that ruse! SHE was the one who was uncomfortable. I'm not about changing people's perceptions be…

It strikes me that if you added up all of the "Non Normal" people in the world - EI- Us, Gay's, Non mainstream religions, people under 4.5 feet and over 7 feet, hippie types, rockers, and on and on, and lumped us all toghther under one umbrella then that would most likely put the "Normal" people in the minority, would it not? :rolleyes:

When I look back at all the decisions I've made in my 42 years on this planet I have rarely made any of them on my own behalf. Where I live,what I wear,how I act,where I work. All of these important things were always made to satisfy and fill the needs of other people. Now I have the most important decision in my life to make. The key words being my life. How much of life belongs to me and how much belongs to my wife and kids? I have had to deal with this longer than I've been married and been a dad and most of it alone. My wife has known for just over a year and a few friends too. My friends are lesbians and have been really supportive. My wife has been quiet and pass…

Hi Everyone, I started my HRT last month. I did one dose with an injection. Although my Doctor said the pellets are much more efficient and less side effects. I am considering taking his advice and use pellets instead. Does anyone has used pellets for HRT? Is there any risk of infection or contamination such HIV or Hepatitis? What should I look at? What should I do? thank you everyone! Andrea

This is a complex topic to try to introduce in a succinct manner, so bear with me here. And yeah I have a point to get to below I'm pretty extremely dissociated at the moment, which means I feel like I have an inner "me" that's looking out through the eyes of my body-bot, so to speak. I think I've got a pretty weird view of the world from inside here. Most people are probably a little bit dissociated on a regular basis, but I've been a pretty extreme case from everything I can gather. I know another friend who's a lot like me on a lot of things (we're (including him) still not sure if he's a gay guy or a transwoman in denial really) including this one. We were discuss…

My sister sent me in relation to our family life, but it seems oddly apropos on many levels for people dealing with trans issues too. I'm sure it was unintentional, but I sorta like the symbolism of the band's singer (a guy) appearing alternately in the room with the girl who decides to make a run for it.. :)

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I've been thinking of taking up weight training or getting some type of exercise machine to help me tone up and lose some weight. My only fear is that I don't want to start looking like a bodybuilder or something. I remember reading that HRT assists Female to Male transgender people in getting the male physique that they want. So well logically I was thinking that HRT would help me get the female physique that I want. Does anybody know if this is true or not? T_T

I have a burning question that desperately needs answers. When exactly, did the word "transgender" translate to "sex toy"? Apparently I didn't get the memo when it happened. I have an ad on Craigslist looking to find a gaming buddy. Just someone to hang out with once or twice a week and spend a day gaming on the old cartridge systems. I added a few things in ad that people needed to know before responding. Such as my pets, my disability, and that I'm transgender. Since there's rampant bigotry against us. I got a response from a girl who was interested. She seems pretty cool. And I've gotten at least 30 responses from men who have let me know that I can give th…

Ok, she's not a biological relative, but she's the friend I've talked about that has gone past friend and is now family. She has Lupus Nephritis, which is doing severe damage to her kidneys. In the event she needs a transplant I'm getting tested in the hopes that I'm a match so I can give her one of mine. What I'm asking from everyone here is to send good thoughts her way, and if you believe in a deity to please keep her in your prayers. All good thoughts and prayers can't hurt anything, and could possibly help. I'm not asking for anything more than that. Her name is Mary. Also to the staff, I couldn't figure out where this post belonged, so I just went w…

I have noticed an uneasy trend among the transgender community. I am not saying it is everwhere and it is with every transgender person but it is something that I have been seeing more of and that is the "over bearing of our rights and ideals" against people who do not deserve to be attacked. I am an activist and I volunteer with many humanitarian not for profits to push equality for all LGBT people. With that said, there is a right way of going about doing this and there is a wrong way. Thw wrong way is to send angry letters to everyone "you heard" have been unfair to us. Please, before sending out angry letter or emails to someone you "heard about" on the internet…

Los Angeles - "Authorities are seeking the public's help in identifying a man who shot and killed a transgender woman in Hollywood late Thursday night and who may also be responsible for the attempted armed robbery of another transgender woman in West Hollywood less than an hour later..." Read the article: Police seek help in finding transgender woman's killer

I thought this deserved its own topic, because not everyone who may be interested or have something to say would neccessarily be reading the other thread. This is basically a place holder. I had something typed up as a reply in the other thread, but the site ate it. Gave me a "406 Error". So, I started a new thread and there's more to come. Pages 4 and 5 in the other thread are the "important" ones. Just be patient. It will take a bit to reorganize my thoughts and such, but I will get back to it.