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Several months ago I mentioned being invited for a girl’s night out at work but never materialized until last night. We planned on five of us meeting at a nice upscale local bar inside of a prestigious hotel at 5PM while myself and one other of the woman started early at 3:30PM. The two of us chatted about of all things manicures and pedicures for about thirty minutes until another of the ladies arrived at around 4PM followed by a third not soon afterwards while the last one arrived at 5PM. While four of us where there one said think of this as Vegas, what happens and is said here stays here. So that lead into various chats about other people at work which where both positive and negative. After several drinks were consumed things got way crazy and fun. I told them a story about one of my co-workers whom I have been working with for 18 years who still calls me Kevin purely by accident now and then. He did this over the past two days and with two new people in our group so it came to a head and I said to the new employees, guess you figured out what’s going on. They looked up and said no. I said prior to January of this year I was male. Got the typical response, I had no idea. When finished telling the story to the ladies they said if they were in the new employees shoes they would not had guessed I was male before. Next thing I see, it’s almost 8PM so myself and two others leave while the last two are waiting for rides from their husbands. I love the next part, I am wearing all black, top and skirt and while walking out of the bar I am getting men turning to look at me and just before exiting the bar one man gives me a nice big smile. Walking out I realized that one does not simply get looks at that moment but would guess they had been looking at me while sitting down with my friends. That was indeed a good feeling to be noticed this way. So I will chalk this up to a great evening.

Karen, Despite the reassurance of "this is like Las Vegas, what is said here, stays here," please be careful, as I have painfully learned, when someone is willing to gossip about someone else, it is only a matter of time before they gossip about you. When you maintain high standards, you will find some women will fall away. Take that graciously, as the others who have high standards like you, will often be lifelong friends. There will be times of loneliness and isolation due to your high standards, but it will be worth it. Alcohol will loosen lips and women will say things that they regret. May I suggest to keep it to two drinks and to sip slowly. Also, what you hear goes in one ear and out the other. If outsiders ask about what was said in your gathering, play deaf, dumb and blind, saying whatever they are asking about was not discussed. This also goes for office parties! Monica