General Transgender Discussion

Bobbie Jo, happy birthday!!! I'm sure you will find that the decade of the 50's is the best of all. I have heard that all the time and I believe it to be true! Im glad because Im zooming there myself. Have a fun day!! -Love Kim

After GirlInside mantioned the Kinsey Scale I thought I'd look it up and I found something by a chap called Fritz Klein wich takes the analysis one step further and is perhaps more subtle as a result Here are the questions, with my answers Past (entire life up until a year ago) Present (last 12 months) Ideal (what would you like?) A - Sexual Attraction: To whom are you sexually attracted? - Women B - Sexual Behaviour: With whom have you actually had sex? - I don't C - Sexual Fantasies: About whom are your sexual fantasies? - Men, but ony when I first picture myself as a woman D - Emotional preference: Who do you feel more drawn to or close to emotion…

Well, as of Friday, Dec. 8 I went to the court house and applied for my name change. The name change paper did NOT have anything on it about gender change, so I had to piggy back it on there. Where it says, "what is the reason for the name change" I put: Common Useage/life changes. I put life changes due to my transition. It sounds better to put that than to put "transitioning, FTM" or "SRS surgery". The lady at the court house said that was perfect. On the line below that I put "Request for gender change" The lady told me that next week I will receive a paper in the mail and I am to take that to the local newspaper and tell them to put the ad in the paper fo…

How do you do it? I'm in my early 20's and I'm trying to figure myself out. I recently posted on the "I'm I or Ain't I" thread a list of reasons why I think I could be TG. It's a constant battle for me trying to decide. I have to say that so far you have all been very supportive and helpful And yet, no matter how much I decide to investigate or research, there's this part of me that is constantly telling me "It's not real." It's like sometimes I feel like I want to be a girl and sometimes I don't and it's really confusing. I've become very stable and successful as a guy. Some of it feels like an act and some of it doesn't and I don't know how that affects all t…

I've been thinking about this puzzle for a long time. A while back, I asked about coping strategies for baby hunger: http://tgguide.com/message/index.php?showtopic=3565 Recently, I came back with an update, about my guinea pigs: http://tgguide.com/message/index.php?showtopic=4303 I'm surprised the topic of maternal desires hasn't resonated more with the MTFs here. I seem to be the only one asking about such things, and only a few people seemed to understand. Much of what I have read anywhere is about the desire to be pregnant, give birth, and breastfeed--the physical aspects of motherhood. I have seen little about the common female desire to love and nur…

Hi all, here I am with another query. Reading many posts concerning tg people getting the hormone therapy that they desired, I read many times about the joy and peace felt after the hormones are taken. That the hormones in their blood made them feel whole again. Even a few ladies saying that it was euphoric. I am wondering if this is true for both mtf and ftm, and could it be that a non tg person would also feel something similar if they were introduced to estrogen or testosterone and were the opposite sex. If I took testosterone, for instance, might I feel energized, or powerful? And if a gm takes estrogen, would it make him mellow? Peaceful? Interesting to me. …

I don't know if this is the right place for this. If not I appologize. First of all hey I'm Jesse K. I am on the explore about the question what am I. I think I know it now but for some reasons I'm shy to admit even at this board what I am. (Though this is probably the last place where I have to be shy) Maybe it is because I figured it out today what I am. It is not really hard to take for me. To the contrary I'm happy that this question which bothered me my whole life finally got an answer. It is though uhh yeah strange because I am obviously homosexuall (if it becomes to my inside gender, to my body gender I am hetero). Yes this is confusing but I though …

Where do I begin... Until about a month ago I didn't even know what a transexual was. I grew up thinking I was crazy, everyone told me I was stupid for even suggesting that I was born the wrong gender and kept trying to "talk me out of it". But deep down I knew they were wrong. My whole life I knew I was different, and I knew exactly why. A female born with a mans body. I thought I was either unique or crazy. Boy was I off. I've been perpetually depressed my whole life. Constantly seeking a way out of existance. I can't kill myself because of that innate fear of the afterlife. I don't want to live like this, but I don't want to live forever like this either, heaven or …

like vacations in summer, this time of year is also a time for travel. i ran across this article (while looking for something else...isn't the way it always goes... ) that might be of interest to anyone when ever they plan a trip that involves flying. The TSA Hates Your Vibrator NOTE: some language in this article may not be suitable for younger readers

I'm back on track with my trans life after five years of dening who I am. I want to get back on HRT but need to see my doctor about it who said after my heart attack it was not wise to pursue. I was wondering if the use of the off the self estrogen will this low dosage help in anyway till I can see the doctor. Also with normal therapy will this decrease my sex drive to nil.?

I know I've been posting a lot of threads lately... sorry I just love to talk. I've spent a lot of time lately just meditating on, and seeing beauty everywhere in the world. I know how cheesy that sounds, but doing things like life drawings tends to do that to you. There's something intimate about putting down a person's lines and shadows on paper and unless you hate your work, it's impossible to not find beauty in your subject. It spills over into the rest of life. I grew up seeing images of TSes of the Jerry Springer variety, like some of the other threads I've seen posted on here -- badly botched implant jobs, real drag queen looking types, don't really seem to …

I'm going to get a new doctor soon (because I'm 18 now) and I plan on asking him to refer me to a therapist.I was wondering if anyone could give me at time line of what to expect, like how long before i start hormones and when i do start them what to expect in the first year.I was also wondering if since my mom is a 40D cup size(the women in my family are well endowed) and I'm less then a decade past puberty will i have decent sized breast? Oh, and i plan on dressing as a boy for as long as possible exactly when does it become noticeable?

I hesitantly post this, but it seems needful to me, to never forget that cruelty thrives in people i can only see as incredibly damaged and misinformed. Please, always be careful out there. A minority movement can grow, and a minority member can strike.

Hi all, I'm a pretty avid tennis player, though sidelined since June from a shoulder injury - has anyone ever played tennis, or other sports, with a wig on? Just wondering how to keep it on with all that movement I tried to Google this, did find out that Andre Agassi once wore one at the French open.

While Mike's away and unable to send me to the corner, I figured it'd a good time to get a good speech in. I really don't like the word "transition" and I'm not sure I like what it implies either. Before anyone starts throwing eggs/tomatoes/your food substance of choice... This all goes back to Kate Bornstein's Gender Outlaw book for me. It made me realize that I was still laboring under this strange social system called "gender". "Gender" is nearly as strange as one of the old feudal caste systems. In those systems, one was either born noble or not; nobility were one thing, and commoners were another, and that was that. It's strange to us now, but it was as simpl…

Hi all, I am just curious, how did people come out to their parents. I am really worried about it because I am not sure how they will react. my dad especially comes from a very Conservative background.

There have been many posts about coming out and the effect it haves on the ones around us. Our relationships with friend’s family and loved ones ... I myself have posted about it and have discussed things in response to the posts of others on here. I have sorted through problems and have been understanding and patient with the people in my life. I have answered all questions when asked (accept when they’ve been inappropriate), I’ve put my feelings second and have been patient with all and have not closed any doors (I have watched a few close though). I have grieved the loss of a few close friends and my tears have soaked my pillow and I have felt many dry on my cheeks as …

I went to two Goodwills over the last couple of days, and wow! $5-6 pants and all kinds of other wacky stuff. They're not super mainstream nice places so no one looks funny at you if you dig through the "wrong" section, and it's cheap enough that you can grab some random stuff to try. I got some nice soft $3 pajamas (which, oddly enough, the "new" stores have not been able to supply for me!) and discovered I fit into size 14 jeans well enough that I probably could (and probably will) wear them in guy mode with no comments. That was a pleasant surprise. I finally reorganized my closet the other day, which was much-needed... pulled out a bunch of old and oversized cloth…

Within what I'm going to write I will name no names. I'm really bad at names anyway so the chance I would remember the names correctly are slim to none, lol. This however is a serious subject I hope people will read. A dear friend of mine told me this evening that a person in the complex in which I live said she would never let her children near me because I'm transgender. This without my knowledge at the time but she wasn't going to allow her children to come to my haunted house. Again I don't know who this person is, it turned out she came with her children to my haunted house. Now two things are teaching moments here. One, parents understand I totally respect your want…

Hello everyone here. I just had a question I had to get off my chest. Has anybody here ever woke up in the morning with anxiety or even high levels of anxiety? I had that happen to me over the weekend. They were gender related. Its like when I wake up every morning I am having a battle within myself. I have periods of denial and frustration. A piece of me denies being trans and fights to be male for the sake of being normal. But the real me always battles that side to myself. Its a real crappy way to start the morning. I just want to know has anybody have or use to go through this? If so how did you manage? Thank you for your input everyone. Love you all.

Been thinking about my past relationships as a man. Mostly sex... sorry if this is TMI. I find that it's not that interesting for me and just animalistic with all the thrusting etc. I've always thought the female side would be so much more enjoyable/relaxing while I'm just grossed out by it which then gets into my head and performance drops and nobody ends up having an enjoyable time (mostly for me after for a while). I'd always hoped therapy would help but can't seem to shake it as it's been a constant in my head since childhood that I'd like to be a woman. Is there any hope for those perhaps stuck in the wrong body/sex? I'm afraid of being now to old to transitio…

OK, maybe I'm making a mountain out of a molehill. Maybe not. I'm a bit puzzled about something I'd like to do. Will gladly listen to anyone's thoughts on the matter. I'm still thinking of dressing for Halloween, and it's occured to me that my makeup skills are nill. I was thinking of recruiting the woman next door to help me out once or twice to get some practice. I think she would be OK with helping as long as it's for Halloween. What has me concerned is for me dressing for Halloween might be a bit pseudo-sexual. I'd like her help, but because of this last factor I'm afraid I probably should not ask her to help since for me it might be a bit more than dress-up. I know I…

Hope you're having a great b-day!!! ~Shannon

These questions are about motivation and what sort of trade-offs you'd be willing to make. (Yes, they are very hypothetical.) FOR THE LADIES: If you remained your birth sex publicly and could experience pregnancy, would that satisfy you enough to not transition? What if by transitioning, you would lose the ability to get pregnant? FOR THE MEN: Is there any circumstance that could persuade you to bear a child post-transition? (example-- your wife was unable to) Would you be willing to go through a pregnancy if you could be an anatomically-correct male? Annie

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