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To start off I take a break every hour at work, walk down three stories, head outside for a few minutes then back to work. Although we have three elevators many uses the stairs and with that I pass several people that I don't know (we have over 1,000 employees). This one lady stopped me several weeks ago whom I have never spoken to before were the conversation was everyday stuff. This morning she stopped me again and at one point said she never said anything before to me when I was male was because I appeared unapproachable, distant and never smiled. She then said since I transitioned she noticed no male traits and that I am always the complete opposite from when I was male. In the conversation I told her about me being wrapped up in doing executive security and teach self-defense may very well have contributed to my demeanor coupled with being unhappy as a male. She told me that I was handsome as a male and pretty as a female. So I pulled out my current and former driver license. She stared at them and said "you know you look so much younger now" and I said I believe it's the hormones plus good genes. So I walked away from this I believe with a new friend who spoke frankly to me. While writing the above it reminded me of last Friday when I had a first time voice lesson. During the introduction she observed all feminine traits I had and actually pointed them all out which made me happy as I make no conscious effort to do so. I have to say my first impression after our hour was up was, she is perfect for me and there was so forward motion too. Now with that I can see where I want to be and there is indeed work ahead but she said compared to other trans clients I was doing much better than others but stressed in the beginning it will be mentally difficult working with the various aspects of "the voice".

Hiya Eve. I Am so glad that I Am Transitioning. Again, like You, I had always hated living life in the Wrong Gender. My Proper Life, My Female Life, has made Me so much Happier, and Contented. I have always Hated My " M " Part's. I have always wished that when I go to sleep at night, that I would wake up in the morning with Female Parts instead. I Know this Is The Gender Dysphoria. So I Know that I Am Definitely on the right track by Transitioning. So many people have told Me, that I have been far more approachable, since I started Transitioning, over 9 Month's ago, because I Am a Much Calmer, and Happier Person. Eve, I hope that thing's are going well for You. Have a Great Weekend. Good Health, Take Care, And My Very Best Wishes, Love Stephanie. xx

Looking unaproachable as a male has much resonance with myself, your first paragraph pretty much parallels my experience.............So glad I transitioned, it was such a relief, I hated myself, I just couldn't carry on living like that.

I like many others, some not even in the UK, face changes of responsibility, although in my case not of demotion. Public sector employment in the UK is being decimated by the Conservative (tory) government, they are giving public service jobs to their private contractor mates, so far my job hasn't been privatised, but the implication of privatisation is that I have less to look after, due to whole sections leaving local government employment, thus making the Council that I work for smaller. I'm just hanging on for my pension, which when it's large enough I'll retire. My partner also has very similar problems being a consultant paediatrician in the NHS, which isn't really National anymore, it's been so fragmented that the left hand doesn't know what the right hand's doing. The media is mostly anti EU and wants the UK to leave, the media is mostly pro tory, not much that is derogatory to right wing views and ideals gets published in the majority of the press or aired on the BBC. I have said before that the public are mostly sheep the press are the wolves who feed on the sheep and the tory politicians are the perverted shepherds who should be looking after the sheep. It's a really cosy relationship, a very subtle sort of corruption really. But there's a new dimension now with corporatism creeping - uh?, no, leaping in with Corporations pulling the strings of the idiot politician puppets, and it seems aided by the media. It's funny but I don't feel very free anymore, we used to pity the communist countries in Eastern Europe a few decades ago, thinking that they didn't have any freedom. To think that we have much freedom of speech, is quite laughable with a media so biased toward the new regime, who will take much notice of whatever I say whether or not it's on social media or printed in the fringe press? Don't think that I'm anti free-enterprise though, I'm all for it, but I'm very much against giving public services on a plate to private contractors. I want to leave the UK and live in Europe somewhere, and not be bothered with the antics of right wing idiots. Depressed, Eve

I agree with Karen. Your situation absolutely sucks but it would certainly suck more if you capitulate now (although they may not even be aware of it) and bow out before you get what you can out of them, which is your GRS and other care. At least then you can leave with your head held high. There may even also be a small chance that there will be more turnover. I found it odd that there is already been so much in such a short time. Don't count on it of course but who knows, patience and steady performance on your part may win the day on the career front as well. Another idea: where did the VP whom you liked go? Maybe somewhere that she'd like you to join her? Best wishes, Emma

Hiya Karen. It does indeed seem like You have made a New Friend at work. It also seems like You are already doing well with the voice lesson's. Karen, since I have known You here, which is well over half a year now, You have done so many positive thing's. Karen, Take a Long Hard Look at Yourself, in a Full-Length Mirror, and say to Yourself, I Am Very Proud Of Me. Because Karen, You Can Be Very Proud of Yourself. You are a Very Pretty, Beautiful, Young Lady, Who has done so well since G.R.S. You are a Very Lovely Lady, someone whom I Am Very Proud to Call A Friend, albeit through TGGuide. Karen, I hope You enjoy Your Car Club drive this Weekend. Take Care, and Mind How You Go. Karen, Speak Soon, And My Very Best Wishes, Love Stephanie. xx

Best thing to do is hang in there until after surgery if at all possible. There are (as I am sure you are aware of) many roadblocks, some very real like a brick wall while others are what you make of them.