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Most females in the UK seem to wear trousers or jeans or leggings, only occassionaly wearing skrts or dresses. Most "t" girls that I know wish that they had more butt!, including me. I have so far found the transition journy to spring amazing unexpected surprises on me and I'm loving it, when I look back it amazes me how much I have missed as male. So I really hope that your journey is as fantastic as mine has been so far. Take care, take it slowly and keep your family relationships intact. Cheers, Eve

Dear Karen and Eve, Please be aware it will take YEARS for name changes to be straightened out. Just this week, received TWO important pieces of mail for the man who lived in my apartment, and he had DIED two years ago! Yours truly, Monica

So, my mother doesnt call me, and that is completely fine with me! I do not have contact with my older sister either. And when my younger sibling (Changed their name to Kai apparently which is fine with me. Theyre pretty sure theyre FTM as well but I'm respectful at the fact that they've decided not to make perminate choices on the matter until they are POSITIVE theyre transgender. I GREATLY respect them for that!!) has asked me if they can come down to hang out again at some point. I told them that I have no problem with that, but when I come to pick them up, I'll meet them at the end of the driveway. I want nothing to do with my mother. And I've decided that if my mother refuses to call me Warren OR Ren, I'll no longer call her Mom. I'll call her Alene, either she likes it or not. So today, there was a post on a friend's page about Trump. I was not aware she was friends with my older sister....until this happened. Me, feeling bad it was on my friends' post, Messaged her apologizing for what was said on her post. To my relief, she responded with "Its OK Amanda is the 1 to b apologizing. Well don't sweat it I'm home n can get to my computer she's about to get hers." Which was kinda nice I think. Warren UPDATE: She removed the Post, then Posted this:

I started a list a few weeks ago so that i'll be ready when my name change is final - i add things to it almost daily. I don't even want to think about how long it will take to actually do the changes (I am prioritizing the list of course, and can't wait to start!)

Absolutely! I got a letter from Cancer Research UK (Charity that I give to monthly) to my old male identity, others are from DIY / trade suppliers who are the worst for it. I'm lucky so far I haven't received any incorrectly addressed mail from Goverrnment depts, ughhh don't want them in any address format!. But the reverse is true with the NHS, they've started sending me appointments for smear tests and breast screening....................you just can't win ! Cheers, Eve

Hiya Roxanne. My Journey only started, on 30th. April, 2015. As Eve said, She missed out on so much, in Her earlier part of Her Life. I feel exactly the same way, but, I am trying to make up for that now. Roxanne, since I Came-Out, as Transsexual, I have been so much more contented, and so much happier. My Life is so much Nicer now. ( I get to wear such Pretty, and Comfortable Female Undies; Clothes; and Footwear, Fully, Full-Time. They are Gorgeous to wear ) ! I Would be happy to have GRS. Right Now. Roxanne, We should enjoy Our Journey's Now. I Count Myself very Lucky, that I Came-Out, when I Did. We are very Lucky, to have this Wonderful Site - TGGuide, and ALL the Wonderful People Here ! Roxanne, Take Care Love, Very Best Wishes, Stephanie. xoxo

Just when you believe you are done with all things related name change and gender changes. I am still getting mail that has my former name and the senders are from state government and have changed my name and gender at the federal and state level. As a Microsoft MVP comes with it a handler who is someone that can assist you in ways that the average person does not have access too and is completely free. I told my handler in January of my transition, no problems there but kept sending special email messages to my old identity email account. Just got a new handler this month and they without asking transferred my address to my current female email account. So it's been seven months, one more down, still many to go if you can believe that it does take time to change all parts of one's identity. So when you are travelling down this road note that it does take time for some entities to caught up.

When I started the following was used taken from a place called the Q-Center, on this page. Sequence Obtain a Name ChangeChange the name with the Social Security AdministrationChange the name and gender identifier with the DMVChange one’s passport name and gender identifierObtain a Court Ordered Gender Change in OregonChange the Name and gender identifier on the Oregon birth certificate if you were born in Oregon​I did 1 and 5 when doing 1 because my therapist wrote a letter for doing the gender change which is not actually required with number 1 but is required with number 3. Number 2 was started but had to wait for my new driver licence to complete. The Social Security office was very pleasant and also unlike others there for other services got me through quickly. Did not do 6 as I was not born in Oregon and plan on doing this down the road as I have a copy of my original birth certificate. After obtaining my driver licence I did my credit cards, insurance and utilities. Interesting enough I pay my rent each month since with my new name and never been questioned by the rental company. My work credentials started one month prior to surgery and finished three weeks after surgery as I needed my new social security card which was approved prior to surgery but came while in California for surgery.

A huge thanks to all for your encouraging and kind words. This journey is only starting for me and I consider myself very lucky to have found all of you! 😀 Roxanne

Hiya Warren and Monica. There is a quote here. "HappilyYou Can Choose Your Friends, But, Sadly, You Cannot Choose Your Family ! Your Friends, They Are The Family, Who You Choose For Yourself ! " My Family, was blown apart, over 17 1/2 Year's Ago, By My Parent's ! I have No Brother's, and Only One Younger Sister ! She Lives Several Hundred Miles Away. She Only corresponds by Post, on Birthday's, and Christmas. I have an Uncle and Aunt, We correspond with by Post, on Birthday's, and Christmas, and A Cousin, and His Family, again corresponding by Post, on Birthday's, and Christmas ! I Was on Facebook, Until the Beginning of this Year, and One Facebook Friend, I Do have contact with, on Messenger ! My Facebook account, is just sitting doing Nothing, in My Old Identity ! Warren, and Monica, You are Both Lovely People. You Are Being True To Yourselves. That Is what matter's ! Warren, Please Young Man, leave the Social Media alone. It Is More Trouble, than It Is Worth ! If Alene Cannot Accept You, for Being You - Warren, then cut ties altogether, is My Advice. Monica, Is A Very Popular Lady here at TGGuide, and Warren, You are a Very Popular Young Man here at TGGuide. You arer Both among proper "Friend's" here. Take Care, and Very Best Wishes, Stephanie. xoxo

Dear Warren, There comes a time to put a person "on ice," which means no contact, usually for a year or two, until things calm down. The above describes a "flame war," which you want not to be involved in, at all costs. If a friend wants to be friends with a person that you have put "on ice," then you need to calmly tell them that you can not be friends with them because you do not want them to talk about the person or discuss you, with the person you have put "on ice." If they refuse to understand or at least make an agreement not to talk about you with the person you have put "on ice," then you should politely explain to them you want no contact. Have put my brothers "on ice" for TEN YEARS, and it worked out in the end. For most people, it works when it is one or two years, but for some thick heads, it is ten years, and for some, forever. About friends who refuse to agree not to talk about you with those you have put "on ice," (and now with social media, this is even harder!), you need to have the courage to put them on ice for the same length of time as the original person you put on ice. Have had to do this a few times myself, with a few people forever. Warren, the reality is, not everyone loves or likes you. Also, you do not love or like everyone. Just because you were born in the same family as another person, does not mean you will love or like someone. Have been invited to a family reunion again this year, and I am trying to get out of it, because many of them hate me, and I can't stand most of them. If I DO go, I will walk around the park looking for T/LGB people to spend the time with, or Spanish speaking families to hang with. (A relative married an African-American woman, and she and her children are treated the same way as I am. What upsets me about this the most is that the children did not ask to be there, and she should not have forced them!) Please accept that YOU CAN NOT FORCE SOMEONE TO LIKE OR LOVE YOU! Strongly suggest you quit social media of ALL KINDS because it is NOT MODERATED, and stick with support groups such as TGGuide, that is TIGHTLY MODERATED. Find people you like and love, and put your energy into them! Your FRIEND, Monica

LADIES AND GENTS PLEASE TAKE THE TIME TO CHECK THIS OUT!!! http://www.ustranssurvey.org/ Bring some awareness to our existence!

i havent been in contact with my mom or my older sister for months. they only call me when they want something or to torment me, and usually I dont answer the phone. The only reason this all occured was because we have...had?.....a mutual friend, Lisa. So Manda saw what I posted on Lisa's page and went...well....Manda, on me. Otherwise I have no contact with my bio-family aside from my younger sibling. The only one who respects me and calls me by my legal name. I have a family, and it's not by blood. I've claimed my family due to those around me who actually care about me and respect who I am. Manda had lashed out ambitiously to that post which I'll show you in a minute, but I was very overwhelmed with love and support from other people who bitched her out for it promptly. We CAN chose our family. And she's not in mine.

Last Wednesday was a good day. In the province of Quebec, even though medical services are covered by our provincial insurance, it is practically impossible to get a family doctor to follow us for any issue, problem or in my case, transition. I have to thank my psychologist... about three months ago when she wrote my letter recommending HRT and eventual GRS, she sent a copy of these to a doctor whom she knew specialized in treating LGBT folks. Well it didn't even take two days and to my surprise, the doctor's receptionist called me and scheduled an appointment for the August 12th and informed me the doctor would be taking me on as a new patient...I was floating with happiness!! So I went to my appointment last week and he proceeded to give me a full physical then proceeded to go over the letter from my psychologist with me. He immediately followed up by sending me for blood work and renewed prescriptions I was previously taking, then again immediately sent a fax to an Endocrinologist in Montreal for HRT recommending he start me on it asap. Two hours later I received a call from Montreal letting me know my appointment is set up for October 21st. It's a little while away but ok since I'm learning we cannot be in a rush during this amazing journey called transition. I have to say just knowing I'm finally going to start HRT has helped tremendously with my anxiety. I'm not shy to dress in public, mind you only casually as I haven't dared to publicly wear skirts or dresses yet but will go out wearing makeup and feminine tops. So before going to the movies with my step daughter Isabelle last Saturday, we stopped at Winners and I ended up trying on 32 different feminine articles of clothing and ended up buying some tops, a nice black dress, maxi skirt, leggings, joggers, sleepwear and a few other things... So now I'm wearing only female clothing when not working while at home and will start going out en femme more and more. I'm shy about wearing the skirts and dresses before HRT effects kick in but will eventually work up the courage to do it... I just wish I had more butt and boobs lol. Thanks for reading! Roxanne xoxo

Thank you so much Steph... I AM enjoying this journey and actually going to meet friends from my monthly group for dinner this evening. Nails done, nice top and jeans...should be fun! Roxanne

Thanks Karen, that's so thoughtful of you, I'm sure others will also appreciate this, & not just from the UK either....

I just posted an entry on my Wordpress blog and gave note that the survey was for US residence and that non residence should contact the site asking for inclusion. Also sent a link to my therapist so she has the option to provide it to her clients.

Well if they do I'll post the link on my FB and Twitter accounts.......

Hopefully those who receive your email messages will have them consider those outside the USA.

Hiya Eve, I have E-Mailed the US Trans-Survey. So Thank You Eve. Take Care. Best Wishes, Stephie. xoxo

Hiya Eve. Thank You Very Much. I Will Look at Karen's Link Right Now. Again Eve, Thank You. Take Care, Best Wishes, Stephanie. xoxo

Steph, follow the link that Karen provided in her entry, and then click on Contact us - top right of the screen. A multi-tier request from all trans people world-wide would be even better............perhaps we should request Google to look at it..................

Hiya Eve. Please would You give Me Their E-Mail address, and I will Contact them as well. A Two-Tier attack from the UK, can not do any harm ! Thank You Eve, Speak Soon Young Lady. Take Care, Best Wishes, Stephanie. xoxo

I have e-mailed US Trans equality, and suggested that they spread their wings a little further, I can only suggest that if others also share this point of view that they do the same.

Hiya Eve. I agree. If it had options Internationally, I think there could be more help gained, for those of Us, Who are in The Transsexual/Trannsgender Etc. Society.

So I wanted to dye my hair and so something I've never done. I was curious what colors to do and etc, then I saw a message from a good friend you know who you are! But you said something that caught my attention. "Stay Frosty". I love jack frost!!!!!!!!! Even the old legends So blue it is!!! This required some bleaching which I've never done. But, here's how it went! Opinions welcome lol before: after bleach: after: Not sure how I feel about it yet lol If I'm still not 100% thrilled with it, I had planned ahead and bought my usual black dye to fix it at a later time. I think next time I'll just stick to my black hairdye, much less hassle and OMG THE STAINS IN MY BATHTUB!!! Took another 2 hrs of scrubbing to get internet privileges back..... Your bud, Warren

Such a shame it's only US, with no international options...............

Hiya Roxanne, Thank You for following Me, Love. I have just added some more on My Profile Page, on interests, about Music, if You are interested. Speak Soon Roxanne. Take Care, and Best Wishes, Stephanie.

Hiya Roxanne, Steph here. I Came-Out, as MtoF Transsexual, on 30th. April, 2015, and I Started Fully, Full-Time, Female-Dressing, and Living, on 1st. May, 2015, which included going-out in Public, Fully, Female-Dressed, for the First-Time, as well. I have to admit, that I was a little nervous, that first time. Now, however, being Fully, Full-Time, Female-Dressed, is Normal, for Me. I get on Buses, or Trains, wearing Pretty Tops, and Skirts, and Female Shoes. I Walk round the centre of London, when I go there, like it. I Am Proud to be "Out", as Transsexual, and I Am going the full route of Transitioning, with GRS, as well. Roxanne, I Hope that I Am of some encouragement, to You. Good Luck, Take Care, and Very Best Wishes, Stephanie.

Dear Roxanne, Generally good doctors make referrals to OTHER good doctors! They are like GOLD! Am so happy that you are forming a network of excellent doctors! Good doctors are well worth the wait! Rejoiced upon hearing about your mother and daughter outing! Your friend, Monica