Male to Female (MtF) Transsexual Discussion

I didn't know if this would fit here or not, but I have a serious question to ask everyone. Recently as everyone is aware in my recent blog, I got rid of a room mate who was like me, transgirl. Well they more in less not only disrespected my dad, but disrespected me. My feelings is and I am not sure if anyone feels the way I do, but refuse to call this former room mate by their chosen female pronoun because of the disrespect they shown to me and my dad. Do you think I am wrong for doing this or do any of you think that it is my choice, given the factor that I got disrespected the way I did. Also to add to this. My friends are this person's friend, therefore one of t…

Hey everyone its your main girl tiff, sorry i haven't been on for a while but i've been going through a lot with family and friends and well you know how everything goes. But thats not the point for me posting this. So I've been on hormones for about 6 weeks and I have never felt better. Im much more calm now and I feel very much at ease with myself. My skin is softer and I've noticed that I've started to grow breasts. Slowly i've noticed that the fat around my midsection has gone down a little and has redistributed to my hips and booty. The real reason for me posting though is because lately I've been gettiing headaches much more than usual, they aren't bad just li…

Hi Jo Jo, wanted to tell you that I enjoy your posts, they are very honest and forthright. After reading in the topic "Pollaxed" that you were forced back into the closet, I am wondering, how is that possible for you. Did you come out to your wife, live it for a while, and then were forced back in the closet in order to keep your family intact? That sounds awful, during this time that you have been hiding, were you able to express your female side at all? Does your wife really think it is that easy to switch back into her husband, that the other side of you is forgotten? During the time you have gone back undercover, has your marriage thrived for it? Sorry for all t…

I hope this doesnt sound like too stupid a question, but since I have been hanging out here, and getting to know and admire you ladies, I have been talking to some folks I know at work, and so forth, about their opinions of the TG folks. I do this because now that I have hung around here, I am interested in learning more and I was curious how people I know feel about TG people. If anyone sounds negative I find myself taking immediate issue with them, and realize that they are speaking out of ignorance so I pipe up and become an advocate of sorts, but I don't know how to respond to their theory that TG's are "gay men who wear girls clothes". I know this is not the case.…

Hi, I have some questions about HRT. I was wondering what effects are typical during the first month. I've been on Spirotonin and Estrofem for about a week now. I have read online that you can feel mental changes within the first few days. It's been a week and honestly I feel 0 effects. [Could] my dosage [be] too low. Just curious what's normal the first month. Transtioning takes years so I'm being patient, but just curious.

This is a question for real transexauls. I have had thoughts of being female since the age of six when I stared looking in clothing catalogs. And I would say that I have never identified as a typical male. As I have gotten older I have had somewhat constant feelings of femininity. I have done crossdressing but at times I doesnt seem to be enough. If I had a choice I would choose to be a female. But because of family and religion mixed with fear. I don't know what to do. I have taken some natural hormone stuff to develope breast but stopped, since I feared being caught. I feel stronger than ever the urge to be female. Oh yeah i dont want to be a draq queen.My question is…

Hello I am a married man and I have a few questions maybe some of you will be able to help me with. I have been married 25 years and I have just told my wife that I am not sure what I am as cross dresser or a Transgender. I have felt all of my life that I feel like a woman but I was born a male. I dress in womens clothes maybe about every 2 years on and off but not all the time. I will dress a few times be satisfied then wait maybe 1 1/2 to 2 years and dress in womens clothes again just enough to be satisfied but not completely because I know in my mind I feel and look very feminine my hands are small my face is babyish I don't have a lot of facial hair. My mind thinks fe…

I have some questions about hormones for anyone who is willing to answer. I am a pre hrt mtf, my questions are does anyone know the best way to start hrt if you have very little money and possibly how I might go about doing it?

I been on HRT for 57 days now started with Spiro an 28 days later started the estrogen injections, I started out with one Injection every week for 2 weeks an now I take a injection every two weeks for a month now my nipples an areolas are getting puffy and when I bump into something it hurts, I have a IS condition an I had small breasts since puberty an last year they have gotten a little larger my left breast is a small B-Cup an my Right is a little smaller, I hope the right breast will catch up with the left. My blood work the T is at normal female levels an the E is normal also. The only changes I have noticed that my areolas are getting a little larger in diameter an …

Sooo I recently had surgery just about 3 weeks ago (surgery date was october 4th, 2010) So, being that I was around parentals during the post op questions of dos and donts before going home, I didnt want to ask my doc about certain things like drinking and smoking. He gave me the basic run down of dilation, the restrictions of no sex for 6-8 weeks, and yada yada yada. However, Im having a hard time getting ahold of him and my friends wanted to throw me a party. Problem is, I smoke pot on occasion and drink rarely. Chances are, for this party, Im gonna want to smoke and drink, but I can't, for the life of me, find ANY direct answers on when a person is ok'd to smo…

Dear all, I'm started with Herbals to change my hormonal system. It works but slowly and steady, slower hair grow, breast grow and more feelings towards my changes to Female. Less sex drive. But my body shape is ad this moment not changed. Also my mood and depressions went a way. I'm reading a lot on taking the hormonal treatments. And like to start on it as soon as possible. I like to have some live information from those having had the hormonal treatments. Did it changed the emotions, feelings, mood swings, body and did you like this changes? Love Hanske.

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As a kid, my dad wasn't around much. He and my mom got along like cats and dogs. I was basically raised by my two older sisters and my mom. No big surprise, I had developed a genuine fem. personality. I didn't know any different. I didn't understand why people made the comments they made. "And what's your name little girl?" "Tomboy". As I got older the comments became more colourful. I just shrugged most of it off. Then one day it hit me when one of my sisters was visiting. I was just being myself. suddenly she blurted out "Oh quit acting like a girl". I wasn't acting. I felt very awkward in front of everyone. I learned who and what I am. It took along time, but, I fi…

NOTE: In order to complete this poll and have your choices register, you must answer all three questions. There are quite a few difficult decisions to be made in life, and being transsexual can really complicate our choices. Being a parent, for example, can be life-altering for anybody, but for us, whether or not to have children is one of the hardest choices of all. The Raising children and being transsexual poll is divided into three distinct sections: The first part is specifically for those who have already had children, while section two is for anyone contemplating becoming a parent some day. or who has no kids. The final area, "Consequences," is a mixed ba…

i hope someone will lend an ear to this... i identify to myself as transgender... and this is why; since i was a child i never felt right in my body... when i was 3 or 4 my moms favorite story was when she asked me how her little boy was, i told her i wasn't her little boy... she never probed any farther... in school i would rather read a book, play hopscoth, or be with the girls, not playing football, or other things with the guys.. when i was 10 or 12 i started wearing my moms undergarments... panties, nylons, etc... i felt like i was supposed to, it was comfortable to me. then i went into the army at age 18 "had to be a man" i kept myself busy, got married and ra…

My therapist is in the processing of preparing my recommendation letter for hormone therapy. She asked me how long I was full time. There was suddenly silence on the end of the line. I thought hormones were supposed to help me pass so that I could do the real life test? If I do real life on the jobs and with my current customers I have had for years and I were to fail the test, than I have told people that never would have had to know. I have extreme difficulty wearing thick make-up and my fast growing beard. I need the hormones to help slow future growth for the follicles that get missed in electrolysis. Do hormones make electrolysis more difficult to …

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I am getting a little concerned, I think it is a valid concern; my psychologist doesn’t seem to be worried about it. So here it is; is it normal to become forgetful after you’ve gone onto hormones? I have been on hormones since January and am doing fine otherwise, but I find that I am becoming forgetful, how to say it, well I am a blond and.....well the comparison is becoming reality. I am worried about it however because I simply forgot a whole week (in reference to my analyst's appointment), Needless to say she was very surprised when I showed up thinking I was on time and she knew I was a week late. Any help here would be much appreciated, am I worrying about nothing…

I was sitting at work eating lunch at my desk when a call came through with no caller ID. I said hello (if I know the caller i say Hi this is Karen or Hi this is Kevin), the woman on the other end said 'is this Karen', got up and walk to an area I could talk. It was Robin from Doctor Bower's office confirming my surgeries and told me to expect a packet shortly to being their process with me. The only question I had was to find out which day I needed to be there as they want you there one or two days ahead of time. My hope was one day as hotel rooms cost $170 per night and was hoping for Monday (surgery is Tuesday) rather than Friday as I did not want to spend Thursday …

I am starting this forum because I am now at the point where I have realized some very strange things. This is a mixture of observation, theory and opinion, I welcome your input... I get along great with women because that is who I identify with But women have always seen the my outward male shell. They thought it was great getting to know me because we always got along so well together. If I change my outward shell to match what is inside then the women from before have lost the man on the outside who they thought was a man. They may very easily feel betrayed and even weird because they were sexually attracted to me before and now they wonder if that makes…

Results are looking good,had my breast augmentation and FFS done last week Monday.Recovering very well,breast augmentation was done through the armpits now a 34D.At first,I was sore from the breast augmentation part.I have looked in the mirror and see myself much happier,face is feminine.My wife has been a great help during my recovery and making sure I don't mess up during the recovery process.Mom has been there to help too and seeing a much happier daughter coming out more everyday.My co workers,they have been over to visit and it was OMG from them seeing the results so far.They are going to see me much happier.Plus an appointment with a make up artist later after I ful…

Hi Ladies, I hope everyone is enjoying their weekend.... So I have a question for you.... I will be beginning hormones on Sept. 4...I am 23 years old. I have used Retin-A off and on for the past two years to treat acne and to help keep my skin youthful...It is an amazing product and does wonders for your skin but it can be harsh at times...I have been "off" for 6 months now and wanting to begin back. SO my question to you is: should I begin hormones and give the hormones X number of months to help soften my skin and smooth it out some and THEN begin Retin-A or should I begin back to Retin-A NOW, while the hormones begin taking affect? Which do you believe will…

Hi, I'd be really interested in hearing experiences of people revealing their transsexual status to unsuspecting partners. Has anyone come clean about this with a love interest who only knows you as your "new" gender? How did he/she take it? I actually have never done this, and I've dated several guys. I have not dated anyone for three years though, because I made a deal with myself that the next guy that I met who I felt something for (and who seemed to feel something for me) I would just be honest with him and tell him the truth. There is someone who I'm considering telling...but I'd love to hear anyone else's experiences with this type of thing. Thanks so much…

Ok I've been seriously losing weight over the last 2 months, and I've dropped off about 15 pounds or so. I'm startin to see some flaws in my figure that I worry will be hard to mask when I try to pass as a girl. Around my waist measures 30 inches. Around my chest, (I have no breasts whatsoever yet, so this is just my ribs), is 37 inches. My ribs are kinda visible now too, so there isn't anything left to lose up there. Anyway from the waist down I think I could look pretty good. I've tried on some friends pants and it did look very convincing. I'm sure hormones will only help that. However I just worry that my large shoulders and chest will give everything away…

Just a question about the time required to test ones desire for SRS. Why is it needed to go thru the whole year, since in many cases, that person already spent years od practicing in closet? Some people are sure and there should be a way to skip the one year requred. Experienced consultant could determine, if the desire is genuine. Also, the HRT before causes shrinkage of the needed skin for vagina. Can stretching preserve the lenght? Didi anyone have surgery before HRT? <_<