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I agree what would be crappy. Does your identity cards indicate female?

If I was to define myself, then I, too, would be a trans-lesbian, having a close friendship that has become important and central to me at this time in my life. And I am happy for every one.

You look lovely the way you are!

Dear friends, It's not the first time this has happened, my bank made an even bigger cock-up,a s I blogged earlier. We don't have ID cards as such in the UK, but my driving licence, passport, and lots of other docs are Eve Ann and Female. This is just another obstacle to overcome..........The NHS is so slooooow, I'm stilll waiting for my new NHS card, although my GP (General Practitioner Dr), says my records are now Eve Ann and Female. But I'm not counting my chickens before they're hatched........... Thanks for your comments. Hugs, Eve

Dear Eve, Is there any chance you can get a cisgender woman to go to medical appointments with you? That was what I did with my beloved, and things went so much better for her! Yours truly, Monica

Oh Eve, I'm so sorry. I wasn't sure if I should click the "Like This" button because of course I do not like what you experienced, but I selected it to show my support of you. You stood up for yourself, good for you. What else can you do, I wonder. Perhaps that's a question to ask those people if it happens again, "What would you do if you were in my shoes?" Good luck, Emma

Quick note on shoes, I had a few pairs were one was too tight on one foot and used KIWI shoe stretch spray which works great.

Funny in regards to a constant weight as I was steady at between 150 and 155. In 1990 I dropped to 120LB which was great but around 1998 I developed a thyroid condition and the doctor said that the former drop in weight had something to do with the thyroid. I started gaining roughly five pounds a month and topped out at 180LB but without any belly, things were proportional. Of course the down side was moving up in size. So for the past 15 years I have been at 180LB were I never weigh myself but rely on getting weighed for my annual physical. Since GRS I have toyed with the idea of losing weight, maybe 10 or 20 pounds but is not a real concern now. Hormones have not increased my weight to for the time being all is good. BTW You look great in the first photo :-)

Dear Mikah, Women come in all shapes and sizes. One shape/size is not necessarily more feminine than the other. Am concerned that your romantic partners and friends feel so free to share their opinions about this when they should be giving you their support! Please don't give your power away! Yours truly, Monica

I agree with Karen, you look terrific. If you really want to gain weight, eat carbs, like bread, pasta, rice... All that stuff will "help" but long term it's really sugar, which may create havoc with your insulin and blood sugar. I think you're better off letting nature take its course. If you're thin, you're thin! Many would be totally envious... :-) I'm 5' 8 1/2" and am now stable and happy at 155 lbs. it's not easy but with practice it's not that hard either. We eat meat/fish/poultry with salads and veggies. Popcorn and wine for dessert. :-) in moderation of course. The most important thing is to stay healthy and exercise. Health is one of those things too easy to take for granted until it's a problem. You do look great. Enjoy it! You deserve it. Emma

Hey Karen, great advice, many thanks! I'll be sure to pick some up. Emma

Hi Eve, I know it does sound like a lot of therapists. For me there is really only one, that I see 1:1 and also for couple's meetings with my wife. The support group I attend is led by a gender therapist that I've seen 1:1 once and will probably do so again but there is no plan for it right now. I have had a lot of depression in my life and seen a lot of therapists, read a lot of books, done a lot of soul-searching, as well as various intoxicants mostly when I was younger. At the root I think is coming to terms with my transgender. I kind of needed to figure out where it came from and what it means. And overarching shame has made it difficult to dive into details with anyone, therapist or not. No, therapists here in the US do not (or at least should not) tell us how to feel or do anything. They are mostly a sounding board, a trusted mentor, and while we become friends of sorts they need to maintain a distance that allows them to be objective. When I first started to see therapists (about 30 years ago) they pretty much just listened, which sucked, because I needed someone to help draw out stuff and provide thoughts. Over the last decade (I think) this protocol has changed to where they are okay with providing commentary, which I greatly need and appreciate. Last, yes, there is a Trans place I can go about 40 minutes from my home. It's okay but I'm deciding how comfortable I feel there. I've been there a few times and I have mixed feelings. The proprietor is wonderful but some of the others? Well... Same age, huh? We could be sisters! :-) Emma

Dear All, I'm a trans - lesbian too! quite strange after being a hetro-sexual male! Other than birth reporoductive organs, I feel that pretty much all else is on a spectrum with absolute hetero-sexual male and female at either end of the spectrum, I actually doubt that many people that believe that they fit this description actually are............if only they realised it, it might be easier for us all. Reading the above comments I sincerely hope you all find what you want so much. Hugs, pecks on the cheeks, & keep positive, Eve

Yeah can definately relate to that, been there done that bought the tee shirt, read the book! It was a real pain in the ass for me, petty bureaucracies...................... still waiting for my NHS card! Hugs, Eve

Hi Emma, not sure about the amount of therapists that you are using, really not very mainstream in the UK, sort of feels like someone else telling you how you feel? I have become aware that it is common in the US though.......having said that we do have to do the psychs as part of our treatment though. Do you have a local Trans meeting place to go to? By the way we are the same age! Hugs Eve

Hi Monica, Actually I'm not complaining about my feet at all! I feel lucky that they are roughly 11M as this was the largest size listed for my shoes. Hugs, Emma

Dear Emma, Almost everyone's feet are NOT the identical size. Usually one foot is a half size larger/smaller than the other. As a cisgender (born female) woman, I have a size 11 on one foot and 11 1/2 on the other foot. Also, my hands are rather large, but not ugly. Size in itself does not determine how beautiful/ugly a body part is. Most women report some dissatisfaction with one or more of their body parts. The secret is not to dwell on it but look at the big picture! Yours truly, Monica

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Keep On Truckin! :)

Haha! Good for you Karen, all engines forward toward a wonderful now and future. You've earned it. Emma

Hi Rae, Like you, I'm fairly certain I'd be a lesbian, and proud of it. You're a lucky gal to have found a kindred spirit to join up with! I also share your wondering about when or if my thinking will change from "I wish I was female" to "I am, and then need to decide if or when I will transition my body to match my gender. Recently I am wondering if the gender in our brain is as binary as our sex (at least for most of us). I guess it isn't because otherwise transgender wouldn't be defined as much as an "umbrella of diversity" to a bar-chart distribution of gender/sex/sex-preference. Hope you are having a wonderful Saturday evening, Emma

I see myself slightly shorter in height in the past but then not so much. I did some image blending to see myself and think the image below matched my image of myself when done about 7 years ago