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Hi there Steph and Emma Let me do this one person at a time. Steph you know where I've been working for close to 12 years and I've also developed a potty mouth. Never used it for potty training as it never needed it until about 10 years ago. And will do! Emma, its not just me having issues with him now, but almost everyone at work. So throwing him under the bus is easy, throwing him at a pack of hungry wolves without anything to protect him is a better option. But my humanity and all the struggles including being a rape survivor makes me think twice about doing it. Because not everyone is as resilient as me to bounce back. But then again, enough is enough of this man tormenting others. An example should probably be made of him, but if I do it, he will have an ugly stain on his name that will never be cleared again. So yes not only you have answers with more questions, I'm also in the same boat. So for me to begin a fight, I must be certain that the outcome he is facing is the only way forward. And then the recurring question in my mind is, will this change him for the better or is this just false hope we clinging too. Cheers for now Michele Xoxoxoxoxoxoxo

Hi there Ace Welcome here. Sometimes it seems like we bite, but actually not so much. The ladies are knowledgeable in fields that you wouldn't expect. Might not know the first thing about how a man acts or reacts to the world, but if I can give you the confidence I show I work, then you'll be in the world cup. Not cocky confidence, just confidence to know what you want and need to get to your end result. But sometimes I realize that the guys around me needs to feel in control, but some of them actually do scare me and in those instances I do show a lack of confidence for them to feel good about themselves. But step on too many toes and up goes confidence, We love to laugh, but some days you will see that even if you have all the answers, crying is the only option to continue. Find the friends in all arenas and learn to vent. You are male after all, so gym and weight training might work for you. Cheers, will check out some of your pictures now. Michele

Thanks Christie!

Ace, Welcome to TGGuide! I'm in the NYC area, so not too close, but same state in case you ever travel this way :-) In the meantime, this site is a great place to share thoughts, get insights and generally just vent if you need! Xoxo Chrissy

Thanks Monica. I have met some friends online and in personI tried a group but only once ... Thanks for the advice. Greatly appreciated, Ace

So i had this epiphany last night... now keep in mind i have tried to convince myself for years i was male ... which led me to often date straight women. Which meant they expected me to be a male. That didnt work out in the long run. So today i set up an account on some silly dating site that all my coworkers and friends recommend and gotta take some snazzy pictures which also means I'll put some up here. However I can actually start dating women as a woman. Might as well give it a shot. I gotta say it will be kinda exciting and fun to get to really be myself instead of trying to fit into a box i don't belong in. I can get cuddled instead of cuddling. I can be a kinda submissive girl and not have to be trying to use male power and act like i have in the past. Sure some people may not be into me and it might take a while to find some one ... but i bet the relationship will be much healthier cause they will actually like me for me. Here goes nothing.

luna, you seem such a kindred spirit.... my male and female parts or aspects are both attracted to women rather than men, especially women at least a little androgynous. the traditional gender roles or rules of dating are occasionally a barrier or problem, but they can also be an early/quick screening device to know if someone is not a good match. I would be really interested in hearing about how it goes dating women as a female and if you openly reveal your transgender status in your profile - no judgment there, just curiosity about how your presentation plays out in your responses from other women. I also love when women initiate things, such as getting together, cuddling, and more. it's wonderful that you are taking a further step in exploring your femaleness and need for relationships with you as you true self.